Defeated!

[Guest guest]

I come home from a week away with my husband. A break all of us need to keep

sane and married. My husband's mom watched our kids. My oldest is autistic and

on the diet. I planned, cooked, prepared and ordered his food so it would be a

no brainer for her. His bowel movement was horrible this morning. I ask her what

he ate and she said she took him to Mcs. She let him have the fries.

AHHHHHHHHH!

I'm so made, so hurt that she doesn't trust that all the research I've done on

diet, the money we spend on his food. The effort I put out to help my son and it

is all in vain when she lets it all go to the wind. I'm broken because she spent

the last week watching them so I feel I don't even know how to approach her or

let he know how upset I am. My husband was furious, too. He is the quiet on and

not good for telling his mom off.

I guess I'm not looking for any answers from you ladies just sympathy. Just

makes me want to throw my arms up and say, " I quit. "

[Guest guest]

i can feel your pain. truly. but it sounds like your your mum doesn't really

get it.  i mean, i am on the plan with my kid and sometimes i don't feel like i

get it. you will get your son back on track within a couple of days and try

somehow to let it go.

i saw this crazy short doumentary on ABC about this severely autistic kid who

has learnt to type at the age of 11 and it turns out she isn't mentally

retarded at all.... one of the things she says is that she wishes she could be

like the other kids. that she could be normal too. clearly he shouldn't have

eaten mcdonalds but maybe he wanted to be like his sibling and maybe he enjoyed

himself....

i am also going away in a couple of days for 4 nites with a girlfriend and i am

also panicking... but we have to let go sometimes. this is not an overnight

solution... it takes years everyone is telling me. sometimes we have to be able

to ride the hiccups and embrace them too. try not to ruin your week of

bliss with your husband over a few days of smelly bowel movement. it's not

worth it.

 

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From: W <yvonneweaver@...>

Sent: Sun, February 28, 2010 8:20:07 PM

Subject: Defeated!

 

I come home from a week away with my husband. A break all of us need to keep

sane and married. My husband's mom watched our kids. My oldest is autistic and

on the diet. I planned, cooked, prepared and ordered his food so it would be a

no brainer for her. His bowel movement was horrible this morning. I ask her what

he ate and she said she took him to Mcs. She let him have the fries.

AHHHHHHHHH!

I'm so made, so hurt that she doesn't trust that all the research I've done on

diet, the money we spend on his food. The effort I put out to help my son and it

is all in vain when she lets it all go to the wind. I'm broken because she spent

the last week watching them so I feel I don't even know how to approach her or

let he know how upset I am. My husband was furious, too. He is the quiet on and

not good for telling his mom off.

I guess I'm not looking for any answers from you ladies just sympathy. Just

makes me want to throw my arms up and say, " I quit. "

[Guest guest]

here's the video. it's pretty unbelievable

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a1uPf5O-on0 & feature=player_embedded

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From: W <yvonneweaver@...>

Sent: Sun, February 28, 2010 8:20:07 PM

Subject: Defeated!

 

I come home from a week away with my husband. A break all of us need to keep

sane and married. My husband's mom watched our kids. My oldest is autistic and

on the diet. I planned, cooked, prepared and ordered his food so it would be a

no brainer for her. His bowel movement was horrible this morning. I ask her what

he ate and she said she took him to Mcs. She let him have the fries.

AHHHHHHHHH!

I'm so made, so hurt that she doesn't trust that all the research I've done on

diet, the money we spend on his food. The effort I put out to help my son and it

is all in vain when she lets it all go to the wind. I'm broken because she spent

the last week watching them so I feel I don't even know how to approach her or

let he know how upset I am. My husband was furious, too. He is the quiet on and

not good for telling his mom off.

I guess I'm not looking for any answers from you ladies just sympathy. Just

makes me want to throw my arms up and say, " I quit. "

[Guest guest]

So sorry you and your family had to deal with this. Have you or your husband

talked with her about this? Could it be that she didnt realize that the fries

have wheat? I know when we first started the diet my parents and inlaws were

supportive, but not really educated on just how pervasive wheat, dairy and soy

is in most foods. They ask before giving him anything processed if we're

around and we give the a list of banned foods when he stays with them.

If its not a matter of education or just an honest mistake, then I would be

cutting off grandmas access. I did that with my siblings for about a year.

They didnt buy into the diet and he had a few infractions. Talking to them

didnt do any good, so I cut them off. If they couldnt respect my position as

the parent and continued to harm my son, then we werent going to have anything

to do with them. It took a year, but they now understand that my son comes

first and if they cant respect my rules for him and respect me as a parent then

I wont have my son or the rest of my family around them.

Karla

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> I come home from a week away with my husband. A break all of us need to keep

sane and married. My husband's mom watched our kids. My oldest is autistic and

on the diet. I planned, cooked, prepared and ordered his food so it would be a

no brainer for her. His bowel movement was horrible this morning. I ask her what

he ate and she said she took him to Mcs. She let him have the fries.

AHHHHHHHHH!

> I'm so made, so hurt that she doesn't trust that all the research I've done

on diet, the money we spend on his food. The effort I put out to help my son and

it is all in vain when she lets it all go to the wind. I'm broken because she

spent the last week watching them so I feel I don't even know how to approach

her or let he know how upset I am. My husband was furious, too. He is the quiet

on and not good for telling his mom off.

> I guess I'm not looking for any answers from you ladies just sympathy. Just

makes me want to throw my arms up and say, " I quit. "

>

[Guest guest]

Older people just dont get it!!!!!!!! Tell her they hurt his belly and he is

just not himself after.Also say... please no junk food!I will tell you that

chuckie cheeses has baked fries the are good:)and last time I checked GF/CF

's sells gluten free burgers just get it with no bun and bring you own we

do the baked potatoes at wendys just bring your own butter. Hope this helps!! We

have no grandparents around just my pop who is not well!! Thank them and tell

them they did great but next time this needs more att. Deb K

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> I come home from a week away with my husband. A break all of us need to keep

sane and married. My husband's mom watched our kids. My oldest is autistic and

on the diet. I planned, cooked, prepared and ordered his food so it would be a

no brainer for her. His bowel movement was horrible this morning. I ask her what

he ate and she said she took him to Mcs. She let him have the fries.

AHHHHHHHHH!

> I'm so made, so hurt that she doesn't trust that all the research I've done

on diet, the money we spend on his food. The effort I put out to help my son and

it is all in vain when she lets it all go to the wind. I'm broken because she

spent the last week watching them so I feel I don't even know how to approach

her or let he know how upset I am. My husband was furious, too. He is the quiet

on and not good for telling his mom off.

> I guess I'm not looking for any answers from you ladies just sympathy. Just

makes me want to throw my arms up and say, " I quit. "

>