Guest guest Posted November 15, 2000 Report Share Posted November 15, 2000 Hi Bonner; Thanks for YOUR supportive caring, it means a lot to me. You're right, this board is about my primary outreach. Peace and Light, ' in FL Re: St. 's Wort > , obviously iel is a REAL challenge for you right now. You NEED > to get some help managing iel's condition and your stress levels to > keep your Graves' disease under control. I hope you're taking good care of > yourself nutrionally, medically and psychologically. You can't help > iel if you don't have the necessary reserves. St. 's Wort > certainly isn't the answer for everyone, but have you investigated > prescribed medication? You've found a link for support, I hope you'll > continue to stay in touch. > > - Bonner > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2009 Report Share Posted June 4, 2009 Have you tried picture charts? Have pictures of what steps need to be done, in order, taped to the wall of the bathroom/bedroom? And build in rewards for completion. I haven't tried this yet as my son still needs to master the steps himself, but I likely will use them at some point to keep him on-track. TJ > > Oh wow, I'm happy to see the comments about self-care. For years I have despaired that I have to supervise everything my son does so it will get done! He's 10 years old now and I still have to give him step by step instructions for everything, then make sure he actually does it. > If I don't actually put his toothbrush in his hand he will forget to brush. Same with hairbrush. For years I have blamed myself thinking I just haven't done things right with him. If I give him the instructions then go off to get ready to go out the door myself, he will still just be sitting there when I come back. I keep thinking this will improve as he gets older, but I've been thinking that for years!! Patty > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2009 Report Share Posted June 4, 2009 Self-care seemed to be what my son (now 20) lacked too. Don't want to say " immature " , maybe " age appropriate " ? In middle school I was still having to start the shower for him to get the water temp right for instance, having to read him the instructions (or just do it myself) to microwave something, fixing a sandwich was awkward for him.... > > Oh wow, I'm happy to see the comments about self-care. For years I have despaired that I have to supervise everything my son does so it will get done! He's 10 years old now and I still have to give him step by step instructions for everything, then make sure he actually does it. > If I don't actually put his toothbrush in his hand he will forget to brush. Same with hairbrush. For years I have blamed myself thinking I just haven't done things right with him. If I give him the instructions then go off to get ready to go out the door myself, he will still just be sitting there when I come back. I keep thinking this will improve as he gets older, but I've been thinking that for years!! Patty > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2009 Report Share Posted June 6, 2009 It isn't you, Patty. Self care skills are often delayed in our kids. One thing you might try to do is put together a written schedule so you wouldn't have to stand there giving him step-by-step instructions. You can write them down, make a "bedtime checklist" or similar and then you can ask, "Did you do your checklist?" and hopefully, he has followed through. Some kids might require more supervision but you can try. One thing I also do is try to get them to think things through. Today we got ready to run out but I was the only one dressed and ready to go. So my ds said, "Are we going?" and I said, "Yes, but I am the only one wearing shoes." So he realizes, "ah, I need shoes." lol. I just have learned to allow some extra time when possible for these things. Roxanna Autism Happens ( ) Self-care Oh wow, I'm happy to see the comments about self-care. For years I have despaired that I have to supervise everything my son does so it will get done! He's 10 years old now and I still have to give him step by step instructions for everything, then make sure he actually does it. If I don't actually put his toothbrush in his hand he will forget to brush. Same with hairbrush. For years I have blamed myself thinking I just haven't done things right with him. If I give him the instructions then go off to get ready to go out the door myself, he will still just be sitting there when I come back. I keep thinking this will improve as he gets older, but I've been thinking that for years!! Patty Wanna slim down for summer? Go to America Takes it Off to learn how. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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