Re: need advice (emergency) with son's (SARA)

January 2, 2011

Sara, Thanks for responding. I just got back to a computer today to see

replies. It was my house that he acted out in and his dad's house that he has

been good. But, I too am wondering about the " held it in all day (or week!)

part, bc I have had that happen in the 5th grade. It built up for at least 3

days and he just exploded. Then, the school admitted everything that had been

happening. STill trying to put all these pieces together for this episode. Was

it too much stress that he couldn't just tell me about? Was it stress that

caused a seizure? WAs it a biomed/hormone imbalance? He came home today for a

few hours for a late Christmas with us and is now staying one more week with

dad. He was happy. I don't know if he remembers what he did or not. I didn't

want to try to ask. I could see things better that agrevated him today that I

couldn't see so clearly before. So we will work on those issues. Restructuring

his afternoons with caregiver and his school day. Also, hopefully, his

hippotherapy he will be able to get during the school hours instead of having to

keep it at 5:15 at night. Magnesium and B6 he is getting now may be helping.

Thank you,

April

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> > Is this a biomed correctable issue?

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> > I need to know what to do! He turned 13 in November. We do some biomeds

currently. He was gfcf for 4 years and cf for 8 years. And, he had chelated

several rounds in the past. He is as big as me now. I think I caused the

problem. I have been thinking about it for a week. His dad came to get him and

still has him. No outbursts of any kind according to him. My son was happy

reading a book outloud and he was acting it out. He has fun doing that. I

wanted him to help put together a Christmas package for all his cousins he was

going to see while visiting his dad. He came and looked at it then went back to

what he was doing. I tried two more times to get him to help me. For someone

who doesn't know him he would be considered nonverbal. He has a normal IQ. It

is easier to hit than to verbally tell someone something. He hit me in the arm.

I did the mommy lecture thing and he hit and shoved me. Then he was trying to

go after his little brother (almost 3). He is his favorite person in the world.

He loves him. For the longest time when he was happy he would pick his brother

up and put him over his head just playing. I would always panic and tell him to

put him down. I am guessing that what he is doing when he is mad at me is

trying to get back at me is to go after him brother. He has done that before

and he takes him to the couch and plops him down. But, he was so angry I knew

it was dangerous to let him near his brother so I blocked him. That made him

mad. We were actually really fighting eachother. I convinced him that his

grandparents were outside and that we needed to go outside and help them carry

stuff in. When I got him outside I shut the door on him so I could call for

help. He was thinking clearer than me, because I didn't lock the door bc of the

keypad lock we have, but he knows the code to get back in and used it. He does

not know the code to get out of the house which is why we have it. So, he gets

back in and I am keeping him away from his brother again. My parents are

hearing me yell for help on the cell phone. I convinced him in the middle of

all this physical fighting to go get a drink of water in the kitchen and I run

with his brother out the door and put his brother in the car in his carseat.

Now he is yelling at the door for me to let him out. I told him he was not calm

enough. I convinced him to lay the phone down and go get a shower. He does it.

I am able to open the door to grab the phone for help. I call my parents again.

I call his dad 2 hrs away. All are coming to help.

> > It took him much longer to calm down when I went in with my dad, but he was

not fighting me. My dad thought I should let his brother back in and I said I

could tell it still wasn't going to work. It didn't. He charged toward me to

take him from my arms. I take him back to the car. Go back in with me dad.

Convinced him to fix a pizza. He does it. We waited by watching tv and

snuggling. 15 minutes later he falls asleep. His dad gets there. We pack his

clothes and some toys. Dad wakes him up and asked him if he wanted to go with

him on Christmas break 2 days earlier. He said yes. Before he left he asked to

see his brother. My parents had already taken him to their house to spend the

night. My mom told me the next day that when she was on the phone with him

while brother and I were outside he sounded paniced and scared in the house by

himself.

> > He does not like anyone talking about getting hurt. You can't even tell him

Grandmommy is sick with a cold without him getting fearful. He is always

giving hugs and kisses to brother. We give hugs and I try to kiss him and he

usually pulls away, smiles and rubs it off. He is good at school. Sometimes he

yells at his male caregiver if he doesn't get his way. I think he was just so

mad at me for wanting him to help me and once he got mad he couldn't calm back

down.

> > He is comical. Loves Funniest Home Videos. the Tank and Disney

'Cars'. Loves to act out all the scenes from the books and movies. The problem

with that is all the crashes in the scenes.

> > His genetists thinks he may be having seizures now. Two weeks before he had

what appeared to be a migraine headache and the next day we got in trouble at

his therapy place. His brother took his shoes off and he insisted that he put

them back on. He won't stop. He is screaming at brother to put his shoes on.

Everyone is looking at us and holding there younger children. He picks him up

and runs with him to the other side of the waiting room and sits it a chair. He

was probably still screaming something. To nerve wracked to remember. 2

therapists come to get him. He is perfect in OT therapy and then we calmly and

happily drove to the horse stable for hippotherapy. Did perfect.

> > What is going on with him?

> > I had more typed to this last night and I lost the last of it, because the

computer keeps losing connection to the internet so I am going to send it as is.

I just learned though that too much protein can cause problems with aggression.

He does eat a lot of protein.

> > And info. anyone has to share I would appreciate.

> > Thank you,

> > April

> >

January 3, 2011

Hi April--

I've been away from my PC for a couple days, but Sac B. is Saccharomyces

boulardii and it is like a probiotic. For my son, it works very well on

bacteria. OLE is a capsule my son swallows. It's pretty stinky, so I don't know

how palatable it would be to mix. Both are available over the counter at

vitamin/health stores.

I personally think when kids get overstimulated over a holiday, it's due to

several things: they eat what they shouldn't (we caught my son sneaking

candy...I shouldn't even have had it in the house), they are out of routine (my

son thrives on predictable schedules), and they basically have too much fun

It was hard for me to accept that a boring, limited schedule is way better for

my son than a lot of family gatherings and parties. I felt like I was depriving

him, but in reality, when I made him go to " too much, " it was simply too much

for him to handle.

For my son, it's mostly a sensory thing. He gets out of routine, and his sensory

system simply gets overstimulated and takes a while to calm down. But he

definitely had more belly aches and headaches over the holidays, which I

attribute to not eating as healthy as he should.

Good luck getting back on track!

Sara

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> Sara, Thanks for responding. I just got back to a computer today to see