Son's in college but doesn't go to class

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Hi, I'm a mom who's dumbfounded as to what to do or how to help our ds. He says he wants to go to college. He chose his classes which are just 2 this quarter but then he doesn't go to class. He go sometimes to the tutor. He has the depression to deal with and also avoidance issues but .... he goes off to class supposedly and when he comes home he acts and talks like he's been in class and everything is ok. Only when I contact the instructor do we find out he has not been in class and not always meeting with the tutor. When we talk we don't get answers that hellp. We go over and over the need to be honest with us.

I just wondered if anyone was dealing with similar difficulties with a son or daughter?

We're just about to tell him to forget college. Why put himself and us too through it if he's not willing to go.

Appreciate the time to share here. Thanks

Ginny