Help! I need dh to understand what the future may hold

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My daughter who is almost 6 has AS. Like SO many of us, my husband doesn't see

what the big deal is and thinks she will outgrow these troublesome behaviors and

problems in school.

My question is for those of you with older children: What kinds of struggles

has your child gone through regarding learning and social issues as he or she

goes up in grades? I need for him to understand that I'm not bringing on these

behaviors in her by 'dragging her to all kinds of appointments trying to find

out what is wrong with her' as he puts it.

I want answers as to what services will help her NOW so we can possibly avoid a

tougher future. He thinks that by involving the school, I will be putting

negative attention on her, and they will automatically treat her differently,

causing her to feel even worse.

I'd like to avoid having her self esteem take any more of a beating that it

naturally will. I know she needs help, and it would be a HUGE help if my husband

was on my side! I'm hoping that maybe your stories (assuming your kids weren't

diagnosed as early) will help him realize that by being proactive, we may be

able to avoid some of the heartache she is likely to go through... either that,

or we can be prepared to help her when she gets to those stages.

Thanks to all of you in advance for your replies. Your experiences are

invaluable to me!