Re: Preschool...he is going to freak out, are we doing the right thing???

[Guest guest]

We have never had a problem with our son wanting to get out and about. Rather stopping activities has been our difficulty. He is a sensory seeker, so anything new he usually gravitates to.

As far as seperation though, we had a lot of difficulty with that. It was so bad I couldn't even shower while he was awake or he would have to come in with me. I couldn't go to the store on my own. He was very dependent. We started by me taking short absences outside, telling him I was going out and would be right back, telling him I was taking garbage out, or whatever. He was upset, but after a few times, he was better. Then we started extending the time.

School has helped us with seperation also. Our son is 5 and is going to our local school district preschool. At first he would ask for me to stay, now he does not ask. He enjoys going and actually asks to go back sometimes after he gets home. He has made a few friends that he talks about by name.

If you decide to do it I am sure it will be pretty rough in the beginning. Just remember new schedules are hard on some kids, but once they understand that is how it is now they usually adapt.

Good Luck, keep us posted.

P.

From: jojubemom <karlakahler@...>Subject: ( ) Preschool...he is going to freak out, are we doing the right thing??? Date: Tuesday, February 1, 2011, 11:44 AM

Our son is 4. He has only been in daycare from 9 month til 18 months and I have stayed home the rest of the time. He does not like change, and does not like for me to leave him, anywhere. Even things that are normal, routine things that happen weekly, he is very ambivilent and anxious.We have a meeting today to go over the possibility of him joining the PPCD class for this semester. I think it will be good for him to have a routine and for the social experience. I do know that every day it is going to be a fight getting him up, dressed, into the car, and into the doors of the school.Is it worth it? Honest answers please. He does not need to go for academic reasons, but more for social skills and an added bonus is that I won't have to cart him to speech and OT two times a week, he'll get those services during the school day. And honestly, I need a break. He is difficult to deal with during the day, and I find myself

not making him do things (like nap) b/c I just don't want to fight with him.

[Guest guest]

I'd recommend sending him to preschool. The benefits (socialization, learning to

deal with separation)are great. It will probably be a hassle getting him there

during the first few weeks especially if your son has a lot of separation

issues. He'll have to deal with these issues in kindergarten and I found the

preschool staff a little bit better equipped to deal with it.

Caroline

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> Our son is 4. He has only been in daycare from 9 month til 18 months and I

have stayed home the rest of the time.

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> He does not like change, and does not like for me to leave him, anywhere.

Even things that are normal, routine things that happen weekly, he is very

ambivilent and anxious.

>

> We have a meeting today to go over the possibility of him joining the PPCD

class for this semester. I think it will be good for him to have a routine and

for the social experience. I do know that every day it is going to be a fight

getting him up, dressed, into the car, and into the doors of the school.

>

> Is it worth it? Honest answers please.

>

> He does not need to go for academic reasons, but more for social skills and an

added bonus is that I won't have to cart him to speech and OT two times a week,

he'll get those services during the school day. And honestly, I need a break.

He is difficult to deal with during the day, and I find myself not making him do

things (like nap) b/c I just don't want to fight with him.

>