Re: Girls Aspies and Being Boy Crazy

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I do know that a lot of girls that age are that way. I knew one that had 3 abortions before she reached high school and she wasn't AS. I have no fix for that and dread it as I have an almost 16 year old, but when she shows an interest we are going for birth control real quick. No matter what anyone believes about that, a baby would be the worst thing she or I could have right now.. From: M J <fanatical_hockey_fan@...> Sent: Sun, August 1, 2010 10:44:28 AMSubject: ( ) Girls Aspies and Being Boy Crazy

Hi all!

I have two children, both with AS. A son who is 14 and a daughter who is 13. The question I am posing right now is about my daughter. She is WAY beyond boy crazy. Her therapist said that girls with AS tend to hyper focus on relationships, which is defiantly true with my daughter. When my daughter started the school year last year, she thought boys were just there to annoy her. Then within three months (right after she turned 13) she went to the complete extreme and was talking to boys about having sex. Ugh....I've spoken to her many times about how our family rule is that there is to be no dating or boyfriend until she is 16. However she constantly has a boyfriend. I do not think that she is having a sexualy relationship with anyone. But, while she was out visiting her father for the summer, she let a boy take a picture of her topless. It's like she doesn't even get the connection of the consequences of her actions. When asked why she did

that, she said that the boy told her he loved her. Then within a week, another boy told her he loved her and that he wanted to have sex with her. Luckily her step-mother found out and shut-down the situation.

I've had to closely monitor her computer time because she will get onto porn sites. She's even mentioned to my son that she thinks she may be bi. I didn't even know what that was until I was in my 30's...lol.

I am just so worried that she is going to get pregnant or raped or something. I've spoken her over and over again about how boys will say and do anything to get a girls clothes off. And that they really don't 'love' her. Has anyone else had experiences with this?

Thanks!

Mel

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Hi Mel,

I do not believe this behavior is strictly AS related. The answer might be found in some kind of obsessive conduct?, which is something most AS have. I understand how worried you are. My As daughter is quite the opposite on that aspect but I believe you could talk to a good therapist (if you daughter cooperates of course, they tend to be very stubborn); this conduct might have negative consequences for her future.

Good luck

Ana

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Hi all!

I have two children, both with AS. A son who is 14 and a daughter who is 13. The question I am posing right now is about my daughter. She is WAY beyond boy crazy. Her therapist said that girls with AS tend to hyper focus on relationships, which is defiantly true with my daughter. When my daughter started the school year last year, she thought boys were just there to annoy her. Then within three months (right after she turned 13) she went to the complete extreme and was talking to boys about having sex. Ugh....I've spoken to her many times about how our family rule is that there is to be no dating or boyfriend until she is 16. However she constantly has a boyfriend. I do not think that she is having a sexualy relationship with anyone. But, while she was out visiting her father for the summer, she let a boy take a picture of her topless. It's like she doesn't even get the connection of the consequences of her actions. When asked why she did that, she said that the b

oy told her he loved her. Then within a week, another boy told her he loved her and that he wanted to have sex with her. Luckily her step-mother found out and shut-down the situation.

I've had to closely monitor her computer time because she will get onto porn sites. She's even mentioned to my son that she thinks she may be bi. I didn't even know what that was until I was in my 30's...lol.

I am just so worried that she is going to get pregnant or raped or something. I've spoken her over and over again about how boys will say and do anything to get a girls clothes off. And that they really don't 'love' her. Has anyone else had experiences with this?

Thanks!

Mel

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Hi ya.My 15 ds is obsessed with girls. He constantly has a girlfriend, or teo at once. He obsesses over getting one. He used to get very depressed when dumped, now he sees the warning signs and starts scouting for a replacement so he has another one ready.There was a rumour that he was taken advantage of in a not so wonderful predicament but he assures me it was just a rumour. I do worry constantly about the sex because he often goes out with girls 2 years his junior.Unfortunately I don't have a lot of advice. I just talk to him about being safe and not treating girls like obsessions. KelI will keep climbing the mountain.Sent from Kel's iPhone On 02/08/2010, at 12:44 AM, "M J" <fanatical_hockey_fan@...> wrote:

Hi all!

I have two children, both with AS. A son who is 14 and a daughter who is 13. The question I am posing right now is about my daughter. She is WAY beyond boy crazy. Her therapist said that girls with AS tend to hyper focus on relationships, which is defiantly true with my daughter. When my daughter started the school year last year, she thought boys were just there to annoy her. Then within three months (right after she turned 13) she went to the complete extreme and was talking to boys about having sex. Ugh....I've spoken to her many times about how our family rule is that there is to be no dating or boyfriend until she is 16. However she constantly has a boyfriend. I do not think that she is having a sexualy relationship with anyone. But, while she was out visiting her father for the summer, she let a boy take a picture of her topless. It's like she doesn't even get the connection of the consequences of her actions. When asked why she did

that, she said that the boy told her he loved her. Then within a week, another boy told her he loved her and that he wanted to have sex with her. Luckily her step-mother found out and shut-down the situation.

I've had to closely monitor her computer time because she will get onto porn sites. She's even mentioned to my son that she thinks she may be bi. I didn't even know what that was until I was in my 30's...lol.

I am just so worried that she is going to get pregnant or raped or something. I've spoken her over and over again about how boys will say and do anything to get a girls clothes off. And that they really don't 'love' her. Has anyone else had experiences with this?

Thanks!

Mel

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My daughter is 13 as well, and we have not seen anything like that. She is more of a loner. The two good friends she does have are boys, but they are just friends. From: fanatical_hockey_fan@...Date: Sun, 1 Aug 2010 14:44:28 +0000Subject: ( ) Girls Aspies and Being Boy Crazy

Hi all!

I have two children, both with AS. A son who is 14 and a daughter who is 13. The question I am posing right now is about my daughter. She is WAY beyond boy crazy. Her therapist said that girls with AS tend to hyper focus on relationships, which is defiantly true with my daughter. When my daughter started the school year last year, she thought boys were just there to annoy her. Then within three months (right after she turned 13) she went to the complete extreme and was talking to boys about having sex. Ugh....I've spoken to her many times about how our family rule is that there is to be no dating or boyfriend until she is 16. However she constantly has a boyfriend. I do not think that she is having a sexualy relationship with anyone. But, while she was out visiting her father for the summer, she let a boy take a picture of her topless. It's like she doesn't even get the connection of the consequences of her actions. When asked why she did that, she said that the boy told her he loved her. Then within a week, another boy told her he loved her and that he wanted to have sex with her. Luckily her step-mother found out and shut-down the situation.

I've had to closely monitor her computer time because she will get onto porn sites. She's even mentioned to my son that she thinks she may be bi. I didn't even know what that was until I was in my 30's...lol.

I am just so worried that she is going to get pregnant or raped or something. I've spoken her over and over again about how boys will say and do anything to get a girls clothes off. And that they really don't 'love' her. Has anyone else had experiences with this?

Thanks!

Mel

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my son cant keep friends he is always telling on someone and doesn't understand...he is now eleven and cried cuz a recent friend made sexual comments to his 6 year old sister he finally told me and i had a talk with the kids mom who is 10...and of course she did not believe anyone but her son. So now that friendship he had is over and good ridience...I definatly do not need that crap with my six year old daughter. It just seems like his life is a constant meltdown or disappointment. It wears on me daily....homework is hell and he has ADHD also so I feel like the whole world is against us. If I take my XANAX, I just get nothing done around the house. He tries to control everything and everyone. If it is quiet he comes to find me and starts can i do this can i have that, why why. I love him sooo much but my husband does

not understand. I feel like i need to take him to school to teach him about his own kid. He has no patience and it rests on my shoulders. I am doing the best i can but i am in school myself. cant afford private school...or my school for that matter

From: Barbara Pinckney <b-pinckney@...>Subject: RE: ( ) Girls Aspies and Being Boy CrazyAspergers Treatment Date: Wednesday, August 4, 2010, 4:53 PM

My daughter is 13 as well, and we have not seen anything like that. She is more of a loner. The two good friends she does have are boys, but they are just friends.

From: fanatical_hockey_fan@...Date: Sun, 1 Aug 2010 14:44:28 +0000Subject: ( ) Girls Aspies and Being Boy Crazy

Hi all!I have two children, both with AS. A son who is 14 and a daughter who is 13. The question I am posing right now is about my daughter. She is WAY beyond boy crazy. Her therapist said that girls with AS tend to hyper focus on relationships, which is defiantly true with my daughter. When my daughter started the school year last year, she thought boys were just there to annoy her. Then within three months (right after she turned 13) she went to the complete extreme and was talking to boys about having sex. Ugh....I've spoken to her many times about how our family rule is that there is to be no dating or boyfriend until she is 16. However she constantly has a boyfriend. I do not think that she is having a sexualy relationship with anyone. But, while she was out visiting her father for the summer, she let a boy take a picture of her topless. It's like she doesn't even get the connection of the consequences of her

actions. When asked why she did that, she said that the boy told her he loved her. Then within a week, another boy told her he loved her and that he wanted to have sex with her. Luckily her step-mother found out and shut-down the situation. I've had to closely monitor her computer time because she will get onto porn sites. She's even mentioned to my son that she thinks she may be bi. I didn't even know what that was until I was in my 30's...lol.I am just so worried that she is going to get pregnant or raped or something. I've spoken her over and over again about how boys will say and do anything to get a girls clothes off. And that they really don't 'love' her. Has anyone else had experiences with this? Thanks!Mel

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Take a deep breath....inhale and exhale. Do it again and again. You are not alone ...we are all here ...maybe at different stages but we are here. Remember, this too shall pass. And, take it one hour at a time....or even one minute at time. He is 11....and this is the age where friends mean so much too him. Try to make up social stories and tell him these stories over and over and over. It is very very hard...but you can do it.

jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: Tammy <tvau37@...> Sent: Thu, August 5, 2010 12:04:34 PMSubject: RE: ( ) Girls Aspies and Being Boy Crazy

my son cant keep friends he is always telling on someone and doesn't understand.. .he is now eleven and cried cuz a recent friend made sexual comments to his 6 year old sister he finally told me and i had a talk with the kids mom who is 10...and of course she did not believe anyone but her son. So now that friendship he had is over and good ridience...I definatly do not need that crap with my six year old daughter. It just seems like his life is a constant meltdown or disappointment. It wears on me daily....homework is hell and he has ADHD also so I feel like the whole world is against us. If I take my XANAX, I just get nothing done around the house. He tries to control everything and everyone. If it is quiet he comes to find me and starts can i do this can i have that, why why. I love him sooo much but my husband does not understand. I feel like i need to take him to school to teach him

about his own kid. He has no patience and it rests on my shoulders. I am doing the best i can but i am in school myself. cant afford private school...or my school for that matter

From: Barbara Pinckney <b-pinckneyhotmail (DOT) com>Subject: RE: ( ) Girls Aspies and Being Boy CrazyAspergers TreatmentDate: Wednesday, August 4, 2010, 4:53 PM

My daughter is 13 as well, and we have not seen anything like that. She is more of a loner. The two good friends she does have are boys, but they are just friends.

From: fanatical_hockey_ fan (DOT) comDate: Sun, 1 Aug 2010 14:44:28 +0000Subject: ( ) Girls Aspies and Being Boy Crazy

Hi all!I have two children, both with AS. A son who is 14 and a daughter who is 13. The question I am posing right now is about my daughter. She is WAY beyond boy crazy. Her therapist said that girls with AS tend to hyper focus on relationships, which is defiantly true with my daughter. When my daughter started the school year last year, she thought boys were just there to annoy her. Then within three months (right after she turned 13) she went to the complete extreme and was talking to boys about having sex. Ugh....I've spoken to her many times about how our family rule is that there is to be no dating or boyfriend until she is 16. However she constantly has a boyfriend. I do not think that she is having a sexualy relationship with anyone. But, while she was out visiting her father for the summer, she let a boy take a picture of her topless. It's like she doesn't even get the connection of the consequences of her

actions. When asked why she did that, she said that the boy told her he loved her. Then within a week, another boy told her he loved her and that he wanted to have sex with her. Luckily her step-mother found out and shut-down the situation. I've had to closely monitor her computer time because she will get onto porn sites. She's even mentioned to my son that she thinks she may be bi. I didn't even know what that was until I was in my 30's...lol.I am just so worried that she is going to get pregnant or raped or something. I've spoken her over and over again about how boys will say and do anything to get a girls clothes off. And that they really don't 'love' her. Has anyone else had experiences with this? Thanks!Mel

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what social stories...what can i say to make him feel better...he says he is like a train on another track from all the other kids....he knows he is different and kids are soooo mean and hurtful. he crys and says i don't know how hard his life is...it is so sad he tries so hard...but would rather just play with a few trucks on the floor. He is in his own little world and makes strange noises just blurts out things. He cannot help the things he says or does and knows he does not fit in with them

From: Barbara Pinckney <b-pinckneyhotmail (DOT) com>Subject: RE: ( ) Girls Aspies and Being Boy CrazyAspergers TreatmentDate: Wednesday, August 4, 2010, 4:53 PM

My daughter is 13 as well, and we have not seen anything like that. She is more of a loner. The two good friends she does have are boys, but they are just friends.

From: fanatical_hockey_ fan (DOT) comDate: Sun, 1 Aug 2010 14:44:28 +0000Subject: ( ) Girls Aspies and Being Boy Crazy

Hi all!I have two children, both with AS. A son who is 14 and a daughter who is 13. The question I am posing right now is about my daughter. She is WAY beyond boy crazy. Her therapist said that girls with AS tend to hyper focus on relationships, which is defiantly true with my daughter. When my daughter started the school year last year, she thought boys were just there to annoy her. Then within three months (right after she turned 13) she went to the complete extreme and was talking to boys about having sex. Ugh....I've spoken to her many times about how our family rule is that there is to be no dating or boyfriend until she is 16. However she constantly has a boyfriend. I do not think that she is having a sexualy relationship with anyone. But, while she was out visiting her father for the summer, she let a boy take a picture of her topless. It's like she doesn't even get the connection of the

consequences of her actions. When asked why she did that, she said that the boy told her he loved her. Then within a week, another boy told her he loved her and that he wanted to have sex with her. Luckily her step-mother found out and shut-down the situation. I've had to closely monitor her computer time because she will get onto porn sites. She's even mentioned to my son that she thinks she may be bi. I didn't even know what that was until I was in my 30's...lol.I am just so worried that she is going to get pregnant or raped or something. I've spoken her over and over again about how boys will say and do anything to get a girls clothes off. And that they really don't 'love' her. Has anyone else had experiences with this? Thanks!Mel

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He has no friends...

From: Barbara Pinckney <b-pinckneyhotmail (DOT) com>Subject: RE: ( ) Girls Aspies and Being Boy CrazyAspergers TreatmentDate: Wednesday, August 4, 2010, 4:53 PM

My daughter is 13 as well, and we have not seen anything like that. She is more of a loner. The two good friends she does have are boys, but they are just friends.

From: fanatical_hockey_ fan (DOT) comDate: Sun, 1 Aug 2010 14:44:28 +0000Subject: ( ) Girls Aspies and Being Boy Crazy

Hi all!I have two children, both with AS. A son who is 14 and a daughter who is 13. The question I am posing right now is about my daughter. She is WAY beyond boy crazy. Her therapist said that girls with AS tend to hyper focus on relationships, which is defiantly true with my daughter. When my daughter started the school year last year, she thought boys were just there to annoy her. Then within three months (right after she turned 13) she went to the complete extreme and was talking to boys about having sex. Ugh....I've spoken to her many times about how our family rule is that there is to be no dating or boyfriend until she is 16. However she constantly has a boyfriend. I do not think that she is having a sexualy relationship with anyone. But, while she was out visiting her father for the summer, she let a boy take a picture of her topless. It's like she doesn't even get the connection of the

consequences of her actions. When asked why she did that, she said that the boy told her he loved her. Then within a week, another boy told her he loved her and that he wanted to have sex with her. Luckily her step-mother found out and shut-down the situation. I've had to closely monitor her computer time because she will get onto porn sites. She's even mentioned to my son that she thinks she may be bi. I didn't even know what that was until I was in my 30's...lol.I am just so worried that she is going to get pregnant or raped or something. I've spoken her over and over again about how boys will say and do anything to get a girls clothes off. And that they really don't 'love' her. Has anyone else had experiences with this? Thanks!Mel