Guest guest Posted September 1, 2010 Report Share Posted September 1, 2010 Hi Joy! I don't have any wonderful advice but I wanted you to know HOW MUCH I can relate!!! My Aspie son is 8 with secondary ADHD, OCD & Anxiety. When he's great, he's a joy, but when it's bad, IT'S BAD! Sometimes I think I'M going to end up in the looney bin myself! I also have a son with Cerebral Palsy, so it's truly neverending. I have a great husband who does A LOT with the CP son (because it's physical) but he defers the Aspie struggles to me. It sucks! I try to remind myself to take it day by day (hour to hour, minute to minute, second to second if necessary). I seek out success stories of autistic (esp Aspies) who are grown or adults so I know there is hope. I invest as much of my energy as I can NOW hoping it will make it worth it in the long term. I also run a support group for special needs moms here where I live. It has been a true Godsend. Do you know if there is anything like that where you are? Big hug from someone who gets it!! Lori Lashley ---- " joyberthelot@... " <joyberthelot@...> wrote: > My son is 7 years old and is a ASPIE, also has Celiac Disease and possibly tourrett's and ADHD. I have been dealing with this since he was 4 years old. I am a single mom and the pressure of him, the school and finances are finally getting to me. I feel like a caged animal ready to pounce. My parents understand to an extent...their solution is just to pray and just count my blessing. (Which I agree.....BUT that doesn't help when you feel like you are screaming inside). Any of you parents out there feel the same way and how do you relieve the stress and pressure. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2010 Report Share Posted September 1, 2010 Hi there.Hope you are ok.We all go through this and our kids need us to be 100% or we can't help them. We need to cope to help them cope. This is all good but hard to maintain.I go through daily anxiety for my ds 15 aspie. I worry all day long till I have in my reins again.I started yoga 3 months ago. This has helped me considerably. My yoga teacher is excellent, last week she put up with me crying all through the lesson and helped me to let it go. Yoga helps, so does talking, this group is essentail as you know you are not the only one tearing your hair out. We cab only do what we know to do, so we keep reading, listening and learning to help them best.Above all believe you are doing the best you can and be proud:)KelI will keep climbing the mountain.Sent from Kel's iPhone On 02/09/2010, at 2:55 AM, "joyberthelot@..." <joyberthelot@...> wrote: My son is 7 years old and is a ASPIE, also has Celiac Disease and possibly tourrett's and ADHD. I have been dealing with this since he was 4 years old. I am a single mom and the pressure of him, the school and finances are finally getting to me. I feel like a caged animal ready to pounce. My parents understand to an extent...their solution is just to pray and just count my blessing. (Which I agree.....BUT that doesn't help when you feel like you are screaming inside). Any of you parents out there feel the same way and how do you relieve the stress and pressure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2010 Report Share Posted September 1, 2010 I'm sorry you're going through a tough time right now! We all have to find ways to relieve stress. Do you have any activities that you can do just for you and proper childcare for your son? Like they say endorphins help our children cope, sometimes exercise or sporting activities can be a stress reliever. My husband is active duty and I am by myself primarily with my children, though I do not have the stress of finances. I try to find something each day to do for myself that I forget about the crazy things that happened that day. It may be as simple as a favorite tv show. Also, do you have family nearby for respite care. Sometimes you just need to get things done by yourself. I sincerely hope things start looking brighter soon. You are not alone, perhaps there is a support group you could join in your area? Please let us know how things are going. Best Wishes, Becky Fisher From: "joyberthelot@..." <joyberthelot@...> Sent: Wed, September 1, 2010 10:55:25 AMSubject: ( ) Tired and Weary My son is 7 years old and is a ASPIE, also has Celiac Disease and possibly tourrett's and ADHD. I have been dealing with this since he was 4 years old. I am a single mom and the pressure of him, the school and finances are finally getting to me. I feel like a caged animal ready to pounce. My parents understand to an extent...their solution is just to pray and just count my blessing. (Which I agree.....BUT that doesn't help when you feel like you are screaming inside). Any of you parents out there feel the same way and how do you relieve the stress and pressure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2010 Report Share Posted September 1, 2010 You are not alone. My husband is in the Navy and was/is gone a lot. So even though I am not a single parent I understand where you are coming from. I started knitting. LOL. Crazy, but it helps. Also, I found a local Christian Mothers group and hope to network from there. Finding people who get it can be hard some times, but when you find those ones... it's so helpful. Mom to my 4 girls Madeline, Cayla, Arabella, & Vincenza "You are the TRIP I did not take You are the PEARLS I cannot buy You are the blue Italian LAKE YOU are my piece of foreign SKY" ---Anne ---- ( ) Tired and Weary My son is 7 years old and is a ASPIE, also has Celiac Disease and possibly tourrett's and ADHD. I have been dealing with this since he was 4 years old. I am a single mom and the pressure of him, the school and finances are finally getting to me. I feel like a caged animal ready to pounce. My parents understand to an extent...their solution is just to pray and just count my blessing. (Which I agree.....BUT that doesn't help when you feel like you are screaming inside). Any of you parents out there feel the same way and how do you relieve the stress and pressure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2010 Report Share Posted September 1, 2010 Tired and weary, do u live in Texas? Because if you do the state can help you with respite and other services if you are not already on them. If you live in Texas I can give you phone numbers that will help you. Been there, still there, PJFrom: mbaet <mbaet@...>Subject: Re: ( ) Tired and Weary Date: Wednesday, September 1, 2010, 6:32 PM I'm sorry you're going through a tough time right now! We all have to find ways to relieve stress. Do you have any activities that you can do just for you and proper childcare for your son? Like they say endorphins help our children cope, sometimes exercise or sporting activities can be a stress reliever. My husband is active duty and I am by myself primarily with my children, though I do not have the stress of finances. I try to find something each day to do for myself that I forget about the crazy things that happened that day. It may be as simple as a favorite tv show. Also, do you have family nearby for respite care. Sometimes you just need to get things done by yourself. I sincerely hope things start looking brighter soon. You are not alone, perhaps there is a support group you could join in your area? Please let us know how things are going. Best Wishes, Becky Fisher From: "joyberthelot@..." <joyberthelot@...> Sent: Wed, September 1, 2010 10:55:25 AMSubject: ( ) Tired and Weary My son is 7 years old and is a ASPIE, also has Celiac Disease and possibly tourrett's and ADHD. I have been dealing with this since he was 4 years old. I am a single mom and the pressure of him, the school and finances are finally getting to me. I feel like a caged animal ready to pounce. My parents understand to an extent...their solution is just to pray and just count my blessing. (Which I agree.....BUT that doesn't help when you feel like you are screaming inside). Any of you parents out there feel the same way and how do you relieve the stress and pressure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2010 Report Share Posted September 1, 2010 YES!!! My 5 year old was just DX with AS, ADHD, and ODD! I am not familiar with Celiac Disease, but I am familiar with the single mom side and the absolute frustations of feeling alone. Just tonight i had to carry my 50 pound boy upstairs and place him in the bathtub because he refused and nothing worked. It was exhausting and then to give him a bath while he was screaming. In the end, I was getting him out and he didn't want to get out! He couldn't calm himself down and it was a nightmare. I do believe prayer works, but I also believe in finding support in others. If you ever want to chat or vent, feel free to e-mail me! Best of luck, Amber > > My son is 7 years old and is a ASPIE, also has Celiac Disease and possibly tourrett's and ADHD. I have been dealing with this since he was 4 years old. I am a single mom and the pressure of him, the school and finances are finally getting to me. I feel like a caged animal ready to pounce. My parents understand to an extent...their solution is just to pray and just count my blessing. (Which I agree.....BUT that doesn't help when you feel like you are screaming inside). Any of you parents out there feel the same way and how do you relieve the stress and pressure. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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