RE: is somebody there near Westfield Ma?

[Guest guest]

I feel so lonely and I would like to have a friend in the area that I can talk when I feel my life is getting out of control.

My friends do not have children with aspergers, so they do not have a clue how my life is. My world thinks that I make up my daugther issues, she looks so normal....

Sometimes I feel alone and helpless.

One day when she was being bully and we went to the westfield police dept to ask for help, the police officer saw her craying and he yelled at her because she was yelling....

Then I told him "I came here for guidance and now I get this".

Going home, she screamed for help and cried I stopped the car, embraced her and told her "I am sorry I can not help you, I try and all the doors closed on me". I never cry in front of her, but I just could not control myself...

The school called the DSS on me because she told the counselor she wants to kill herself. The DSS also called her therapist.I told the DSS that by denying her of an IEP the school is neglecting her, the reason she feels for killing herself is because there is not a system of support for her at school and at the boys club, the DSS should go after those institutions that do not help our children instead of harrasing a parent that is trying to get the services for their children.

I am getting an advocate, I gave up talking to the schools. At the last meeting the director of special services was trying to ridiculized me, as you know English is my second language.

I will put the bill of my advocate in my credit card, I know that eventually I will get the way of paying my bills, I am tired of the entire system. I wonder how schools and day care can get away of not helping the children when they ask for help.

( ) Any schools specializing in Aspergers? Hi.I am the mother of a 13 year old boy with Aspergers. We currently live in PA and may be making a move in the future. My son is miserable at his middle school. I was wondering if anyone knew of a private school for children with Aspergers's. Also, does anyone knows of any public school district anywhere in the U.S. that had a good program? _____ Hotmail: Free, trusted and rich email service. Get it <http://clk.atdmt.com/GBL/go/201469228/direct/01/> now.

[Guest guest]

So

sorry you feel the way you do.  It breaks my heart to hear of your experience

and know that’s not the way we are supposed to be with each other.  Definitely not

alone here.  Even when I read a thread that doesn’t pertain to anything in our

lives, I still get a chuckle or learn something new about our kids.

One

of the reasons for me to be on this group is that everyday all day people are

posting about what is going on with their kids and whether it’s a good day or

bad day and it makes me feel normal when I’m telling Zak for the 50th

time “no you cannot eat on your desk in front of the computer in your bedroom. 

We eat at the table†and then having to deal with his clever remarks and

annoyance at not getting his way.   He’s taller and bigger than me now and he

could do some damage if he wasn’t so loving most of the time.

If

there is anyway to home school then do it.  I watch many of the people on this

list constantly having to jump through the hoops of the school system, instead

of the schools being proactive, stepping up to the plate and offering services,

easily and quickly.  Don’t think of home schooling in terms of he has to sit

all day at the kitchen table.  It’s done many ways and I know there are others

on this list that home school as well. 

If

you cannot figure out a way to do that then put on your armour, strap on your

sword, PUT DOWN YOUR EGO and get ready to learn how to battle.  I think the

greatest thing that happens whilst going through the school procees (including

getting IEP’s and 504s) is that we gain more self confidence in standing up for

ourselves and then we can pass that onto our neurotypical and not so

neurotypical kids.  The time, effort and energy I had to put into getting an

IEP and watching what happened to Zak whilst in school convinced me that I didn’t

want to spend my time doing that and I’d find another way.  I was already a

mouthy person and didn’t care for the school system anyway, so it wasn’t a

problem for me to get heard and quickly.  There are others that have a huge

shock to their system when it comes to dealing with the “authoritiesâ€.

The

bottom line is you are not alone.  You may be lonely right now, but you are not

alone.  Check out the number of people on this that are in a similar position

to you and know that you can reach out.

Namaste

Dawn

in Tucson

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Subject: Re: ( ) is somebody there near Westfield Ma?

I feel so lonely

and I would like to have a friend in the area that I can talk when I feel my

life is getting out of control.

My friends do not

have children with aspergers, so they do not have a clue how my life is. My

world thinks that I make up my daugther issues, she looks so normal....

Sometimes I feel

alone and helpless.

One day when she

was being bully and we went to the westfield police dept to ask for help, the

police officer saw her craying and he yelled at her because she was yelling....

Then I told him

" I came here for guidance and now I get this " .

Going home,

she screamed for help and cried I stopped the car, embraced her and told

her " I am sorry I can not help you, I try and all the doors closed on

me " . I never cry in front of her, but I just could not control myself...

The school called

the DSS on me because she told the counselor she wants to kill

herself. The DSS also called her therapist.I told the DSS that by denying her

of an IEP the school is neglecting her, the reason she feels for killing

herself is because there is not a system of support for her at school and at

the boys club, the DSS should go after those institutions that do not help our

children instead of harrasing a parent that is trying to get the services for

their children.

I am getting an

advocate, I gave up talking to the schools. At the last meeting the director of

special services was trying to ridiculized me, as you know English is my second

language.

I will put the

bill of my advocate in my credit card, I know that eventually I will

get the way of paying my bills, I am tired of the entire system. I wonder how

schools and day care can get away of not helping the children when they ask for

help.

( ) Any schools specializing in Aspergers?

Hi.I am the mother of a 13 year old boy with Aspergers. We currently live in

PA and may be making a move in the future. My son is miserable at his middle

school. I was wondering if anyone knew of a private school for children with

Aspergers's. Also, does anyone knows of any public school district anywhere

in the U.S. that had a good program?

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