looking for hints for a (yikes) drop off play/movie date

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hi all -- I have an 8 year old aspie and a 6 year old nt -- both boys. Well, dh

came home from work today and was all happy -- telling me his friend (who has a

boy, 11, and a girl 6) wants to invite our boys over for a night of star wars

movies --tomorrow night. My first reaction was -- no way--but my husband is all

" he is 8 -- it is time--it's no big deal " My sons basic problems are meltdowns,

misperceiving why people do what they do (I know,I knoe that is basic

aspergers), refusing to stop a behaviour when told to " STOP! " , and just plain

old being nice to someone one minute and downright jerky to them the next. The

wife is nice but the husband.....means well but is a spanker -- he actually

told my jusband when my husband was explaining about our son : " why don't you

just spank him? " I am going to let them go but I am just sick over it -- I feel

he is old enough and I should start letting things like this happen and I don't

want to be overprotective.....but what should I do to prepare me and him for

tomorrow night? Sorry for the rambling and incoherence -- I am a bit

stressed.....any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

Melody