Guest guest Posted May 9, 2000 Report Share Posted May 9, 2000 It didn't sound short to me, just to the point. He does have a therapist help him socialize on Wednesday's (while I'm in a Bible study class plays with the kids with her help). Loriann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2000 Report Share Posted May 9, 2000 Judy, That's a side I hadn't considered, about the tattler liking to do that so the child gives them something to tattle on.....I'll definitely keep that in mind. Loriann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2000 Report Share Posted May 9, 2000 In a message dated 5/9/100 6:18:19 PM EST, hsmyangel@... writes: << Has anyone else experienced this? Is it just because he didn't know how to handle his excitement of having a visitor? >> Hi Loriann, I've seen this in my home too. I think it is the excitement of playing with the other child. My son will react to however the other child chooses to respond. If my grandkids become very responsive, my son becomes very active and I find him doing things he very well knows better than to do. I've seen the kids do things so the tattler can tattle because they thought that's what the tattler likes to do. Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2000 Report Share Posted May 9, 2000 In a message dated 05/09/2000 6:58:54 PM Central Daylight Time, jmedlen@... writes: << I " m really really frustrated with something that is going on at school right now and trying not to order some nuclear warheads. >> Hey, maybe weaponry wouldn't be such a bad idea!! ;-) Seriously, hope this situation straightens out soon. I'm rooting for you and Andy, Maureen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2000 Report Share Posted May 9, 2000 Maybe he's just confused and doesn't know how to share? Maybe he doesn't like her trying to play too? Think autism....new people are an intrusion. PEOPLE are intrusions. So he tried to block her participation by eliminating the toys. Perhaps try to do something really fun looking with her and ask DAvid to join....let him be the one who joins in rather than her pursuing him. It's safer to join in than it is to have someone come into your space before you're willing to have them. Just a thought. Sorry if this sounds terse or " short. " I " m really really frustrated with something that is going on at school right now and trying not to order some nuclear warheads. j Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2000 Report Share Posted May 10, 2000 geez joan, sounds like school is yucky if your about to order warheads, let me know.....my dh works on army post..hehe i am going to his office tomorrow to use fax and phone for fundraiser....want me to hook you up....take care, elah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2001 Report Share Posted June 11, 2001 HI : School may not always be a " good " place, I certainly know that as my oldest son was shot at school. However it is what is generally available as a microcosm of society. It is the main place where our kids can socialize with their peers for the good and the bad that goes along with that. Until we send our anxious kids to school and demand that the school respond to their needs, there will be no change. I have found that the local school system here is so busy handling students with disruptive behavior disorders that they have not moved very far yet to accommodate anxious kids. We need to keep up the pressure as anxiety disorders are very common in children according to the Surgeon General's recent report on mental health. Good luck to our anxious kids and especially for those like mine, who have a mom with an anxiety disorder who works hard at modelling risk taking behavior. Take care, aloha, Kathy (h) kathyh@... At 12:32 PM 06/09/2001 -0500, you wrote: >Just felt the need to comment on this: > > " I do think that socialization is important and school is a good place >to achieve that. This might be particularly important for your child >with social anxiety. " > >Please remember that school is often NOT a good place to achieve >socialization. Sometimes it is impossible to " achieve socialization " at >school. > >Thanks, > in Tx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2001 Report Share Posted June 14, 2001 Hi Lydia, did I read your post correctly, that you spend hours in the car each Monday and Friday while your daughter attends school? If so, I can only imagine how much you would like to reduce this compulsion of your daughter's so you could use the time she's in classes for your own needs. Unfortunately, instead of helping your daughter cope with OCD, staying in the parking lot while she's in school only strengthens her obsession that she'll get sick and die if you don't. OCD is bossing you both about this. This compulsion like any other can be reduced and eliminated through ERP. Does your daughter's therapist plan to address this one before the start of the next school year? Kathy R. in Indiana ----- Original Message ----- From: " Lydia Tillinghast " <dlatill@...> >mostly outgoing but can be frightened sometimes. We live in San Diego, California. She goes to school Monday and Fridays for a few hours a week. I sit out in the car and wait for her because she can't be away from me because she is afraid that she will get sick and die. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2001 Report Share Posted June 21, 2001 Kathy We are working on lower levels of her compulsions. This has been an on and off going type of obsession for years. Sometimes she can be off on her own and then not. We do exposures every day to get to the point where she will be able to be more on her own. Today we saw her therapist and discussed changing her medication because it doesn't seem strong enough to address the higher level obsessions. He feels that she has some form of depression besides ADHD and OCD. We see her medication doctor next week. She admitted herself that she is getting tired of being around me all the time. Dr. Hatton said that might help motivate her more to work harder on her exposures. Hopefully the med doctor will prescribe something to work on all 3 issues. She has been on 50 mg of Celexa for about 3 months. Her anxiety level has been lowered but she can't seem to make headway. Her anxiety has increased since her father went out of town for 10 days. He will be home soon. She had one of those meltdowns when he tried to leave for the airport. After he left and had been gone for about 15 minutes she got better. That type of behavior is her biggest issue at this time. Seperation anxiety is what I tell people that she has so that they have some kind of understanding. I have tried to explain ocd but it seems like it is too hard for most people to comprehend. I have a girlfriend with ocd that I can talk to about ocd and of course she completely understands. So bottom line we are working on regaining our freedom from each other. It is taking longer that I thought. School is not an issue. She is in a special charter school that allows her to take one subject at a time. She has four weeks to complete all assignments. She is bright and has no problem completing her work. She seems to like this set up. It has reduced a lot\ of stress of multi classes. It is also a year round school so she can keep up or even graduate early if she chooses. Lydia in San Diego Kathy wrote: > Hi Lydia, did I read your post correctly, that you spend hours in the car > each Monday and Friday while your daughter attends school? If so, I can > only imagine how much you would like to reduce this compulsion of your > daughter's so you could use the time she's in classes for your own needs. > Unfortunately, instead of helping your daughter cope with OCD, staying in > the parking lot while she's in school only strengthens her obsession that > she'll get sick and die if you don't. OCD is bossing you both about this. > > This compulsion like any other can be reduced and eliminated through ERP. > Does your daughter's therapist plan to address this one before the start of > the next school year? > > Kathy R. in Indiana > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: " Lydia Tillinghast " <dlatill@...> > > >mostly outgoing but can be frightened sometimes. We live in San Diego, > California. She goes to school Monday and Fridays for a few hours a week. > I sit out in the car and wait for her because she can't be away from me > because she is afraid that she will get sick and die. > > You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing listserv@... . In the body of your message write: subscribe OCD-L your name. You may subscribe to the Parents of Adults with OCD List at parentsofadultswithOCD-subscribe . You may subscribe to the OCD and Homeschooling List at ocdandhomeschooling-subscribe . You may change your subscription format or access the files, bookmarks, and archives for our list at . Our list advisors are Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Kathy Hammes, Jule Monnens, Gail Pesses, Kathy , and Jackie Stout. Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at lharkins@... . > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2001 Report Share Posted June 22, 2001 Hi Lydia, it sounds as though both of you are working in the right direction to reduce your daughter's compulsions around you needing to be near to insure her safety. Only with OCD in the picture would a mom be happy to hear her daughter say she's tired of being around her all the time! :-) > Seperation anxiety is what I tell people that she > has so that they have some kind of understanding. I have tried to explain ocd but it seems > like it is too hard for most people to comprehend. I too got frustrated trying to explain OCD and my explainations didn't seem to benefit Kellen anyway. So I also started telling others (camp counselors, swim teachers, friend's parents) that Kel tends to worry about such-and-such or get upset if this or that happens--describing behavior they may see rather than her diagnosis. I am very jealous that your daughter sees Dr. Hatton! She's a very lucky girl :-) Kathy R. in Indiana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2010 Report Share Posted April 16, 2010 Hey all, Just wanted to tell you about a great socialization technique we stumbled on completely by accident. We got a Wii (video game set up) for Christmas. To make it more fun for the kids, we built Miis (people you can make to add interest to the game. Since the kids were there, we build friends of theirs from school, teachers, neighbors, etc. We have noticed out 7yr. asd guy, since he sees those people all the time in the Wii games he plays, has become much more social and interacts with them sooo much more with greetings, smiles and even hugs when appropriate. We think this is just another type of video modeling. It's made a huge difference. We just wanted to share. nancy j Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2010 Report Share Posted April 17, 2010 Oh my goodness! What a great idea! My kids love making the miis and we've had friends from the neighborhood make them too...I bet my son would love it if we put some of his classmates and teachers in there! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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