How to deal with disrespect?

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Ok guys… I’m at my wits end. My youngest does NOT deal well with

not having things go exactly his way. He blows up all the time. Problem is, 99%

of the time, when he does, it’s angry lashing out at us, and apparent “disrespectâ€.

He will stick his tongue out at us, he will make faces at us, if

I calmly tell him that maybe he should take a few minutes, or even take him to

his “quiet place†without the chit chat, he will yell “FINE†in the rudest

possible voice and stomp. Often, when I try to talk to him about it after the

fact, he doesn’t want to listen.

This is COMPLETELY different from my eldest, who has never been

QUITE so disrespectful. Certainly not with me.

While I know they are reacting, I still have NO idea how to go

about curbing this. I also know that my youngest is only 5, and therefore has

yet to “Grow out†of any of these types of reactions… but do I just ignore

that? Do I wait until he’s older and more “mature� Better able to hand the

reasoning behind why he can’t do that?

My eldest, being almost 9, is starting to understand the

conversations when we talk about – despite knowing he’s not TRYING to be rude,

him doing and saying certain things is going to be taken as rude by other

people. And I see him making an effort to change that, even when he doesn’t

understand why he should.

My husbands thing is teaching our kids to always answer us with “yes

mom†or “yes dad†even if they don’t understand or agree… but I’m not sure that’s

“enoughâ€.

This tends to drive a wedge between my husband and I, which isn’t

helping

Any advice on how to approach this would be great. Thanks ladies…

I’m at the end of my rope here

=)