Re: New here, and desperate for help!

[Guest guest]

I would call the doctor who diagnosed him or his nurse. I would tell them exactly what is going on and ask for a referral for more help or time for a recheck. I know where my son was diagnosed is who I ask to get my referrals from for therapies etc.

In a message dated 1/14/2011 8:37:18 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, msrclark@... writes:

I am the mother of an Aspie. I am also still very new to this, and learning day by day. He has been diagnosed since 2008. Since starting school (even in preschool) his behavior has been manageable. We had even moved before Kindergarten and he seemed to adapt very well! His IEPs have been very basic, as he hasn't needed any further assistance on a behavioral or academic level. We moved again in Oct 2010, to another state. At first he was adjusting just fine, but my dh and I feel that he is being coddled by his teacher and gettign away with too much. At least, this is how it seems. In the last 2 months his behavior has regressed considerably, and consistently. We spend 1-2 hours each night battling over homework; not because he doesn't knoe the material, but because he refuses to do it. I have never experienced this with him. Usually we are able to reason with him, and get his behavior under control, but it is at a point where there are constant tantrums and it is extremely stressful. Since he has never really expressed a need for "help" I have never sought any. However, I think now is the time. (for him, his big brother, and the parents) This being said... where do I start?

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First talk to your child's teacher and ask for the teacher's assessment. A good

teacher will know what tasks or activities your son likes and dislikes. Then

write (do not call or email) the special ed department in your school district

and ask for a new IEP. It sounds like it's time for some more supports to be put

into place. My son also refused to do some assignments when he was young.

Sometimes he was confused and didn't know what was expected, but sometimes he

already knew the material really well and he just didn't see the point of

completing the worksheet. I still remember coloring puzzles in Kindergarten. He

absolutely hated coloring by number to see the secret picture since he already

saw the picture seconds after seeing the worksheet...I think it's great that you

are working so closely with your son, but be careful. If you are spending more

than an hour or two, it's too much. I used to do that with my son and regret it

now. By helping him that way I think I delayed some of the help he should have

had since the teachers weren't seeing the same struggles that I saw at night

working with him one on one. As far as they were concerned, no accommodations

were needed since my son was turning in the work. What they didn't see was the

hours and the frustration he went through at home or how long he just stared at

his paper not knowing how to get started.