Re: School Crisis: Help !!to Ruth

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No Ruth...I am talking about my student....I don't contact the parents because it would make it WORSE for him.....and I guess you didn't understand me...I worry about my student and have reported things.....they get angry and discipline if he gets a C. Do you understand???? He comes to school even when he is sick .....now what child would do that and he won't go to the nurse becuase he is afriad they will call his parents and send him home. Hmmmmm? Makes ya think twice ...doesn't it?

Hope you get what I am saying...so no...I don't report things to the parents ...I don't want homelife to be any tougher than they are on him.

jan

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: r_woman2 <me2ruth@...>Subject: Re: ( ) School Crisis: Help !! Date: Tuesday, April 28, 2009, 7:56 PM

>> Ruth,� > �> No, I didn't contact the step-mom...she wanted him to serve time...family life is not the greatest!!! So, I don't call ...I don't want to make things harder on my student...if you know what I am trying to say....sad but true.Jan, you wouldn't make things harder, you would make them better because the parents would be more informed and would know there was someone at school doing nice things for their daughter. If you are not contacting the parent directly, that means you are taking the word of school administrators/ teachers- -you should know from this list that that is not necessarily reliable. I know they say all kinds of things at my

child's school about me that aren't true. And I can't get any of the teachers to talk to me--I'm sure for similar reasons as to what you are feeling. So, they will never get to know me and never know that all the gossip is not true. It is sad when parents have to wait until observations from the autism team or whatever to find out what is going on at school with their child.I guess I'm just venting though... Just my two cents, I guess.Ruth

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> Hope you get what I am saying...so no...I don't report things to the parents

....I don't want homelife to be any tougher than they are on him.

Yes, I see now. Don't blame you--I would probably be the same way. Just have

to make sure you aren't just going on rumors the way people so often do.

It's a shame people can't just talk. I assume since my son's teachers won't

talk to me unless forced at gunpoint and even then say very little that they

think something similar of me, except in my case it is not true. So, you can

see why I wonder when I hear such things. I made the mistake last year of

trying to share what my son's outbursts were like in an effort to get his

teachers/admin to understand how school was affecting him. They assumed since

he doesn't show this at school that I must be " the problem " . They came as close

as they could come to calling me an abusive parent as they could come without

using the actual words. Silly me, I keep forgetting I'm supposed to be an

abusive parent and keep trying to talk to them. I can't decide whether being an

abusive parent is worse than just being a very stupid one...

Ruth