Re: Help! I need dh to understand what the future--a bit of a rant about school

[Guest guest]

the school's supporting your daughter to keep her grades up is merely self

serving. in our city, individuals schools are judged on students grades and

test scores. grrr. don't get me started. at our awards assembly they spend

more than 1/2 the time giving out awards for perfect attendance--award for one

quarter for perfect attendance, award for 2 quarters perfect attendance and so

on to all 4 quarters....culminating into a drawing with much pomp and

circumstance where two winners receive a shiney new bicycle. our schools

receive funds based on attendance---talk about self serving.

i don't mean to imply perfect attendance is a bad thing or not worthy, it is

just at our school, they have gone over the top while devoting much less time &

effort to other award catagories.

it is too bad the schools weren't held accountable for the helping kids learn to

get along in kind and respectful ways. instead of victims having to learn how

to live with all sorts of people, why not pull the bullies out of class for

daily " respect therapy " .

sorry, just struck a nerve.

regards, melody

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> > My daughter who is almost 6 has AS. Like SO many of us, my husband doesn't

see what the big deal is and thinks she will outgrow these troublesome behaviors

and problems in school.

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> > My question is for those of you with older children: What kinds of

struggles has your child gone through regarding learning and social issues as he

or she goes up in grades? I need for him to understand that I'm not bringing on

these behaviors in her by 'dragging her to all kinds of appointments trying to

find out what is wrong with her' as he puts it.

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> > I want answers as to what services will help her NOW so we can possibly

avoid a tougher future. He thinks that by involving the school, I will be

putting negative attention on her, and they will automatically treat her

differently, causing her to feel even worse.

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> > I'd like to avoid having her self esteem take any more of a beating that it

naturally will. I know she needs help, and it would be a HUGE help if my husband

was on my side! I'm hoping that maybe your stories (assuming your kids weren't

diagnosed as early) will help him realize that by being proactive, we may be

able to avoid some of the heartache she is likely to go through... either that,

or we can be prepared to help her when she gets to those stages.

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> > Thanks to all of you in advance for your replies. Your experiences are

invaluable to me!

> >

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[Guest guest]

pam-

go to bia.org. it is my understanding that they provide the services you are

looking for, i just don't know if there is one in your area. i am trying to

obtain these services but it is vendored thru our central valley regional center

or private pay (expensive). since megan gets good grades the cvrc tells me she

will not qualify for their assitance--i will reapply but first need to figure

out what they need to read to make megan qualify. i am trying to go from all

angles to get this paid for--reapply thru crvc, ask the school district, ask

insurance company, and finally, take out a loan. they have told me that they

have social skills group and will match my daughter with an age appropriate NT

girl and so my daughter will learn during play and other outings. goals will be

set and reports will be given. over and above that, they will come into my home

to determine megan's needs and then the behaviourist will either do or teach me

what to do to re-enforce what needs to be done. they also hold ongoing

workshops. i hope you can find something like this in your area. btw, they use

michelle's winners social thinking approach.

warmest regards, melody

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> > > > My daughter who is almost 6 has AS. Like SO many of us, my husband

doesn't see what the big deal is and thinks she will outgrow these troublesome

behaviors and problems in school.

> > > >

> > > > My question is for those of you with older children: What kinds of

struggles has your child gone through regarding learning and social issues as he

or she goes up in grades? I need for him to understand that I'm not bringing on

these behaviors in her by 'dragging her to all kinds of appointments trying to

find out what is wrong with her' as he puts it.

> > > >

> > > > I want answers as to what services will help her NOW so we can possibly

avoid a tougher future. He thinks that by involving the school, I will be

putting negative attention on her, and they will automatically treat her

differently, causing her to feel even worse.

> > > >

> > > > I'd like to avoid having her self esteem take any more of a beating that

it naturally will. I know she needs help, and it would be a HUGE help if my

husband was on my side! I'm hoping that maybe your stories (assuming your kids

weren't diagnosed as early) will help him realize that by being proactive, we

may be able to avoid some of the heartache she is likely to go through... either

that, or we can be prepared to help her when she gets to those stages.

> > > >

> > > > Thanks to all of you in advance for your replies. Your experiences are

invaluable to me!

> > > >

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