Hi new to group and son just diagnosed with Aspergers.....

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My son is 5 and just last month was dx with Aspergers I am so lost. With what

to do now. He is in special ed preschool. My husband is in total denial that

anything is wrong with him and just thinks that he is stubborn. He also has

sensory issues. We have several behavior problems and social issues. And he

doesn't do well in crowded places. Can anyone give me any good websites to

visit and such. I am currently readin Temple's book Thinking in picutes cuz

everyone talks so highly of her.

Confused mom..Lynette

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{{{{HUGS}}}}}

I'm fairly new here myself; my son was dx'ex in January. He will be 4 in July.

But there are many others who have great experiences to share.

There was recently a thread that turned into 'clueless' husbands, or something

to that effect, lol. Look up my post #133579 for that.

Here's also what I recently posted back to when she joined:

I had (still have somewhat) this problem with my husband. It delayed megetting

my son dx'ed and treated for almost a year. I really wish Ihadn't let him. But,

what finally started working is to spoon-feed himsmall amounts of info. My

husband only new about autism from the movie'Rain Man', so that's where his

perspective was coming from. It tooksome time and slow education, like pointing

out something my son didthat really frustrated him and being able to tell him

that was anexample of an AS behavior I had just read about in the book I

wasreading.. My DH did not/has not taken it upon himself to learn more, itall

has to come through me. He first agreed that there was 'something'wrong with

, then moved on to accepting that needed help with'some' things. He

finally accepted the HFA dx after meeting with theschool and listening to the

psychologist at the IEP meeting. I had toset that up all myself, take off of

work to drive everywhere heneeded to be, the evals, the meetings...Point

is, do what you feel youneed to do, and don't let your DH stop you. It is often

this way, wherethe mommy has to do all the work. Find out what your DH needs as

far aslearning/understanding what is going on. He may still be in a state

ofgrieving as well and is just not ready to come to terms. There are agreat many

books available - the Autism Sourcebook and Autism SpectrumDisorders talks a lot

about grieving/coping/healing. My DH would neversit down and actually read the

books, again, I had to spoon-feed him.They also helped me to understand more his

actions/non actions. I dothink that he still secretly thinks this is just

temporary, that our sonwill 'outgrow' it, so I'm working on that now...Hope this

helps.TJ

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> My son is 5 and just last month was dx with Aspergers I am so lost. With what

to do now. He is in special ed preschool. My husband is in total denial that

anything is wrong with him and just thinks that he is stubborn. He also has

sensory issues. We have several behavior problems and social issues. And he

doesn't do well in crowded places. Can anyone give me any good websites to

visit and such. I am currently readin Temple's book Thinking in picutes cuz

everyone talks so highly of her.

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> Confused mom..Lynette

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