Re: What IS it with tying shoes?

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My son can't tie his shoes and doesn't use a fork. He is very picky about foods and loud noises drive him crazy and give him a headache.Deana in ALSent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: PattiAnnB <pabernius@...>Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 07:47:29 -0700 (PDT) < >Subject: ( ) What IS it with tying shoes? Hi All:Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS SHOES!!!!Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I spend my entire morning saying ", tie your shoes. , TIE your shoes! , tie your SHOES!" He knows how to tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school. Could we focus, please?And why does it upsetme so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!Thanks for letting me vent.Patti

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Hi, Patti. You are definitely NOT alone!! Shoes are a nightmare...as are skates,

buttons and any other task that requires fine motor skills. He can do it...but

it sure takes a looooonnnnnngggggg time! Could drive a Saint to drink!!

>

> Hi All:

>

> Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably

disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS

SHOES!!!!

>

> Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I

spend my entire morning saying " , tie your shoes. , TIE your

shoes! , tie your SHOES! " He knows how to tie them, but he has this

whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot

quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like

he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and

remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school.

Could we focus, please?

>

> And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly

little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes

with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?

>

> Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!

>

> Thanks for letting me vent.

>

> Patti

>

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I promise this will solve your problem! These stretchy lock laces look good and

fixed something that was a constant irritation. DS can tie his too, but did it

so sloppy, within minutes they were untied, walked on and ruined.

Now even husband and I have ordered them for our shoes. Sorry, this sounds like

an ad, but these things are worth every penny!

here is the link:

http://www.locklaces.com/

Sue in Tn

>

> Hi All:

>

> Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably

disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS

SHOES!!!!

>

> Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I

spend my entire morning saying " , tie your shoes. , TIE your

shoes! , tie your SHOES! " He knows how to tie them, but he has this

whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot

quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like

he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and

remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school.

Could we focus, please?

>

> And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly

little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes

with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?

>

> Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!

>

> Thanks for letting me vent.

>

> Patti

>

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My son is 12 and still has trouble, I want to bang my head against the wall sometimes. I usually end up doing his laces as we will run late if I don't. Now, the funny thing is he can tie the right shoe without any problem, but the left shoe uuughhh! I know the fine motor skills is an issue when tying shoes, but I also wonder if it has to due with crossing the mid line when the kids are reaching over and tying their shoe.

Dawn

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Oh I can so relate to that. Half the time she goes off with her shoes untied (its either that or miss the bus).

From: pabernius@...Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 07:47:29 -0700Subject: ( ) What IS it with tying shoes?

Hi All:Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS SHOES!!!!Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I spend my entire morning saying ", tie your shoes. , TIE your shoes! , tie your SHOES!" He knows how to tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school. Could we focus, please?And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!Thanks for letting me vent.Patti

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Liz uses a fork if we make her, but will eat anything with her fingers. Today it was salad

From: deabakcp@...Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 23:29:34 +0000Subject: Re: ( ) What IS it with tying shoes?

My son can't tie his shoes and doesn't use a fork. He is very picky about foods and loud noises drive him crazy and give him a headache.Deana in AL

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From: PattiAnnB <pabernius >

Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 07:47:29 -0700 (PDT)

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Subject: ( ) What IS it with tying shoes?

Hi All:Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS SHOES!!!!Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I spend my entire morning saying ", tie your shoes. , TIE your shoes! , tie your SHOES!" He knows how to tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school. Could we focus, please?And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!Thanks for letting me vent.Patti

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Patti,

I love this thread. My son is 12 and I still have to get z-strap sneaks. He

will not tie his shoes. I'm sure he ccan, it just takes forever and he is neve

pleased at the outcome.

I agree...the space shuttle comment made me giggle.

I've always siad he can put 2670 piece lego set together in a day but cannot

graps the ends of string.

smiles

bobbie in NJ

>

> Hi All:

>

> Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably

disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS

SHOES!!!!

>

> Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I

spend my entire morning saying " , tie your shoes. , TIE your

shoes! , tie your SHOES! " He knows how to tie them, but he has this

whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot

quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like

he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and

remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school.

Could we focus, please?

>

> And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly

little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes

with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?

>

> Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!

>

> Thanks for letting me vent.

>

> Patti

>

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Sue:Thank you so much for this information. Turns out there's a shoe store right down the road from me that sells these laces and I bought three pair over the weekend. This morning's getting-dressed routine was a snap since we didn't have the endless shoe-tying issue to deal with.I'm going to give myself a break on the shoe tying for awhile.Thanks for saving me!PattiFrom: Mimi

<sue@...> Sent: Sat, May 1, 2010 7:06:43 AMSubject: ( ) Re: What IS it with tying shoes?

I promise this will solve your problem! These stretchy lock laces look good and fixed something that was a constant irritation. DS can tie his too, but did it so sloppy, within minutes they were untied, walked on and ruined.

Now even husband and I have ordered them for our shoes. Sorry, this sounds like an ad, but these things are worth every penny!

here is the link:

http://www.locklaces.com/

Sue in Tn

>

> Hi All:

>

> Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS SHOES!!!!

>

> Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I spend my entire morning saying ", tie your shoes. , TIE your shoes! , tie your SHOES!" He knows how to tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school. Could we focus, please?

>

> And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?

>

> Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!

>

> Thanks for letting me vent.

>

> Patti

>

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I love this thread as well ...

My sweet aspie son is 11 and we have gone to the skater type shoes, that you can just slip on and off after you have them tied where they are comfortable ... (you know like DC's or VAN's ..). And no we don't spend a ton of money on shoes .... Marshalls ... the best store ever!!! Anyway, my son hated tying shoes so much, he did not even want to put them ON HIMSELF. We used to have velcro ones, but he CAN'T STAND the feel or sound, so this is what we have done. I like the idea of the locking laces though, I am checking into that for him and ME!

Sara

From: riveryak2003 <riveryak2003@...> Sent: Mon, May 3, 2010 7:05:02 AMSubject: ( ) Re: What IS it with tying shoes?

Patti,I love this thread. My son is 12 and I still have to get z-strap sneaks. He will not tie his shoes. I'm sure he ccan, it just takes forever and he is neve pleased at the outcome. I agree...the space shuttle comment made me giggle.I've always siad he can put 2670 piece lego set together in a day but cannot graps the ends of string.smilesbobbie in NJ>> Hi All:> > Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS SHOES!!!!> > Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I spend my entire morning saying ", tie your

shoes. , TIE your shoes! , tie your SHOES!" He knows how to tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school. Could we focus, please?> > And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?> > Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!> > Thanks for letting me vent.> > Patti>

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Velvet:I absolutely agree! If someone had told me that shoe-tying is hard for a lot of Aspies, I would have breathed a sigh of relief and moved on to the slip on shoes much earlier!PattiFrom: tdhssp <johnvel@...> Sent: Sun, May 2, 2010 9:29:39 AMSubject: ( ) Re: What IS it with tying shoes?

Honestly, I think difficulty with shoe-tying ought to be on a check-list of Aspergers symptoms! ; )

Velvet

>

> Hi All:

>

> Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS SHOES!!!!

>

> Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I spend my entire morning saying ", tie your shoes. , TIE your shoes! , tie your SHOES!" He knows how to tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school. Could we focus, please?

>

> And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?

>

> Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!

>

> Thanks for letting me vent.

>

> Patti

>

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I've said the same thing...my ds can put elaborate lego things together, but can't ties his shoes. How about typing? My son is having trouble with this.Deana in BirminghamSent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: "riveryak2003" <riveryak2003@...>Date: Mon, 03 May 2010 13:05:02 -0000< >Subject: ( ) Re: What IS it with tying shoes? Patti,I love this thread. My son is 12 and I still have to get z-strap sneaks. He will not tie his shoes. I'm sure he ccan, it just takes forever and he is neve pleased at the outcome. I agree...the space shuttle comment made me giggle.I've always siad he can put 2670 piece lego set together in a day but cannot graps the ends of string.smilesbobbie in NJ>> Hi All:> > Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS SHOES!!!!> > Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I spend my entire morning saying " , tie your shoes. , TIE your shoes! , tie your SHOES! " He knows how to tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school. Could we focus, please?> > And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?> > Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!> > Thanks for letting me vent.> > Patti>

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We gave up about a year ago. Sketchers makes a really good sports shoe that is velcro. You have to look closely to even know they're velcro.Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: PattiAnnB <pabernius@...>Date: Mon, 3 May 2010 07:20:14 -0700 (PDT)< >Subject: Re: ( ) Re: What IS it with tying shoes? Sue:Thank you so much for this information. Turns out there's a shoe store right down the road from me that sells these laces and I bought three pair over the weekend. This morning's getting-dressed routine was a snap since we didn't have the endless shoe-tying issue to deal with.I'm going to give myself a break on the shoe tying for awhile.Thanks for saving me!PattiFrom: Mimi<suelowerydesign> Sent: Sat, May 1, 2010 7:06:43 AMSubject: ( ) Re: What IS it with tying shoes? I promise this will solve your problem! These stretchy lock laces look good and fixed something that was a constant irritation. DS can tie his too, but did it so sloppy, within minutes they were untied, walked on and ruined.Now even husband and I have ordered them for our shoes. Sorry, this sounds like an ad, but these things are worth every penny!here is the link:http://www.locklaces.com/Sue in Tn>> Hi All:> > Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS SHOES!!!!> > Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I spend my entire morning saying ", tie your shoes. , TIE your shoes! , tie your SHOES!" He knows how to tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school. Could we focus, please?> > And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?> > Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!> > Thanks for letting me vent.> > Patti>

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I'm glad to hear I'm not the only parent who's had trouble with this. My

11-yr-old finally is tying his shoes, although loosely.

Here's a link to a few shoe tying videos including one called How to tie an

amazing no-slip shoe knot.

http://bit.ly/a7qcIg

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I panicked the year I couldn't find shoes big enough with velcro. lol.

Now they make them in larger sizes but years back, it was impossible!

I would say to buy velcro shoes but also, get an OT eval for fine motor

and have someone working on these life skills. We had an OT working on

skills like cutting with a knife and shoe tying and now my ds is 21 yo

and he cuts fine. He can tie shoes but he prefers to slide into his

shoes and always has. Funny thing, I realized that I slide into my

shoes too even though I can tie just fine.

Roxanna

Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

( ) What IS it with tying shoes?

Hi All:

Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably

disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT

TIE HIS SHOES!!!!

Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel

like I spend my entire morning saying " , tie your shoes. 

, TIE your shoes!  , tie your SHOES! "   He knows how to

tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are

even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he

has to add about twelve double-knots.  It's like he gets lost in this

dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him that,

hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school.  Could we

focus, please?

And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one

piddly little task?  Would I be the world's worst mother if I just

stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick to

slip-ons?

Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!

Thanks for letting me vent.

Patti

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I've been thinking my son was the only one not able (or unwilling) to learn to

tie his shoes! He is 14 now. I've been buying him shoes made by Salomon that

have the Quicklace Technology which is similar to the locklaces mentioned. I

order them thru www.Zappos.com . they are great shoes but come with a price. I

think I'll get a few of those locklaces for him too. He also is one that prefers

eating with his fingers instead of a fork and has problems cutting with a knife.

I was thinking maybe an OT was needed. Thanks for mentioning that it helped.

>

> I panicked the year I couldn't find shoes big enough with velcro. lol.

> Now they make them in larger sizes but years back, it was impossible!

> I would say to buy velcro shoes but also, get an OT eval for fine motor

> and have someone working on these life skills. We had an OT working on

> skills like cutting with a knife and shoe tying and now my ds is 21 yo

> and he cuts fine. He can tie shoes but he prefers to slide into his

> shoes and always has. Funny thing, I realized that I slide into my

> shoes too even though I can tie just fine.

>

>

> Roxanna

> Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

>

>

> ( ) What IS it with tying shoes?

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>

>

>

>

>

> Hi All:

>

> Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably

> disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT

> TIE HIS SHOES!!!!

>

> Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel

> like I spend my entire morning saying " , tie your shoes. 

> , TIE your shoes!  , tie your SHOES! "   He knows how to

> tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are

> even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he

> has to add about twelve double-knots.  It's like he gets lost in this

> dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him that,

> hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school.  Could we

> focus, please?

>

> And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one

> piddly little task?  Would I be the world's worst mother if I just

> stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick to

> slip-ons?

>

> Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!

>

> Thanks for letting me vent.

>

> Patti

>

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I am so glad to read your comment. My son is 12 and I was thinking he will never get the shoe tying and using the knife and fork. He is slowly getting the shoe tying but they come untied easily since he doesn't get the tightness of the knot. He will use a knife and fork but it is a painstakingly slow process with food usually flying off of the plate at some point when either the fork or knife slips on the plate. We keep practicing. : )

I am new to this sight and I love it! I am trying to start a support group in Spring-Ford schools but am kind of at a loss as to how to go about that. The learning support teacher said that she would help me but I need ideas for a questionnaire to go home to parents to see if there is any interest. Any ideas on how to word this letter?

Also, love the idea of the med bracelet. He is going to the boy scout jamboree and that will be great for him to have if he gets lost in the mass of boys there.

Thanks,

Gloria

-- ( ) What IS it with tying shoes?> > > > > > > Hi All:> > Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably > disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT > TIE HIS SHOES!!!!> > Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel > like I spend my entire morning saying ", tie your shoes. > , TIE your shoes! , tie your SHOES!" He knows how to > tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are > even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he > has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like he gets lost in this > dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him that, > hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school. Could we > focus, please?> > And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one > piddly little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just > stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick to > slip-ons?> > Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!> > Thanks for letting me vent.> > Patti>

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My daughter is 14 and can still barely tie her shoes. I either double tie them

for her or buy shoes that don't have to be tied. Choose your battles I guess...

>

> Hi All:

>

> Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably

disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS

SHOES!!!!

>

> Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I

spend my entire morning saying " , tie your shoes. , TIE your

shoes! , tie your SHOES! " He knows how to tie them, but he has this

whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot

quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like

he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and

remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school.

Could we focus, please?

>

> And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly

little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes

with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?

>

> Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!

>

> Thanks for letting me vent.

>

> Patti

>

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these stories are making me feel so much better!

From: gaaspiemom@...Date: Sat, 8 May 2010 16:10:50 +0000Subject: ( ) Re: What IS it with tying shoes?

My daughter is 14 and can still barely tie her shoes. I either double tie them for her or buy shoes that don't have to be tied. Choose your battles I guess...>> Hi All:> > Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could probably disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT TIE HIS SHOES!!!!> > Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel like I spend my entire morning saying ", tie your shoes. , TIE your shoes! , tie your SHOES!" He knows how to tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he has to add about twelve double-knots. It's like he gets lost in this dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him that, hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school. Could we focus, please?> > And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this one piddly little task? Would I be the world's worst mother if I just stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick to slip-ons?> > Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!> > Thanks for letting me vent.> > Patti>

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Yes it has helped so don't give up. Also remember, they don't want to

learn how because it's hard for them! So it will take a lot of effort

and support to make progress as they are older and less likely to try.

The OT had him practice cutting with plastic silverware on gummy worms.

He then got to eat the remaining victims. So he didn't mind as much.

Roxanna

Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

( ) What IS it with tying shoes?

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>

>

>

>

>

> Hi All:

>

> Please tell me I am not the only parent of an Aspie who could

probably

> disassemble and reassemble the space shuttle blindfolded, but CAN NOT

> TIE HIS SHOES!!!!

>

> Actually, he CAN tie his shoes, it just takes him forever and I feel

> like I spend my entire morning saying " , tie your shoes. 

> , TIE your shoes!  , tie your SHOES! "   He knows how

to

> tie them, but he has this whole routine of making sure the laces are

> even, then he can never get the knot quite the way he wants, then he

> has to add about twelve double-knots.  It's like he gets lost in

this

> dreamworld of shoe tying and I have to wake him up and remind him

that,

> hello, mommy has to go to work and you have to go to school.  Could

we

> focus, please?

>

> And why does it upset me so much that he has such trouble with this

one

> piddly little task?  Would I be the world's worst mother if I just

> stopped buying shoes with laces that need to be tied and just stick

to

> slip-ons?

>

> Gees, it's only 9:45 a.m. and I could really use a drink!

>

> Thanks for letting me vent.

>

> Patti

>