Re: Son's grade 7 school project

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Roxanna

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( ) Son's grade 7 school project

Our son hands in a project today for grade 7:

Originally, the task was to construct a bridge out of toothpicks. The size was to be a maximum of over 2 ruler lengths and it needed to be able to sustain a certain weight. The more we thought about this, the more challenging we perceived this to be for a child with a fine motor tremor and delay... We even attempted a trial run with us, adults, seeing how this might come together. ly, it would be difficult for us, if not outright impossible for our son.

We spoke with the teacher and offered a truthful stance. We can, of course, help son with the whole project and do it without accomodation, but will HE really take anything from this? Instead, we offered to utilize popsicle sticks as an alternative construction material. Son, still needed a wee bit of guidance, but actually did the project on his own. Just wish him luck, please, that he will not be penalized nor belittled for creating a bit differently from classmates, please & thanks.

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From: Roxanna <MadIdeas@...>Subject: Re: ( ) Son's grade 7 school project Date: Monday, May 4, 2009, 5:15 PM

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RoxannaAutism Happens

( ) Son's grade 7 school project

Our son hands in a project today for grade 7:Originally, the task was to construct a bridge out of toothpicks. The size was to be a maximum of over 2 ruler lengths and it needed to be able to sustain a certain weight. The more we thought about this, the more challenging we perceived this to be for a child with a fine motor tremor and delay... We even attempted a trial run with us, adults, seeing how this might come together. ly, it would be difficult for us, if not outright impossible for our son.We spoke with the teacher and offered a truthful stance. We can, of course, help son with the whole project and do it without accomodation, but will HE really take anything from this? Instead, we offered to utilize popsicle sticks as an alternative construction material. Son, still needed a wee bit of guidance, but actually did the project on his own. Just wish him luck, please, that he will not be penalized nor belittled for creating a

bit differently from classmates, please & thanks. : )

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Thanks Rose, absolutely... That's what I was wondering too: How many

neurotypical kiddos did the project on their own without parental input? ; )

(We also mentioned that to our son too so that he would feel better about his

ability. He did it on his own.) : )

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>   Hi,

> I admire you for wanting your son to accomplish this himself and not have you

do it for him.  It's amazing how many parents do projects for their children

(and aren't on the spectrum) yet you can tell that an adult with a good

imagination and creative hands did it for them.  it amazes me that they still

get 100% for something they didn't do.

> I wish your son the best with his project.  What if you were to send a quick

e-mail to the teacher reminding the teacher of your son's fine motor tremor and

also include that your son did his project completely by himself.  it was his

work.... you as his parent could still praise him for trying.  that's what I do.

> good luck

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> From: tdhssp <johnvel@...>

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> Sent: Monday, May 4, 2009 3:20:40 PM

> Subject: ( ) Son's grade 7 school project

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> Our son hands in a project today for grade 7:

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> Originally, the task was to construct a bridge out of toothpicks. The size was

to be a maximum of over 2 ruler lengths and it needed to be able to sustain a

certain weight. The more we thought about this, the more challenging we

perceived this to be for a child with a fine motor tremor and delay... We even

attempted a trial run with us, adults, seeing how this might come together.

ly, it would be difficult for us, if not outright impossible for our son.

>

> We spoke with the teacher and offered a truthful stance. We can, of course,

help son with the whole project and do it without accomodation, but will HE

really take anything from this? Instead, we offered to utilize popsicle sticks

as an alternative construction material. Son, still needed a wee bit of

guidance, but actually did the project on his own. Just wish him luck, please,

that he will not be penalized nor belittled for creating a bit differently from

classmates, please & thanks.

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> : )

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I enjoyed reading your post and love your parenting skills!. I would of done the same...

I wish him the best with his mark... I hope the teacher grades him as an individual and not

compared to his class.

best luck...

From: tdhssp <johnvel@...> Sent: Tuesday, May 5, 2009 4:06:42 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Son's grade 7 school project

Thanks Rose, absolutely.. . That's what I was wondering too: How many neurotypical kiddos did the project on their own without parental input? ; )(We also mentioned that to our son too so that he would feel better about his ability. He did it on his own.) : )>> Hi,> I admire you for wanting your son to accomplish this himself and not have you do it for him. It's amazing how many parents do projects for their children (and aren't on the spectrum) yet you can tell that an adult with a good imagination and creative hands did it for them. it amazes me that they still get 100% for something they didn't do.> I wish your son the best with his project. What if

you were to send a quick e-mail to the teacher reminding the teacher of your son's fine motor tremor and also include that your son did his project completely by himself. it was his work.... you as his parent could still praise him for trying. that's what I do.> good luck> > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ __> From: tdhssp <johnvel@... >> > Sent: Monday, May 4, 2009 3:20:40 PM> Subject: ( ) Son's grade 7 school project> > > > > > Our son hands in a project today for grade 7:> > Originally, the task was to construct a bridge out of toothpicks. The size was to be a maximum of over 2 ruler

lengths and it needed to be able to sustain a certain weight. The more we thought about this, the more challenging we perceived this to be for a child with a fine motor tremor and delay... We even attempted a trial run with us, adults, seeing how this might come together. ly, it would be difficult for us, if not outright impossible for our son.> > We spoke with the teacher and offered a truthful stance. We can, of course, help son with the whole project and do it without accomodation, but will HE really take anything from this? Instead, we offered to utilize popsicle sticks as an alternative construction material. Son, still needed a wee bit of guidance, but actually did the project on his own. Just wish him luck, please, that he will not be penalized nor belittled for creating a bit differently from classmates, please & thanks. > > : )>