Re: How low are your expectations?

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Maybe there should be more accomodations as far as homework goes?? Maybe less homework or a tutor after school for a period of time. I don't have any children that age, but these are things that have been suggested in various forums.

Carolyn

From: KylieM <kyliemonty@...> Sent: Mon, January 31, 2011 2:47:40 PMSubject: ( ) How low are your expectations?

I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a bright kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he "hates' school, he seems happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in English, B's for the rest. We are over the moon. Has anyone else faced this? Do we settle for "not failing" as a good thing? Or shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion. He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be asking for more accommodations or resources.Kylie in CA

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Yes, I had that dilemma. I suggest that you put your child in special Ed, but make the teachers give your child REGULAR work. That's what I did and it worked. Again, make sure they don't try to give your child easy work because they will try it if you don't watch them. I hope this helps!

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( ) How low are your expectations?

I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.

My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a bright kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he "hates' school, he seems happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.

Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.

His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in English, B's for the rest. We are over the moon.

Has anyone else faced this? Do we settle for "not failing" as a good thing? Or shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?

His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion.

He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be asking for more accommodations or resources.

Kylie in CA

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OMG, I was just going to post sothing similar to this. My son is only is 3rd

gradez, but also has behavior issues. He has always had A'sN but he is

struggling to keep up. He has had many missing CLASSROOM assignments because

his pace is too slow for the classroom. I wasn't made aware this was going on

until the end of the semester when grade cards were coming out. I have a

problem with the fact I was not notified and had to find out myself. Apparently

he is having trouble staying focused....I have seen he is showing major ADD/ADHD

symptoms. I finally had enough of going around with this teacher and called

another case conference. I just don't know how far to push. He is ver capable

of straight A's...he also has an IQ around 120...do I just accept he is just not

going to keep up to speed with the classroom or push him to do so. It is so

frustrating because I cannot stay on top of him while he is at school and he

pretty much requires someone on him 24/7 to keep focused. He does not tolerate

meds well and we have tried it all! Trying the natural route now, but I know

the school has to be irritated with me!

Thanks!

>

> Maybe there should be more accomodations as far as homework goes??  Maybe

less

> homework or a tutor after school for a period of time.  I don't have any

> children that age, but these are things that have been suggested in various

> forums.

> Carolyn

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

> From: KylieM <kyliemonty@...>

>

> Sent: Mon, January 31, 2011 2:47:40 PM

> Subject: ( ) How low are your expectations?

>

>  

> I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.

>

> My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a bright

> kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he " hates' school, he seems

> happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.

>

> Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were

> awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.

>

> His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in English,

> B's for the rest. We are over the moon.

>

>

> Has anyone else faced this? Do we settle for " not failing " as a good thing? Or

> shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?

> His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion.

>

> He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be

> asking for more accommodations or resources.

>

> Kylie in CA

>

[Guest guest]

Does your son complete his homework and not turn it in? Or does he simply not do

it? Or maybe a combination of the two?

My son was receiving low grades in middle school because he kept forgetting to

turn in his completed homework. I worked with the school to develop a system (a

separate folder for completed hw and teacher reminders) to help him remember to

turn in his HW. The system helped and he used it throughout middle school. Plus

I also got the IEP accomodation that he could have extra time on HW assignments

if needed. This prevented the F's on HW when he forgot to turn it in. I made

sure that the teachers informed me if any HW assignments were missing.

If your son is not doing his HW then find out why. Is it too hard? Is there too

much? Is he at a loss of where to start? Is he a procrastanator? Does he need

study help?

Once you find out the answers then you can figure out if you need any IEP

accomodations.

If you think that your son is capable of doing the work to get better grades

(and it sounds like he is if it's only the homework aspect bringing him down)

then you should have higher expectations than " not failing " from both your son

and the school support for him.

My son is a sophomore and makes high honors. I still check with the teachers to

make sure that he has turned in his hw but maybe not as often as I used to when

he was younger.

Caroline

>

> I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.

>

> My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a bright

kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he " hates' school, he seems

happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.

>

> Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were

awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.

>

> His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in English,

B's for the rest. We are over the moon.

>

> Has anyone else faced this? Do we settle for " not failing " as a good thing? Or

shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?

> His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion.

>

> He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be

asking for more accommodations or resources.

>

> Kylie in CA

>

[Guest guest]

My advice is to ask for an accomodation for both HW and classroom work for your

son. My son had many difficulties with writing both mentally and physically so

had trouble completing many inclass assignments. In his IEP we have that he is

allowed extra time if needed and that the assignment can be modified if

necessary. He hasn't needed this accomodation for a long time but he did need it

quite often in elementary and middle school especially on writing assignments.

Your son may need a classroom with an aide so that there is an extra adult in

the room to help kids who need help (including those who need help to stay

focused). My son's elementary classes included an aide who helped anyone in

class who needed it. Her primary focus was those kids on IEP's but she would

help any one who needed it if she had time. This model worked wonderfully for my

son after a disastrous year in 1st grade with just 1 teacher and 25 kids.

Caroline

> >

> > Maybe there should be more accomodations as far as homework goes??  Maybe

less

> > homework or a tutor after school for a period of time.  I don't have any

> > children that age, but these are things that have been suggested in various

> > forums.

> > Carolyn

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ________________________________

> > From: KylieM <kyliemonty@>

> >

> > Sent: Mon, January 31, 2011 2:47:40 PM

> > Subject: ( ) How low are your expectations?

> >

> >  

> > I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.

> >

> > My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a

bright

> > kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he " hates' school, he seems

> > happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.

> >

> > Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were

> > awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.

> >

> > His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in

English,

> > B's for the rest. We are over the moon.

> >

> >

> > Has anyone else faced this? Do we settle for " not failing " as a good thing?

Or

> > shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?

> > His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion.

> >

> > He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be

> > asking for more accommodations or resources.

> >

> > Kylie in CA

> >

>

[Guest guest]

This is what irritated me so badly. Madeline is in 6th grade now, but during 3-5 grade her teachers basically let her slide by. My expectations weren't low, but her teachers were. She is very capable of b's and a's, but her teachers never wanted to push her because they were nervous of meltdowns and just didn't want to deal with her.

Mom to my 4 girls

Madeline, Cayla, Arabella, & Vincenza

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You are the PEARLS I cannot buy

You are the blue Italian LAKE

YOU are my piece of foreign SKY"

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( ) How low are your expectations?

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> Â

> I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.

>

> My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a bright

> kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he "hates' school, he seems

> happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.

>

> Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were

> awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.

>

> His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in English,

> B's for the rest. We are over the moon.

>

>

> Has anyone else faced this? Do we settle for "not failing" as a good thing? Or

> shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?

> His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion.

>

> He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be

> asking for more accommodations or resources.

>

> Kylie in CA

>

[Guest guest]

- you are so right that many teachers have very low expectations of any

kid on an IEP. That attitude caused us to relocate out of one school district.

And even in this new school district I am surprised at what some " educators "

think of spec ed kids. I still get mad when I think of the high school spec ed

counselor telling me " your son is so smart " in a tone like it's a surprise that

a kid on an IEP is capable of being smart. Being a spec ed counselor you would

think that she knows that kids on IEP's can be smart. *SIGH*

Caroline

> >

> > Maybe there should be more accomodations as far as homework goes?? Maybe

less

> > homework or a tutor after school for a period of time. I don't have any

> > children that age, but these are things that have been suggested in various

> > forums.

> > Carolyn

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ________________________________

> > From: KylieM <kyliemonty@>

> >

> > Sent: Mon, January 31, 2011 2:47:40 PM

> > Subject: ( ) How low are your expectations?

> >

> > Â

> > I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.

> >

> > My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a

bright

> > kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he " hates' school, he seems

> > happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.

> >

> > Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were

> > awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.

> >

> > His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in

English,

> > B's for the rest. We are over the moon.

> >

> >

> > Has anyone else faced this? Do we settle for " not failing " as a good thing?

Or

> > shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?

> > His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion.

> >

> > He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be

> > asking for more accommodations or resources.

> >

> > Kylie in CA

> >

>

[Guest guest]

That's part of why Isaac is in middle school now. In our school

district, the parents can have fifth graders either stay in

elementary school or advance to middle school. Elementary school

doesn't give letter grades, and there isn't any good accountability

for the students. So we decided to have Isaac go to middle school,

because he NEEDS that accountability.

Let's just say it hasn't been an overwhelming success, but that's

because he's having to face the consequences of NOT turning in

homework. The first trimester was pretty bad. I knew it would be

rough, but the accountability issue brought out the fact that he

does have a problem, which is why we looked into diagnosis. And

that's how we found out he's got Asperger's. Doesn't mean we like

the fact he's got it, but better to find out NOW and learn how to

deal with it. I've actually been encouraging him to embrace his AS,

and learn to USE it! Yes, he needs to work on developing structures

that help him get things done, but I firmly believe that it can be a

benefit, that it can be a strength. Just gotta learn to work with

it.

I think of it (possibly being in denial but I don't think so) as

being like his father's nearsightedness. Yes it means he needs

glasses to drive. But it also means he can see fine detail MUCH

better than me. Does that make sense?

Eleanor, San

Aspie son Isaac, age 10.5

On 01/31/2011 13:54 , patricia wrote:

 

This is what irritated me so badly.

Madeline is in 6th grade now, but during 3-5 grade her

teachers basically let her slide by. My expectations

weren't low, but her teachers were. She is very

capable of b's and a's, but her teachers never wanted

to push her because they were nervous of meltdowns and

just didn't want to deal with her.

[Guest guest]

Hi Kylie, do you mean by " poor homework completion " that he just isn't

interested in doing it? Or not doing well (grade-wise) on what he completes and

turns in?

If the former (not interested) then I would push it with him. That is, if his

class grades are good and it's just the homework issue.

My oldest son (typical) never bothered doing homework in high school that he

knew wasn't going to be graded, or that they were just getting " checkmarks " for

having completed it. He did well in class but the zero/low grade for homework

would bring grade down when averaged in. I didn't push him on it unless a class

he wasn't doing well in overall. Which usually I found at at report card time

(!) and then pushed him for it.

Do you think your son is having problems learning any of the subjects, any type

LD, or understanding what is expected?

Just saying if I thought it was only related to age/lack of interest I would

push him for getting better grades, doing the work. But I think those first

semester grades were pretty good! I generally praised my sons for their grades,

but like with a D, I would tell them I wanted to see a C next time (after asking

if they were having problem understanding the subject, etc.). But that's just

me!

My AS son liked school and wanted those A's so I didn't have a problem with him

doing the work. His twin (typical) fell somewhere between my oldest and AS son.

He did the work, wasn't really interested, and didn't put forth his best effort,

but good grades overall. Happy to say in college now (twins age 22) that

typical twin is studying HARD, for hours, and wants the good grades...okay,

maybe not so happy to say, lol, because AS son has lost interest in studying and

it shows!

Do you think your son could benefit from some type study hall or

before/afterschool help with homework at school? I recall doing the latter with

mine a few times.

single mom, 3 sons

, 22, with OCD, dysgraphia, Aspergers

at UNC-CH now

>

> I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.

>

> My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a bright

kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he " hates' school, he seems

happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.

>

> Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were

awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.

[Guest guest]

I agree. I was also thinking that he needed to have someone making sure that he knows of the homework he has and that it gets into his bag.

My son just started HS this year and although he wanted to take 2 "extra's, the SPED teacher suggested that he use one slot for a Study Hall, so that they can help him gett most of his work done AT school.

I'm SOOOO glad we chose that route, because he may hate homework, as all do, but at least at school, he does it.

Once he gets home, man, it's tough. But, if he still has some, which he sometimes does, it's at least less than what it would have been.

Robin

......A rich man is not one who has the most,

but who needs the least.....

From: Carolyn Weisbard <ccweisbard@...>Subject: Re: ( ) How low are your expectations? Date: Monday, January 31, 2011, 2:52 PM

Maybe there should be more accomodations as far as homework goes?? Maybe less homework or a tutor after school for a period of time. I don't have any children that age, but these are things that have been suggested in various forums.

Carolyn

From: KylieM <kyliemonty@...> Sent: Mon, January 31, 2011 2:47:40 PMSubject: ( ) How low are your expectations?

I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a bright kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he "hates' school, he seems happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in English, B's for the rest. We are over the moon. Has anyone else faced this? Do we settle for "not failing" as a good thing? Or shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion. He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be asking for more accommodations or resources.Kylie in

CA

[Guest guest]

Thanks to everyone who offered advice.

To clarify, he is in regular classes, with a daily sped " learning lab " , where he

gets extra help and starts his homework. He fails to hand in, or simply doesn't

do, a lot of his homework.

I will work with the sped teachers and see if we can streamline the homework. I

often don't know what he has for hw until after it is due.

It's great to have this forum to get your advice.

> > >

> > > Maybe there should be more accomodations as far as homework goes??Â

Maybe less

> > > homework or a tutor after school for a period of time. I don't have any

> > > children that age, but these are things that have been suggested in

various

> > > forums.

> > > Carolyn

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > ________________________________

> > > From: KylieM <kyliemonty@>

> > >

> > > Sent: Mon, January 31, 2011 2:47:40 PM

> > > Subject: ( ) How low are your expectations?

> > >

> > > Â

> > > I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.

> > >

> > > My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a

bright

> > > kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he " hates' school, he

seems

> > > happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.

> > >

> > > Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes

were

> > > awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.

> > >

> > > His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in

English,

> > > B's for the rest. We are over the moon.

> > >

> > >

> > > Has anyone else faced this? Do we settle for " not failing " as a good

thing? Or

> > > shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?

> > > His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion.

> > >

> > > He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should

be

> > > asking for more accommodations or resources.

> > >

> > > Kylie in CA

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I would raise your expectations to at least a C average in everything. With a higher IQ, I personally would be expecting better than C, but at the least a C would be expected. I would not accept an "F". I feel that a student with an IEP who is failing is not getting what they need. Good intentions are great but not helpful if they don't equate to an improvement in skills. So if he is failing or even getting a "D", you should figure out why and ask for whatever he needs to improve whatever problems he is having. I mean, if he can't do the work, perhaps he needs more intensive tutoring in subjects. If he can't stay organized, he needs help learning how. Can he write a report? You should look at the reason(s) why he can't get his homework done or turned in and figure out from there what he needs to be more successful. Definitely raise your expectations!

Roxanna

“Our lives begin to end the day we

become silent about things that matter.†- Luther King, Jr.

( ) How low are your expectations?

I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.

My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a bright kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he "hates' school, he seems happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.

Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.

His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in English, B's for the rest. We are over the moon.

Has anyone else faced this? Do we settle for "not failing" as a good thing? Or shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?

His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion.

He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be asking for more accommodations or resources.

Kylie in CA

[Guest guest]

Ugh, I have faced this so often as well. I even had one teacher say (in a "don't all parents think this" tone), "Yes, I am sure you feel he's gifted." lol. I was like, "uh, no...the test scores feel he is gifted." lol. I never liked her either. <g> And one time, I had a high school psychologist give me a lecture on the "trajectory for sped students" and let me just say, the trajectory was not good. My dh was there and started laughing and said, "Oh, did you just step in it" to the psychologist. I guess the look on my face...lol. I was just appalled. The man even used hand motions to show the downward path sped kids are on. I just sputtered, "You even used hand motions!" lol. I was just beyond intelligent conversation with this dolt. (And I refused to let him test my kid after that!) It is just ignorance when people think that kids with sped needs or LD's are not intelligent. Some are retarded or lower IQ. But some are average or above IQ as well. I don't think some people realize the spectrum involved for learning issues. But you'd think in education areas, these people would know.

Roxanna

“Our lives begin to end the day we

become silent about things that matter.†- Luther King, Jr.

( ) How low are your expectations?

> >

> > Â

> > I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.

> >

> > My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a bright

> > kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he "hates' school, he seems

> > happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.

> >

> > Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were

> > awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.

> >

> > His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in English,

> > B's for the rest. We are over the moon.

> >

> >

> > Has anyone else faced this? Do we settle for "not failing" as a good thing? Or

> > shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?

> > His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion.

> >

> > He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be

> > asking for more accommodations or resources.

> >

> > Kylie in CA

> >

>

[Guest guest]

You would think Roxanna, however to me I am starting to wonder if they just don't care. It is sad but I really wonder how they can work in the jobs that they do and let such things happen to innocent children. It is very sad to see. I am just at the beginning of this journey and am completely unable to fully homeschool my 4 yr old, I am not looking forward to the many years of "laughing at me" to come..... (and yes, I have already been laughed at)Carolyn

From: Roxanna <MadIdeas@...> Cc: Sent: Thursday, February 3, 2011 6:49 PMSubject: Re: ( ) How low are your expectations?

Ugh, I have faced this so often as well. I even had one teacher say (in a "don't all parents think this" tone), "Yes, I am sure you feel he's gifted." lol. I was like, "uh, no...the test scores feel he is gifted." lol. I never liked her either. <g> And one time, I had a high school psychologist give me a lecture on the "trajectory for sped students" and let me just say, the trajectory was not good. My dh was there and started laughing and said, "Oh, did you just step in it" to the psychologist. I guess the look on my face...lol. I was just appalled. The man even used hand motions to show the downward path sped kids are on. I just sputtered, "You even used hand motions!" lol. I was just beyond intelligent

conversation with this dolt. (And I refused to let him test my kid after that!) It is just ignorance when people think that kids with sped needs or LD's are not intelligent. Some are retarded or lower IQ. But some are average or above IQ as well. I don't think some people realize the spectrum involved for learning issues. But you'd think in education areas, these people would know.

Roxanna“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.†- Luther King, Jr.

( ) How low are your expectations?> > > > Ã > > I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.> > > > My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a bright > > kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he "hates' school, he seems > > happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.> > > > Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were > > awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.> > > > His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in English, > > B's for the rest. We are over the moon. > > > > > > Has anyone else

faced this? Do we settle for "not failing" as a good thing? Or > > shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?> > His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion. > > > > He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be > > asking for more accommodations or resources.> > > > Kylie in CA> >>

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You can request to have a list of homework sent home every day. Our school actually adopted agenda's for all kids but before that, we had a traveling notebook that listed the day's assignments, any notes I should know about and any other comments. It was signed every day between me and the sped teacher.

Roxanna

“Our lives begin to end the day we

become silent about things that matter.†- Luther King, Jr.

( ) How low are your expectations?

> > >

> > > Â

> > > I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.

> > >

> > > My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a bright

> > > kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he "hates' school, he seems

> > > happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.

> > >

> > > Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were

> > > awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.

> > >

> > > His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in English,

> > > B's for the rest. We are over the moon.

> > >

> > >

> > > Has anyone else faced this? Do we settle for "not failing" as a good thing? Or

> > > shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?

> > > His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion.

> > >

> > > He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be

> > > asking for more accommodations or resources.

> > >

> > > Kylie in CA

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

They may laugh but I kept in mind that getting what my kid needed despite the person laughing at me was the goal. So document what they are doing and saying for your paper trail and try to move to someone up the food chain, whenever possible.

I think it really hurts the entire profession when we deal with even one idiot. I mean, there are great teachers out there and some great therapists who really try! But if we have even one bad one, it can affect our kids so deeply. And it's so hard to work with people who don't try or don't care.

There are a lot of problems with education and the way we educate our kids, IMO. It is a system designed to keep people whether they deserve it or not. It doesn't reward the ones who are fabulous and deserve it. But unfortunately, I'm not Queen. So I can't make them change it. lol.

Roxanna

“Our lives begin to end the day we

become silent about things that matter.†- Luther King, Jr.

( ) How low are your expectations?

> >

> > Ã

> > I was wondering if anyone else has this dilemma.

> >

> > My ds, 15, dx'ed 3 years ago, AS/ADD, has an IQ of around 125 and is a bright

> > kid without a lot of behaviour issues. Although he "hates' school, he seems

> > happy enough to go each day and has a few friends.

> >

> > Despite the best efforts of teachers and other IEP members, his gradaes were

> > awful throughout middle school. Quite a few F's every semester.

> >

> > His first semester of high school, no F's, a D in Geometry and C- in English,

> > B's for the rest. We are over the moon.

> >

> >

> > Has anyone else

faced this? Do we settle for "not failing" as a good thing? Or

> > shoulc we be demanding more of the school and our son?

> > His low grades are mainly a result of poor homework completion.

> >

> > He is coming up for his triennial review and I am wondering if we should be

> > asking for more accommodations or resources.

> >

> > Kylie in CA

> >

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