hello - intro

[Guest guest]

Well I have tried to interject into conversation, and either you all

are just used to each other or just are unsure about my qualifications

as a parent with a child in the spectrum. I am not used to be totally

ignored as I have been dealing with these issues for almost 15 years

and have learned a thing or two, dealt with 3 different diagnoses and

many doctors over the years. I also have a lot to learn from others

about how they deal with their teens and the school system, puberty

and dating perhaps that may come at some point. I was hoping to join

the group to help and to learn but so far it has been less than welcoming.

I have 3 children, one with severe attention deficit hyperactivty

disorder (20yr and on her own), 16 yo dd who had seizure disorder as a

younger child but seems to have outgrown it but has an EH label at

school, an IEP and a learning/comprehension issue. She however is

doing wonderful in 9th grade and so far is on the honor roll. My 14

yo ds is my AS and he is also in 9th grade, extremely bright, but the

school system has not been as kind to us with him. He is finally in a

regular school working toward a lesser restrictive environment

(shortened days) because he gets too stimulated and then over anxious

and then will start getting violent. We are working to avoid that at

all costs seeing that my boy is 6ft3in and 300# he tends to frighten

people when he tosses desks or start growling. I am one who can stand

up to him because I know he isn't going to hurt a person, but those

who don't know him, are unsure of the limits.

He doesn't write and that is our major struggle. He will do a short

answer writing assignment but anything longer than 2-3 sentences and

he is overwhelmed. His learned behavior has been that if I throw a

big enough stink, then I can get out of it. Well it isn't working

anymore because it is getting brought home via the teachers and they

are letting me fight it out with him and I tend to win.

Anyway, if I can help I am here. i will interject if I have something

to offer, otherwise I tend to just read. Tammy