Guest guest Posted February 17, 2010 Report Share Posted February 17, 2010 Is there a point at which this happens? Does it ever happen. On the one hand I'm very glad not to be dealing with some of the really negative things that can go along with this age (12) and he is still really sweet and secretly loves some little kid things, but this morning when I was getting sick in the bathroom he decided to regale me on the statistics from past Olypmics by laying down on the floor and talking under the door. I guess I shoud be glad there weren't any fingers and that he talks. Why? I have no idea. I asked him about it and he interpreted as a privacy (like he might be able to see under the door) and sat up and kept going. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2010 Report Share Posted February 17, 2010 My son is definitely maturing. He's 13. He does have younger interests, but he is maturing. Have you ever walked through with him what it means when a door is closed? I realized a couple of years ago that I have to break things down, to the very detail sometimes, with Dylan. He's very bright and he can learn correct social responses, but it comes with reinforcements...over and over (and over!) again. Maybe if you explained that when a door is shut, you need to knock and if someone says "I need privacy right now" that means to wait for them to come to you. You could even suggest something he can do while you're in the restroom. This took awhile for my son to get, but eventually he got it and now he always knocks. I think sometimes, in the past, I wouldn't point things out like that b/c I've been socialized to assume people should know and if they aren't paying attention to cues like that, they are being rude/disrespectful/selfish. But once I realized I needed to specifically explain what is happening, what it means, and what he should do in the situation, things improved. Now he's learned quite a bit and I still have to teach him to some degree, but not nearly as much as I used to. "Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out." From: Becky <doodlebugboodles@...> Sent: Wed, February 17, 2010 1:11:09 PMSubject: ( ) Maturity Is there a point at which this happens? Does it ever happen. On the one hand I'm very glad not to be dealing with some of the really negative things that can go along with this age (12) and he is still really sweet and secretly loves some little kid things, but this morning when I was getting sick in the bathroom he decided to regale me on the statistics from past Olypmics by laying down on the floor and talking under the door. I guess I shoud be glad there weren't any fingers and that he talks.Why?I have no idea. I asked him about it and he interpreted as a privacy (like he might be able to see under the door) and sat up and kept going. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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