Sleeps with mom

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Hi group been awhile since I've written but have been reading the posts..

My 12 almost 13 year old Aspie son has been doing something consistantly since

he was three years old and when I was still married came into the bedroom to

sleep...I thought it was okay and would go away as he got older but then I

divorced 7 years ago and it has gotten worse. He falls asleep very good at

night and sleeps till about midnight then gets up and climbs into bed with me.

He says he is having bad dreams...problem is he's getting to old to sleep with

mom. Any ideas how I could get him to stay in his own bed all night? Thanks.

Marcia

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Hi,

I would ask the doctor for a sleeping test done at the hospital overnight. It could be a medical problem...sleep agnea, night terrors, even night seizures..

( ) Sleeps with momHi group been awhile since I've written but have been reading the posts..My 12 almost 13 year old Aspie son has been doing something consistantly since he was three years old and when I was still married came into the bedroom to sleep...I thought it was okay and would go away as he got older but then I divorced 7 years ago and it has gotten worse. He falls asleep very good at night and sleeps till about midnight then gets up and climbs into bed with me. He says he is having bad dreams...problem is he's getting to old to sleep with mom. Any ideas how I could get him to stay in his own bed all night? Thanks.Marcia

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I know what youmean...he seems to jump in bed with me and sleeps better...never wakes up and I have to wake him up in the am. I think his sense of security is messed up with not having dad around but sometimes and the commercial he saw...and his dad has gone from not sober to sober so many times....I think he's just confused. I'm confused by dads behavior too.

Marcia

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Hi,

I would ask the doctor for a sleeping test done at the hospital overnight. It could be a medical problem...sleep agnea, night terrors, even night seizures..

( ) Sleeps with mom

Hi group been awhile since I've written but have been reading the posts..

My 12 almost 13 year old Aspie son has been doing something consistantly since he was three years old and when I was still married came into the bedroom to sleep...I thought it was okay and would go away as he got older but then I divorced 7 years ago and it has gotten worse. He falls asleep very good at night and sleeps till about midnight then gets up and climbs into bed with me. He says he is having bad dreams...problem is he's getting to old to sleep with mom. Any ideas how I could get him to stay in his own bed all night? Thanks.

Marcia

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My son still comes in with us sometimes. It helps if he has his dog with him.

My son is 13 and only rarely comes in with us now. Usually I let him stay a few

minutes then we all get too warm or crowded. Sometimes his dad will take him

back to his room and lie down with him a little while.

We did " Family Bed " so both of my kids slept with us a long time. My daughter

only recently stopped and it was because I got her some pet rats! I don't know

why that has helped, but they're in their cage in her room and she never leaves

at night any more. I sometimes wonder if it's her need to protect them that

distracts her from her own fears. They also make noises that keep her from

hearing other noises. They are busy creatures at night running around. We put

newspaper down in the bottom of the cage the last time we cleaned it and by

morning their little hammock was completely jammed full of newspaper.

White noise makers can help drown out other noises that might be scary.

Anti-anxiety meds might help with nightmares. is on Lexapro.

One thing that Family Bed people do sometimes is get a mat or small mattress to

put on the floor so the child can sleep there at night if they get scared. This

will disrupt your sleep less anyway.

Miriam

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> Hi group been awhile since I've written but have been reading the posts..

>

> My 12 almost 13 year old Aspie son has been doing something consistantly since

he was three years old and when I was still married came into the bedroom to

sleep...I thought it was okay and would go away as he got older but then I

divorced 7 years ago and it has gotten worse. He falls asleep very good at

night and sleeps till about midnight then gets up and climbs into bed with me.

He says he is having bad dreams...problem is he's getting to old to sleep with

mom. Any ideas how I could get him to stay in his own bed all night? Thanks.

>

> Marcia

>

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Miriam,

We did/do the Family Bed, too.

Our kids slowly tapered off, as well. Pets helped with our girls. Seems that it's our boys who would love to still hang out in our bed. he he.

The older they've gotten, and the bigger,,,,well,,,,,that's helped with them going back to their rooms, hee hee.

I'd say, relax. All in due time.

Attack and enjoy every minute of life.

Try everything.....protect everything.

Robin

From: mimasdprofile <callis4773@...>Subject: ( ) Re: Sleeps with mom Date: Tuesday, July 27, 2010, 5:10 PM

My son still comes in with us sometimes. It helps if he has his dog with him. My son is 13 and only rarely comes in with us now. Usually I let him stay a few minutes then we all get too warm or crowded. Sometimes his dad will take him back to his room and lie down with him a little while.We did "Family Bed" so both of my kids slept with us a long time. My daughter only recently stopped and it was because I got her some pet rats! I don't know why that has helped, but they're in their cage in her room and she never leaves at night any more. I sometimes wonder if it's her need to protect them that distracts her from her own fears. They also make noises that keep her from hearing other noises. They are busy creatures at night running around. We put newspaper down in the bottom of the cage the last time we cleaned it and by morning their little hammock was completely jammed full of newspaper.White noise makers can help drown out other

noises that might be scary. Anti-anxiety meds might help with nightmares. is on Lexapro.One thing that Family Bed people do sometimes is get a mat or small mattress to put on the floor so the child can sleep there at night if they get scared. This will disrupt your sleep less anyway.Miriam>> Hi group been awhile since I've written but have been reading the posts..> > My 12 almost 13 year old Aspie son has been doing something consistantly since he was three years old and when I was still married came into the bedroom to sleep...I thought it was okay and would go away as he got older but then I divorced 7 years ago and it has gotten worse. He falls

asleep very good at night and sleeps till about midnight then gets up and climbs into bed with me. He says he is having bad dreams...problem is he's getting to old to sleep with mom. Any ideas how I could get him to stay in his own bed all night? Thanks.> > Marcia>

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Many of these kids have sleep issues and research is indicative that once they

are asleep, the sleep they are getting isn't as productive as kids who aren't on

the spectrum. True night terrors could be an indication that they aren't

getting the right sleep. Also, a few of these kids have seizures during sleep.

My son has anxiety issues and needs someone next to him to fall asleep. Also,

while he hasn't been doing it lately (maybe he grew out of it), it is typical

for him to wake up in the middle of the night screaming at 2 AM. He currently

isn't on meds and we're started the process of having a 'sleep study' on him.

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> Hi group been awhile since I've written but have been reading the posts..

>

> My 12 almost 13 year old Aspie son has been doing something consistantly since

he was three years old and when I was still married came into the bedroom to

sleep...I thought it was okay and would go away as he got older but then I

divorced 7 years ago and it has gotten worse. He falls asleep very good at

night and sleeps till about midnight then gets up and climbs into bed with me.

He says he is having bad dreams...problem is he's getting to old to sleep with

mom. Any ideas how I could get him to stay in his own bed all night? Thanks.

>

> Marcia

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Hi Marcia,

My son had been sleeping with me since birth, and that was my choice, and we were both very happy with that for quite some time. He is 4 yrs old now, and we were starting to disrupt each other's sleep too much, so just a few months ago I changed our bed arrangement. Our "bed" was 2 queen mattresses stacked right on the floor, no frame -- I had done this when he was a baby to minimize injuries in case he should fall off. So a few months ago I bought just a twin mattress (no box spring, no frame) and put it in the spot where our queen mattress had been, and then I slid the queen mattress stack over so it is touching the twin. I'm not describing this very well, but now my son sleeps on the little twin mattress, which is kind of "sunken" compared to the taller queen mattresses, and we are still sleeping in the same room, with our "beds" right next to each other, but we are not touching, and we don't disturb each other

near as much. The sunken nature of his bed keeps him from rolling off of it and up on to my bed. I consider this a transitional step between co-sleeping and sleeping in separate rooms. Just an idea, and yes it does take up a lot of space, but those mattresses become trampolines during the day time.

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We've got a 1960's style metal trundle frame (kind that pops up) with a twin

mattress on top next to my son's bed. They aren't the exact height (couple

inches difference) and that works in a very similar manner.

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> Hi Marcia,

> My son had been sleeping with me since birth, and that was my choice, and we

were both very happy with that for quite some time.  He is 4 yrs old now, and we

were starting to disrupt each other's sleep too much, so just a few months ago I

changed our bed arrangement.  Our " bed " was 2 queen mattresses stacked right on

the floor, no frame -- I had done this when he was a baby to minimize injuries

in case he should fall off.  So a few months ago I bought just a twin mattress

(no box spring, no frame) and put it in the spot where our queen mattress had

been, and then I slid the queen mattress stack over so it is touching the twin. 

I'm not describing this very well, but now my son sleeps on the little twin

mattress, which is kind of " sunken "  compared to the taller queen mattresses, and

we are still sleeping in the same room, with our " beds " right next to each

other, but we are not touching, and we don't disturb each other near as much. 

The sunken

> nature of his bed keeps him from rolling off of it and up on to my bed.  I

consider this a transitional step between co-sleeping and sleeping in separate

rooms.  Just an idea, and yes it does take up a lot of space, but those

mattresses become trampolines during the day time.

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Thanks . We go tot he autism clinic in August so I will check with his doc and see what she recommends also. He seems to sleep like a rock when he falls asleep and when he comes in my bed he sleeps very soundly. I asked him about it again this morning and he told me he was worried about someone breaking in the house. Thaks for your input..

Marcia

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Many of these kids have sleep issues and research is indicative that once they are asleep, the sleep they are getting isn't as productive as kids who aren't on the spectrum. True night terrors could be an indication that they aren't getting the right sleep. Also, a few of these kids have seizures during sleep.

My son has anxiety issues and needs someone next to him to fall asleep. Also, while he hasn't been doing it lately (maybe he grew out of it), it is typical for him to wake up in the middle of the night screaming at 2 AM. He currently isn't on meds and we're started the process of having a 'sleep study' on him.

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> Hi group been awhile since I've written but have been reading the posts..

>

> My 12 almost 13 year old Aspie son has been doing something consistantly since he was three years old and when I was still married came into the bedroom to sleep...I thought it was okay and would go away as he got older but then I divorced 7 years ago and it has gotten worse. He falls asleep very good at night and sleeps till about midnight then gets up and climbs into bed with me. He says he is having bad dreams...problem is he's getting to old to sleep with mom. Any ideas how I could get him to stay in his own bed all night? Thanks.

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> Marcia

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It's funny but my 13 yo (hfa) will sneak into the bed at all hours and I often do not realize he is there until I am squashed up at the top of the bed, unable to move because there is no room. He is taller than me now and takes up a good amount of space!

Roxanna

Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

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I don't have answers but my brother, who was never diagnosed with Aspergers, but certainly is, used to creep into sleep with mom and dad all the time. Finallly when he was about 13, they locked their bedroom door and sure enough, when they got up in the mornings he was sleeping curled up on the rug outside the door. At the age of 47 now, he does have sleep apnea, but I don't think he did then. He also was never able to have a good relationship with anyone. Was married, but the constant demanding behavior that he had broke up the marriage. He has never tried for a relationship again. But, he is a very successful bachelor, and holds down a good job, and they love him there.

( ) Sleeps with mom

Hi group been awhile since I've written but have been reading the posts..

My 12 almost 13 year old Aspie son has been doing something consistantly since he was three years old and when I was still married came into the bedroom to sleep...I thought it was okay and would go away as he got older but then I divorced 7 years ago and it has gotten worse. He falls asleep very good at night and sleeps till about midnight then gets up and climbs into bed with me. He says he is having bad

dreams...problem is he's getting to old to sleep with mom. Any ideas how I could get him to stay in his own bed all night? Thanks.

Marcia