Re: Re: The future of our children

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Love it!!!! They have no clue sometimes.

Here's another goody. (I'm sitting here with a goofy grin almost peeing my pants).

So, about a month ago, , my husband, got an offer from a guy he works with to come out on the guys sailboat for the day. He had room for and 2 kids. Ian and his sis, went along.

Since then, Ian has said that he will live on a sailboat...not a house. This is fine with me. But,,,,,he says he'll just sail around the world for the rest of his life. I asked what he'll do for money. Says he make money making games. Sigh.

Also wondered yesterday how good an Internet connection would be when he's sailing.

Me: "How are you going to sail when being On line?"

Ian: "You can go autopilot"......

He he.

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I just realized that in my perfect world (ha ha) we all live within 100 miles of eachother so that we could raise our kids together and be near for coffeee and support. He he. It'd be nice, wouldn't it?

Attack and enjoy every minute of life.

Try everything.....protect everything.

Robin

I live in Spotsylvania Va. I have not looked in to due processing as I homeschool now. I know the public school system here are terrible that is one reason why I choose to homeschool. But, the RACSB is excellent for children and on into adulthood if need be. TeamJakobSupport children with Aspergers,With your support their is no limit to Jakob's success!!

From: <doyourecycle@ gmail.com> Sent: Mon, July 19, 2010 5:50:21 PMSubject: ( ) Re: The future of our children

I am also in virginia and we had an attorney tell us that next to Texas, Va is the worst stste to get a fair due process hearing. Atty said rulings always go for the school as the system is set up that way. Sickening. What part of Va are you in? In in Northern Va.>> Lately I have been reading some of the posts on here and thinking a lot about my child's future. I have NO doubt in my mind that my son will be a productive, sucessful citizen. I homeschool him and we get very indepth with certain subjects. He can learn much better than at a private or public school and the resources are endless. He is 7 now and when he graduates he will attend college like every other child in America. It will not be a special college either, it

may very well be Washington University as it is in our city of Fredericksburg. I know that one day he too will have a family and I look forward to having grandchildren. Not one time have I ever thought that he would be a stock boy at Walmart or the service guy at our local Exxon, Shell, Wawa, etc.. Not one time have I thought that he would never amount to much or ever let him think that. Never ever have I thought of his disability as a bad thing. There is greatness in all these children and our job is to guide them to become greatness! Sometimes I think that we tend to hinder our children more than their disability by setting the bar so low that they believe thenselves that they can't do anything or won't amount to much. > > We used to live in Georgia and they had very little resources to help, so I moved to Virginia, where I was born and my parents were raised. Here there is a lot of help, BUT DON'T RELY ON THE SCHOOL SYSTEM TO TELL

YOU ABOUT IT OR HELP YOU GET IT! You have to do your home work as I have read that many of you have and you have to know, have to have faith, and have to believe that God blessed you with this special child for a reason! The road is less traveled, tiring, and we all feel that we are treading on broken glass barefoot, but we all choose to be parents even though God choose us to be parents of Aspie children, again for a reason! If you stop clipping their wings and allow them to fly, who knows how high they will soar! > > >

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Hugs to you.

Attack and enjoy every minute of life.

Try everything.....protect everything.

Robin

From: sandee <jculliton@...>Subject: ( ) Re: The future of our children Date: Tuesday, July 20, 2010, 9:35 AM

I think it is a good thing to remain positive about things as is, however as the child gets older we parents do adjust our hopes and dreams according to what happens..Shirley's experiences are similar to most Aspies experiences. As they get older, you can't arrange friends for them. Maybe they will find one, maybe not and they give up trying after awhile. I am raising my son's daughter and she seems to be a classic Asperger's child. She has poor social skills etc. As I look back, her father (my son) probably had AS also, but it didn't exist then as a diagnosis. He compensated with substance abuse and eventually died. Her mother is definitely AS but is undiagnosed, and lost in the chaos of drug use, too. I think that at least now we have some knowledge of this condition and maybe we can find some ways to help them find a more useful life. My "daughter" would like to have a friend, but she really isn't comfortable with the girls her age who

twitter and moan over boys. I don't know what is in her future and I am scared, but we have to try and hopefully now that we understand it a little better, we can find some ways to help them find themselves. My point is, we have made some progress in the past 40 years just by diagnosing the condition. But we have a long way to go to find the answers. We are forging the way and it isn't going to be a snap.But who else will do it?>> Lately I have been reading some of the posts on here and thinking a lot about my child's future. I have NO doubt in my mind that my son will be a productive, sucessful citizen. I homeschool him and we get very indepth with certain subjects. He can learn

much better than at a private or public school and the resources are endless. He is 7 now and when he graduates he will attend college like every other child in America. It will not be a special college either, it may very well be Washington University as it is in our city of Fredericksburg. I know that one day he too will have a family and I look forward to having grandchildren. Not one time have I ever thought that he would be a stock boy at Walmart or the service guy at our local Exxon, Shell, Wawa, etc.. Not one time have I thought that he would never amount to much or ever let him think that. Never ever have I thought of his disability as a bad thing. There is greatness in all these children and our job is to guide them to become greatness! Sometimes I think that we tend to hinder our children more than their disability by setting the bar so low that they believe thenselves that they can't do anything or won't amount to much. > >

We used to live in Georgia and they had very little resources to help, so I moved to Virginia, where I was born and my parents were raised. Here there is a lot of help, BUT DON'T RELY ON THE SCHOOL SYSTEM TO TELL YOU ABOUT IT OR HELP YOU GET IT! You have to do your home work as I have read that many of you have and you have to know, have to have faith, and have to believe that God blessed you with this special child for a reason! The road is less traveled, tiring, and we all feel that we are treading on broken glass barefoot, but we all choose to be parents even though God choose us to be parents of Aspie children, again for a reason! If you stop clipping their wings and allow them to fly, who knows how high they will soar! > > >

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I would not arrange playdates- I would arrange hangout time with other kids from school - let them go out to movies together and sit in the back away from them- or if you can trust he cn find you go to another movie at the same time. go to the mall with a girl friend and invite your child to bring a friend - they go to the arcade while you shop in nearby stores- he has a cell to call you if needed. Movie night at your house- whatever genre he and kids his age into- then you provide popcorn and soda and maybe pizza. Playdates make it sound childish but arranging for social opportunities is necessaary for all age levels. Some kids can do this for themselves, others need help but can manage once it is organized. My daughter has no diagnosis and I will say I was thinking of going to such and such movei Friday and then dinner- do you think your firend so and so

would like to go? If so you can hang out with her while I spend time with my friend - what do you think? Then she has to call and ask. If it doesn't work out I tell her to see when would be a good time to hang out and we schedule another option. It takes trials but sometimes you have to work thorugh the tough stuff and find something/ anythign that works.

I live in Spotsylvania Va. I have not looked in to due processing as I homeschool now. I know the public school system here are terrible that is one reason why I choose to homeschool. But, the RACSB is excellent for children and on into adulthood if need be. TeamJakobSupport children with Aspergers,With your support their is no limit to Jakob's success!!

From: <doyourecycle@ gmail.com> Sent: Mon, July 19, 2010 5:50:21 PMSubject: ( ) Re: The future of our children

I am also in virginia and we had an attorney tell us that next to Texas, Va is the worst stste to get a fair due process hearing. Atty said rulings always go for the school as the system is set up that way. Sickening. What part of Va are you in? In in Northern Va.>> Lately I have been reading some of the posts on here and thinking a lot about my child's future. I have NO doubt in my mind that my son will be a productive, sucessful citizen. I homeschool him and we get very indepth with certain subjects. He can learn much better than at a private or public school and the resources are endless. He is 7 now and when he graduates he will attend college like every other child in

America. It will not be a special college either, it may very well be Washington University as it is in our city of Fredericksburg. I know that one day he too will have a family and I look forward to having grandchildren. Not one time have I ever thought that he would be a stock boy at Walmart or the service guy at our local Exxon, Shell, Wawa, etc.. Not one time have I thought that he would never amount to much or ever let him think that. Never ever have I thought of his disability as a bad thing. There is greatness in all these children and our job is to guide them to become greatness! Sometimes I think that we tend to hinder our children more than their disability by setting the bar so low that they believe thenselves that they can't do anything or won't amount to much. > > We used to live in Georgia and they had very little resources to help, so I moved to Virginia, where I was born and my parents were raised. Here there is a lot

of help, BUT DON'T RELY ON THE SCHOOL SYSTEM TO TELL YOU ABOUT IT OR HELP YOU GET IT! You have to do your home work as I have read that many of you have and you have to know, have to have faith, and have to believe that God blessed you with this special child for a reason! The road is less traveled, tiring, and we all feel that we are treading on broken glass barefoot, but we all choose to be parents even though God choose us to be parents of Aspie children, again for a reason! If you stop clipping their wings and allow them to fly, who knows how high they will soar! > > >