Re: Regular School and Aspie Child?

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My son was in a mainstream general ed class for 2nd & 3rd grade. Academically

he was fine but he got into trouble more than he had before and had a hard time.

I felt some things were out of his control due to his diagnosis and needed to do

a lot of explaining to his teacher... We didn't get the diagnosis until he

started 3rd grade so I didn't really understand it as well during 2nd...

In third grade we pursued neuropsychological testing and we got a behavior

intervention plan in place ... We pursued medication for some of the impulsive

behaviors... I also pursued updates to the IEP for services to help him

socially... Finally, we decided to pursue a non-public school placement in a

special ed school that focuses on high functioning kids who operate well

academically but need some help in other areas -- like social development,

pragmatic language, anxiety, etc.

He's been there only three days and he's so happy. I don't have to explain

anything ... he's not the bad kid, he's not getting into trouble.. in fact, he's

being rewarded for being good and for helping others.

Good luck,

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> I was wondering if anyone had the experience of your child being labeled the

bad kid of the class.How did you handle the situation? My child tends to like to

try to touch the other kids or gets to into the other kids space. I was

wondering if the class she be told of her condition or just leave it alone? I'm

really new to this as she was in special behavior classes before this school so

never really needed to explain anything. Any advice would be great.

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> Sharon

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How old is your daughter?

Vicki

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I was wondering if anyone had the experience of your child being labeled the bad kid of the class.How did you handle the situation? My child tends to like to try to touch the other kids or gets to into the other kids space. I was wondering if the class she be told of her condition or just leave it alone? I'm really new to this as she was in special behavior classes before this school so never really needed to explain anything. Any advice would be great.Sharon

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Hi, Sharon--

My dd likes to touch things and people, and get in others' space, too. She has

an IEP at her public school and is receiving help with social interactions,

adaptive phy ed, etc. Talk to the principal and teacher. Hopefully, your school

offers speech therapy (social interactions), counseling (about bullying, social

and emotional help), occupational therapy (the touching can be due to Sensory

Integration issues), adaptive phy ed, and other programs to help during the

school year; and your county offices might have programs that they can share

info about, too. Our school now has its own autism specialist and the county has

one, too. It's not a perfect situation, but we keep trying!

-- If you don't mind sharing, how did you get your child into a special

school for High Functioning/Asperger's? Is it an out-of-pocket expense? We don't

have enough income to spare now for private/special-type schools, so I'm just

wondering if this could be an option for us too or not. Our dd wants to be

popular sooo much and tries so hard to fit in, but it doesn't work. Kids are so

mean and take advantage of her efforts and she's bullied and spoken to in such

cruel ways by kids. The school does their best to stop bullying, but kids still

say hurtful things and take advantage. Thanks!

Kari

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> > I was wondering if anyone had the experience of your child being labeled the

bad kid of the class.How did you handle the situation? My child tends to like to

try to touch the other kids or gets to into the other kids space. I was

wondering if the class she be told of her condition or just leave it alone? I'm

really new to this as she was in special behavior classes before this school so

never really needed to explain anything. Any advice would be great.

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> > Sharon

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hi my boyfriend sin 14 he goes to school for kids with special needs less pressure for themFrom: Sharon <simplycraftymom@...>Subject: ( ) Regular School and Aspie Child? Date: Friday, September 10, 2010, 10:43 PM

I was wondering if anyone had the experience of your child being labeled the bad kid of the class.How did you handle the situation? My child tends to like to try to touch the other kids or gets to into the other kids space. I was wondering if the class she be told of her condition or just leave it alone? I'm really new to this as she was in special behavior classes before this school so never really needed to explain anything. Any advice would be great.

Sharon

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I'm in NYC - and last August we moved to a new neighborhood with a very different public school mentality. Many behaviors that my son exhibited in his prior school were not accepted in the new school so he started getting in trouble a lot. This is why we pursued testing, a BIP, etc. The school psychologist suggested we look at other programs -- particularly because we got an aspergers diagnosis. She knew he was very bright and also knew we weren't going to find a better program inside the district that could help where we needed it while maintaining the academics he was capable of ... I did my own research on schools that are funded by the Board of Ed for special ed students and while two that we had applied to rejected him because they thought their academics were not up to par .. others said over the phone that they didn't have the right mix of kids or he was too high functioning -- this one, after a tour and a half day visit -- let us know they accepted him. I had also looked at a CTT class w/n district and a special ed program in another in district school. I scheduled our IEP meeting after we received the acceptance from the private so they were able to write the school's name on the IEP for the following fall, special ed busing was checked and it's been relatively smooth sailing. The bus is hard -- it's a very long ride (2 hours each way) and I'm trying to put some accommodations in place to try to limit that but there is no guarantee that will happen. Even so - my son has said "this is the right school for me".Lots of folks in NYC hire lawyers to get their kids into these funded schools and some sue the DOE for tuition reimbursement for other schools if they feel these schools are not appropriate or they can't get into them. These schools are all very small so seats are limited. Additionally, they are all 100% special ed. There is no inclusion so folks who believe in a more inclusive education may decide this is not the way for them to go ... My son is in a class of 12 kids -- each has some issue that got them into this class and this school .. There is 1 teacher and 2 assistants. He's just started so I don't have too much info beyond the fact that he's happy and his regular class schedule has one period of pragmatic language and one period of social skills on it -- for the whole class. I think that's pretty cool. Last year I added an extra section of counseling and speech so that he can get these on his IEP so now he has a lot of it. I'm considering cutting back on these services since some is integrated into the program. I will wait until some time has passed so that the teachers/specialists can get a handle on him and let me know whether he needs those services or not.Hope this information helps.> > >> > > I was wondering if anyone had the experience of your child being labeled the bad kid of the class.How did you handle the situation? My child tends to like to try to touch the other kids or gets to into the other kids space. I was wondering if the class she be told of her condition or just leave it alone? I'm really new to this as she was in special behavior classes before this school so never really needed to explain anything. Any advice would be great.> > > > > > Sharon> > >> >>

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Vicki, She will be 10 in Nov. and in 4th Grade.Everyone else, Thanks for all who answered me. You gave me a lot to think about and since we have a meeting on Tuesday I will bring things up in the meeting. At moment my daughter is not on any meds and has been increasingly moody and more aggressive towards me. We are thinking its due to a mood disorder. We had her on concerta at first for adhd but the focusing problem was really the problem and we ended up taking her off. We are now wishing we had not as things have progressed and gotten worse. This is 's 5th school in 4 years as we moved a great deal thinking things would change. Now the school goes to my husband and I work for in non teaching positions and we thought the school

would work for her. It is a charter school so only 250 students. 25 is how many in her class. She likes the school and has not said she has any problems but when the teachers tell me otherwise its hard to deal with on a daily basis. She has her med appt. on 27th and I am hoping that will help with home life as its like an on going battle. I am pretty much reaching the end of my rope these days trying to keep peace between everyone in house. I have a almost 7 year old that I home-school at moment. I just can not get them to get along at all, dad and oldest are like cat and dog. I mainly email the therapist every day now just so have someone to talk to who understands as family and friends just think she is spoiled. I don't take them any where any more as always has screaming meltdowns and it got to a point I couldn't take the stares on peoples faces. The ones that make you look like your the bad mom. Any way meant for this to be a thank

you and here i go rambling again. Sharon

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I think explaining to the other kids is great. I also think you should work with the IEP team to come up with some idea for helping teach your dd how to interact better with the other kids.

Roxanna

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predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) Regular School and Aspie Child?

I was wondering if anyone had the experience of your child being labeled the bad kid of the class.How did you handle the situation? My child tends to like to try to touch the other kids or gets to into the other kids space. I was wondering if the class she be told of her condition or just leave it alone? I'm really new to this as she was in special behavior classes before this school so never really needed to explain anything. Any advice would be great.

Sharon