Re: Thanks and how to deal with overly aggressive affection

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As far as the overly aggressive affection, I think people would suggest that you take your daughter and wrap her up in a blanket and hold her when she is like that. I know it's not always convenient to do that, so you have to stick firm when your daughter tells her to stop, and tell her you can hug your sister again tomorrow. My AS son said all he wanted for his recent birthday was a big hug from his brother. He doesn't understand why his (NT) brother feels weird about hugging him. He is way too huggy with me too, like tackling type of hugs and wants to lay on me on the couch. Like anything else, it is going to take a while to teach them how to handle those impulses and channel them appropriately.

I would be interested to hear how other people handle this issue.

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Suzanne

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From: accountangel <accountangel@...>Subject: ( ) Thanks and how to deal with overly aggressive affection Date: Friday, January 14, 2011, 5:49 AM

I want to say thanks to everyone for your comments on this subject. Every time I read something, I feel more and more comfortable with trying new things and exposing my daughter to more and more. I used to be scared because the hint of something new and we would have a serious breakdown. She would curl into the fetal position and it would be over for the day. We have learned some of her "triggers" and its gotten a WHOLE lot better as she has gotten older. It has also gotten a whole lot worse in other areas. How does everyone deal with constant nagging and bothering and overly aggressive affection towards siblings, family, pets ect. For example, dd will continue to bother her sister even when her sister tells her that is enough and to stop. DD says "I just love you so much, I want to hug you and hug you". Then she kinda goes into a sensory overload (hugging herself and rolling on the floor) and starts in on everyone else. Thanks - Angel

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Yes my daughter does that to. Hugs too long and to affectionately.

And she loves how babies look, she thinks they are so cute.

Then she wants to be hugged like a baby. More annoying things

are that she keeps stroking my hair and at first it is OK,

but after a while it hurts.

Oh boy I don't know. She has so many other negative behaviors

like hitting me when I say no that I rarely talk to the

behaviorist about this. I guess like any behavior

it would be to praise appropriate displays of affection.

Let me know if you have any other ideas.

Pam

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> I want to say thanks to everyone for your comments on this subject. Every

time I read something, I feel more and more comfortable with trying new things

and exposing my daughter to more and more. I used to be scared because the hint

of something new and we would have a serious breakdown. She would curl into the

fetal position and it would be over for the day. We have learned some of her

" triggers " and its gotten a WHOLE lot better as she has gotten older. It has

also gotten a whole lot worse in other areas. How does everyone deal with

constant nagging and bothering and overly aggressive affection towards siblings,

family, pets ect. For example, dd will continue to bother her sister even when

her sister tells her that is enough and to stop. DD says " I just love you so

much, I want to hug you and hug you " . Then she kinda goes into a sensory

overload (hugging herself and rolling on the floor) and starts in on everyone

else.

>

> Thanks - Angel

>

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Pamela, my daughter loves babies also almost to the point of going too far. She also loves to stroke other people. I have been told by several people that the stroking is sensory seeking. We have taught my daughter that she has to ask before touching other people and that seems to have helped....Carolyn From: Pamela <susanonderko@...>Sent: Friday, January 14, 2011 9:21 PM Subject: ( ) Re: Thanks and how to deal with overly aggressive affection Yes my daughter does that to. Hugs too long and to affectionately. And she loves how babies look, she thinks they are so cute. Then she wants to be hugged like a baby. More annoying things are that she keeps stroking my hair and at first it is OK, but after a while it hurts. Oh boy I don't know. She has so many other negative behaviors like hitting me when I say no that I rarely talk to the behaviorist about this. I guess like any behavior it would be to praise appropriate displays of affection. Let me know if you have any other ideas. Pam > > I want to say thanks to everyone for your comments on this subject. Every time I read something, I feel more and more comfortable with trying new things and exposing my daughter to more and more. I used to be scared because the hint of something new and we would have a serious breakdown. She would curl into the fetal position and it would be over for the day. We have learned some of her "triggers" and its gotten a WHOLE lot better as she has gotten older. It has also gotten a whole lot worse in other areas. How does everyone deal with constant nagging and bothering and overly aggressive affection towards siblings, family, pets ect. For example, dd will continue to bother her sister even when her sister tells her that is enough and to stop. DD says "I just love you so much, I[The entire original message is not included]