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In a message dated 8/19/00 7:58:12 AM Eastern Daylight Time, dhron@...

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<< Does anyone else's child do this? will get an idea in his head and

just obsess about it >>

heather

this sounds like my 6 year old twins.. exp my mom told them that school

starts in 10 days.. they come to me stacee school starts in 10 days(maygan)

then makallah does the same thing.. about 20 times later.. i told them if

they dont stop asking me if school starts in 10 days they werent going to

go.. another thing my mom has a pool in her backyard. while yesterday we were

cleaning it and adding more h2o to it.. they were told that they couldnt go

swimming until today.. 100 times of stacee can we go swimming.. from both of

them im ready for the nut house(lol)

I think its the age..

stacee

mommy to a great lil guy

jaykob-tyler(ds) 5-10-00

step mom to

maygan & makallah 6

and mikey 2 1/2

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Sorry to say, , this is the way our life is with (12ds). He will

ask us the same questions over and over again about his day. He starts just

about everything he says with " Mom, look " or " Dad, look " because he wants

your absolute attention (which drives us crazy too) and then he'll ask

something about something he just asked us about before. He wants to know in

the morning what we're doing for the day and what we're eating for every meal

(which most of the time I don't even know!) and then after we get to each

point in the day he'll go through the whole process of reviewing what's left

to do for the day. I've started to get a bit stern with him on this and say

" , I already told you this, now stop. " So then he'll say, " mom " and I

say " what, " and he'll say " stop " . I CAN'T WIN!!!!!!!!!

We don't tell him what we're doing until we're just about ready to do it, so

that he won't ask us all day about it. It helps to save our sanity! If you

come up with something that deters from doing this....please let me in

on it!!! : )

Jackie, Mom to 12ds (who I do love to death, even though he drives me

crazy)

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And I thought I had it bad with one, Stacee!!!! I can't imagine 2 of !!!!

Jackie, Mom to 12ds

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In a message dated 8/19/00 6:57:59 AM Central Daylight Time, dhron@...

writes:

<< Does anyone else's child do this? will get an idea in his head and

just obsess about it. An example, yesterday I told him we were going to

the doctor and that he could play with the toys at the doctors office. From

that point forward all he would say is, " Mommy " and I would yes, " Yes " .

Then he would say, " I play toys. " I would affirm it, each time and he would

keep saying it. If I ignored him he would just say, " Mom, mom, mom,

mom..... " Until I would say, " Yes " and then he would say the same

thing! I also told him that after the doctor's we were going to his

cousin's ( and ) for dinner. The moment we got to the doctor

he starts saying, " Mom " , " I go and 's house. " He must have

said it 75 times, I thought I was going to lose my mind. Nothing I say

seems to make a difference. Ignoring it does nothing.

is on Dexedrine to help him focus in school, and I am wondering if

that makes it worse. I think it might. Anyway, anyone else have this

problem? Any suggestions before I lose it?????!!!!

R.

Mom to (6, ds) and Grace (3)

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Oh yes, I hear this all the time. Actually, I started making " plans " with my

foster son soi we could kind of structure our day. Now I hear all day long

" plan? " . If he knows what we are going to do I hear about that over and over.

I've gotten so I'll listen and discuss it a few times and then I tell him I'm

done and he then starts saying it quietly to himself (after he fails to get

my attention a few times)

Karyn

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I've found Ian does this mostly when he's anxious about something. He

doesn't assume things the way other people do -- so it's important for him

to hear things like there's a bathroom where we're going, or someone will

give him food. He asks repeatedly in the car where we're going, what the

next stop is, what's after that, etc. Most of the time, I've learned to

just answer the question, confirm the information, whatever, and move on.

When I'm at my most impatient, however, it can be a real struggle.

CK,

Mom to Ian (2/89),

(9/90),

and Rose (6/94)

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does this all the time especially when it has to do with Special

Olympics or spending time with his friend . That will be all I will

hear, " Mom go with Pang to bowling? " for the next week or so.

Elaine

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> Does anyone else's child do this? will get an idea in his head and

> just obsess about it. An example, yesterday I told him we were going to

> the doctor and that he could play with the toys at the doctors office.

From

> that point forward all he would say is, " Mommy " and I would yes, " Yes " .

> Then he would say, " I play toys. " I would affirm it, each time and he

would

> keep saying it. If I ignored him he would just say, " Mom, mom, mom,

> mom..... " Until I would say, " Yes " and then he would say the same

> thing! I also told him that after the doctor's we were going to his

> cousin's ( and ) for dinner. The moment we got to the

doctor

> he starts saying, " Mom " , " I go and 's house. " He must

have

> said it 75 times, I thought I was going to lose my mind. Nothing I say

> seems to make a difference. Ignoring it does nothing.

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> is on Dexedrine to help him focus in school, and I am wondering if

> that makes it worse. I think it might. Anyway, anyone else have this

> problem? Any suggestions before I lose it?????!!!!

>

> R.

> Mom to (6, ds) and Grace (3)

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Screen for PANDAS.

Pamela

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On Behalf Of jdy_kreger

Sent: Wednesday, April 22, 2009 1:55 PM

Subject: [ ] Obsessing

Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

obsessive conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought

--usually food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts

before, but have never figured out the cause.

Thanks.

Judy

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Thanks, Pamela. That came to mind, but to my knowledge she has never had strep.

Might be worth screening for anyway.

Judy

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My son does this too. Today he was stuck on Miley Cyrus the whole way to

school....he keep talking about and how he needed to call her. Hehe usually its

video games, He has improved in a lot of areas but this has remained

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> Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

> obsessive conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought

> --usually food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts

> before, but have never figured out the cause.

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> Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

obsessive conversation today.

At my house, this was eliminated with anti-fungals, anti-virals, and B12.

Dana

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May be clostridia or PANDAS. We have this also, and are in the process of

screening for PANDAS. His ASO titer came back sl elevated, so will be repeating

this tomorrow.

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> Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

obsessive conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought

--usually food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts

before, but have never figured out the cause.

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> Thanks.

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> Judy

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My son does that too.  Has anyone responded? I haven't seen any replies to your

post.

Thanks,

From: jdy_kreger <sjkreger@...>

Subject: [ ] Obsessing

Received: Wednesday, April 22, 2009, 1:54 PM

Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with obsessive

conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought --usually

food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts before, but

have never figured out the cause.

Thanks.

Judy

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Have you tried inositol? It helps here with obsessive stuff.

Hope this helps,

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Sent: Thursday, April 23, 2009 1:18 PM

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My son does that too. Has anyone responded? I haven't seen any replies to

your post.

Thanks,

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Subject: [ ] Obsessing

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Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

obsessive conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought

--usually food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts

before, but have never figured out the cause.

Thanks.

Judy

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I just bought inositol. It doesn't have the choline with it. My son is 82 pounds

The mgs on

one pill is 500 mg. I cut it in half. How long until you see a difference? Is

250 mg too small

a dose for someone who weighs 82 pounds? Should I just give him one 500 mg pill?

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>Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

>obsessive conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought

>--usually food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts

>before, but have never figured out the cause.

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>Thanks.

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>Judy

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Do you need prescription for this? Where can i get this? Mine is 45 lbs, how

much should he gets? Pls. Help.

On Apr 23, 2009, at 10:25 AM, " " <hisblueeyes@...> wrote:

Have you tried inositol? It helps here with obsessive stuff.

Hope this helps,

http://www.recoveringnicholas.com

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Sent: Thursday, April 23, 2009 1:18 PM

Subject: Re: [ ] Obsessing

My son does that too. Has anyone responded? I haven't seen any replies to

your post.

Thanks,

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Subject: [ ] Obsessing

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Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

obsessive conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought

--usually food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts

before, but have never figured out the cause.

Thanks.

Judy

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Ourkidsasd.com carries the kirkman brand of this. I give my son 3 scoops a

day - he's 60 pounds.

Hope this helps,

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Sent: Thursday, April 23, 2009 2:29 PM

Subject: Re: [ ] Obsessing

Do you need prescription for this? Where can i get this? Mine is 45 lbs, how

much should he gets? Pls. Help.

On Apr 23, 2009, at 10:25 AM, " " <hisblueeyes@...

<mailto:hisblueeyes%40comcast.net> > wrote:

Have you tried inositol? It helps here with obsessive stuff.

Hope this helps,

http://www.recoveringnicholas.com

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1566597819

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Subject: Re: [ ] Obsessing

My son does that too. Has anyone responded? I haven't seen any replies to

your post.

Thanks,

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Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

obsessive conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought

--usually food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts

before, but have never figured out the cause.

Thanks.

Judy

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I give my 60 pound son 1.5 grams per day. So I would work up to a higher dose

and see if this will work for him.

The one I give doesn’t have the choline with it either.

I saw a difference within a couple of days from what I can remember.

Hope this helps,

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Sent: Thursday, April 23, 2009 2:16 PM

Subject: RE: [ ] Obsessing

I just bought inositol. It doesn't have the choline with it. My son is 82 pounds

The mgs on

one pill is 500 mg. I cut it in half. How long until you see a difference? Is

250 mg too small

a dose for someone who weighs 82 pounds? Should I just give him one 500 mg pill?

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>Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

>obsessive conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought

>--usually food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts

>before, but have never figured out the cause.

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>Thanks.

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>Judy

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Thanks, .  I certainly will give it a shot.  My little guy is really

obessing w/ the Wiggles.  He seems to be stuck at this subject for while some

time.  All he does is sing/dance/perform the Wiggles all day. 

Many thanks.

Amber

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Sent: Thursday, April 23, 2009 11:42:17 AM

Subject: RE: [ ] Obsessing

Ourkidsasd.com carries the kirkman brand of this. I give my son 3 scoops a

day - he's 60 pounds.

Hope this helps,

http://www.recoveri ngnicholas. com

http://www.facebook .com/profile. php?id=156659781 9 & ref=profile

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On Behalf Of Amber Bui

Sent: Thursday, April 23, 2009 2:29 PM

Subject: Re: [ ] Obsessing

Do you need prescription for this? Where can i get this? Mine is 45 lbs, how

much should he gets? Pls. Help.

On Apr 23, 2009, at 10:25 AM, " " <hisblueeyes@ comcast.net

<mailto:hisblueeyes %40comcast. net> > wrote:

Have you tried inositol? It helps here with obsessive stuff.

Hope this helps,

http://www.recoveri ngnicholas. com

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My son does that too. Has anyone responded? I haven't seen any replies to

your post.

Thanks,

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Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

obsessive conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought

--usually food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts

before, but have never figured out the cause.

Thanks.

Judy

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How?

[ ] Obsessing

Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

obsessive conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought

--usually food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts

before, but have never figured out the cause.

Thanks.

Judy

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With my son apparently viruses caused such an obsessive talk. Virastop was

amazing for this issue.

Galina

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> Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

obsessive conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought

--usually food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts

before, but have never figured out the cause.

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> Judy

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For us it's yeast.

Barb

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With my son apparently viruses caused such an obsessive talk. Virastop was

amazing for this issue.

Galina

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> Any ideas as to what causes obsessing? My dd is driving me crazy with

obsessive conversation today. She's stuck and just can't let go of a thought

--usually food related -- once she gets started. We've seen this in spurts

before, but have never figured out the cause.

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> Thanks.

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> Judy

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Has anyone had their child obsess over ANY sweets? I have never been able to really "explain, describe, put words to" my dd's obsession with sweets. Others "get it" when we have been out for a meal and she has been allowed to get a dessert. She diggs in fast and furious and it is like she has never tasted something so totally yummy before in her life and she had better hurry and eat it before anyone comes near her, or she has been a desserted island without for food for weeks. My mom was with us one time and her reaction was of concern and gentle told my dd "granny is right here and it is ok to eat it slow and I will not allow anyone to take it from you",,,,,,,,,LOL,,My dd would eat a food she absolutely dislikes it I told her there was chocolate cake for dessert if she ate it all.

When she was younger, if we made cookies or cake, she would stand guard over it until she could get some.

The way I have handled it so far is like I would with a non as child. Is there something diff I should be doing?

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Sounds like a great idea to try! It seems like common sense to just have a 'mini

family meeting' or one-on-one (depending on the child), and simply ask for our

child's thought about what would work better for them--then tell them that we

can try it and see how it feels for them and if they change their minds and want

to go back to the 'old' way, that's fine, too. This would work for many

issues...I did this with my other NT children, but only sometimes for my dd.

I don't always know if she's really grasping it so it stays with her long term

or not. I feel like a broken record, repeating things so often...you know, I

have to do that with my husband, too. I don't know if it's that they don't

remember from day to day, or if they just don't want to because it doesn't

matter to them (i.e.: clean clothes don't get thrown on the floor if you change

your mind about wearing them, dirty clothes go in the hamper and should not be

worn until they are clean--especially when you can see the yuk on them from them

wiping their hands on them). Yes, I've tries leaving written reminders, but they

don't always notice them, even though I leave them in the most obvious places.

I'm confused about what to do and it's burning me out.

One of the ways I knew

Dylan marched to the beat of his own drummer was when we had a breakthough in

2nd grade or so. Dylan would have meltdowns at the age of 1 and on so one of

the things I read and was told by pre-school staff was to give verbal warnings

when he would run out of time " 15 minutes before we leave for school " " 5

minutes before it's time to turn off your video game " etc... I was so

consistent with how I did it too but he would always have a meltdown when it was

time to turn it off/leave/whatever. And sometimes he'd have a mini-meltdown

with the warnings too. When Dylan was about 7 or 8, he told me the warnings

make it worse b/c then all he's thinking about is that he'll have to stop what

he's doing soon and that makes him sad and he can't concentrate on what he's

doing anymore. LIGHTBULB. This was the rest of our conversation...

> Me: So you don't like it when I give you warnings?

> Dylan: No, it makes me so sad and mad and then I can't play my game right.

> Me: So you think it would be better to just say 'Time to go' and then

you'll turn it off and we'll go?

> Dylan: Yes, Mom. Please do that.

> Me: Are you serious? You'd really prefer that?

> Dylan: Yes, Mom, I promise.

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> So we started the new way (going against every parenting book I had ever

read) with no verbal warnings for transitions and the meltdowns stopped almost

immediately. If he ever started to get upset, I'd remind him that he asked me

not to give warnings and then he'd stop. I was STUNNED that it worked!

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> In a message dated 2/20/2008 11:18:15 PM Eastern Standard Time,

pjpoo78363 (DOT) com writes:

> we don't tell our son when things are going to happen either. It's not

worth it. We used to tell him so it would give him something to look forward to

and make him happy, it back fired. We were driven so nuts about it that when

the time came we weren't looking forward to it any longer.

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> OMG that is SO true for us too! DS hates surprises but he also hates not

knowing where he's going, what we're doing, etc. You just can't win sometimes

>

> Barbara

> " We learned more from a three minute record than we ever learned in school " --

Bruce Springsteen, No Surrender

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