Re: Should I homeschool my rising 9th grader? Need to decide soon!

[Guest guest]

Hi there,

My heart goes out to you.

Is there any way, (at least until you get a dx that would have your husband pay the private tuition), that you could talk with the school and explain all that is going on? You mentioned that they were supportive and I just wonder if they could work with you...at least until testing is complete and you could get financial help from his dad?

We've also done school at home in the past and he is now IN school,. as well. To hear you mention that he likes the social aspect is amazing and it seems like you want to keep that going for him. I'd definitely talk to the school

Here's hoping. Hugs to you.

It really is simple. Just treat others kindly and with respect.

Robin

From: pacadia.rm <pacadia@...>Subject: ( ) Should I homeschool my rising 9th grader? Need to decide soon! Date: Sunday, April 4, 2010, 11:32 AM

Hello Everyone,Let me re-introduce myself. I'm Patti, from land. I have 2 sons, 5 and 13. The older one is nearing the end (finally!) of a school-requested assessment to see if he is on the Spectrum.The school wanted him assessed because he has not made any friends, and gets anxious in class sometimes-- sometimes to the point of tears. We had previously homeschooled, so this year (8th grade) was his first time in school since kindergarten.Despite his issues, he likes school and gets along with his classmates. His school is very small and supportive. Even more essential, I get 75% off tuition for both boys because I teach in the elementary program.Here's the problem-- my husband and I recently separated. He wants to file for divorce immediately. He also does not want to pay private school tuition-- even at the reduced rate. My lawyer says he can't be made to pay for private school, UNLESS, possibly, ds is diagnosed

with HFA or similar. Then the judge MIGHT rule that he needs to stay in his small, familiar school. I cannot pay for private school by myself. I'm extremely frugal, and still struggle to pay the rent and put food on the table.So, I'm considering homeschooling my 13 year old for 9th grade. I can't quit my job, so this would entail me being at work (7:30-4:30), little brother being at school, and the 13 year old home by himself.He's trustworthy to stay by himself, but I know he'd just sleep or be on the computer all day. There are no hs'ing families in our area with kids anywhere near his age, so a co-op is out. Our area is also not conducive to a young teen getting to activities by himself, so he'd be stuck in the house (or at least in the neighborhood) until I got home to give him rides (I might be able to get help from SAHM friends on this point).I worry he'd be lonely and isolated, and he's already shy and socially awkward

enough!Just to make matters worse, enrollment is next week! I need to figure this out fast. I'd appreciate any wisdom you have! Thanks.

[Guest guest]

We're home schooling our son and he's in the 10th grade. We began in the 8th

grade because of severe bullying and social issues in school. It was having a

bad effect on his health. He's done remarkably well and is very happy. I wish

you the best on your decision. I'm sure what ever you decide will be the right

thing for you both. If you need any help or need suggestions for curriculum,

feel free to email me privately.

Dawn Marie

>

> Hello Everyone,

>

> Let me re-introduce myself. I'm Patti, from land. I have 2 sons, 5 and

13. The older one is nearing the end (finally!) of a school-requested

assessment to see if he is on the Spectrum.

>

> The school wanted him assessed because he has not made any friends, and gets

anxious in class sometimes-- sometimes to the point of tears. We had previously

homeschooled, so this year (8th grade) was his first time in school since

kindergarten.

>

> Despite his issues, he likes school and gets along with his classmates. His

school is very small and supportive. Even more essential, I get 75% off tuition

for both boys because I teach in the elementary program.

>

> Here's the problem-- my husband and I recently separated. He wants to file

for divorce immediately. He also does not want to pay private school tuition--

even at the reduced rate. My lawyer says he can't be made to pay for private

school, UNLESS, possibly, ds is diagnosed with HFA or similar. Then the judge

MIGHT rule that he needs to stay in his small, familiar school. I cannot pay

for private school by myself. I'm extremely frugal, and still struggle to pay

the rent and put food on the table.

>

> So, I'm considering homeschooling my 13 year old for 9th grade. I can't quit

my job, so this would entail me being at work (7:30-4:30), little brother being

at school, and the 13 year old home by himself.

>

> He's trustworthy to stay by himself, but I know he'd just sleep or be on the

computer all day. There are no hs'ing families in our area with kids anywhere

near his age, so a co-op is out. Our area is also not conducive to a young teen

getting to activities by himself, so he'd be stuck in the house (or at least in

the neighborhood) until I got home to give him rides (I might be able to get

help from SAHM friends on this point).

>

> I worry he'd be lonely and isolated, and he's already shy and socially awkward

enough!

>

> Just to make matters worse, enrollment is next week! I need to figure this

out fast. I'd appreciate any wisdom you have! Thanks.

>

[Guest guest]

I would not leave him alone.

Try to make a case with the divorce court that your son

has special needs and that he needs a diagnosis and treatment

plan to be put in place before anyone can decide the

school placement for him. You explain the case

that you had to homeschool him because of his special needs.

You explain there are no services in place in the public

school.

Your case is a reasonable. Your child has special needs. When

you could stay home you did to care for his special needs.

Now you are not in a position to stay home and so you

propose that a diagnosis and treatment plan be

established.

You don't want your child alone at home in your house or your husband's place.

This is a very bad idea. AS kids are very vulnerable.

He could be the victim of child abuse or predators. Bad bad idea.

If he has AS he may need services until he is in his 20's.

If he has to go to a public school you make the case

for special services.

best of luck!!!!!!!!

Pam

-- In , " pacadia.rm " <pacadia@...> wrote:

>

> Hello Everyone,

>

> Let me re-introduce myself. I'm Patti, from land. I have 2 sons, 5 and

13. The older one is nearing the end (finally!) of a school-requested

assessment to see if he is on the Spectrum.

>

> The school wanted him assessed because he has not made any friends, and gets

anxious in class sometimes-- sometimes to the point of tears. We had previously

homeschooled, so this year (8th grade) was his first time in school since

kindergarten.

>

> Despite his issues, he likes school and gets along with his classmates. His

school is very small and supportive. Even more essential, I get 75% off tuition

for both boys because I teach in the elementary program.

>

> Here's the problem-- my husband and I recently separated. He wants to file

for divorce immediately. He also does not want to pay private school tuition--

even at the reduced rate. My lawyer says he can't be made to pay for private

school, UNLESS, possibly, ds is diagnosed with HFA or similar. Then the judge

MIGHT rule that he needs to stay in his small, familiar school. I cannot pay

for private school by myself. I'm extremely frugal, and still struggle to pay

the rent and put food on the table.

>

> So, I'm considering homeschooling my 13 year old for 9th grade. I can't quit

my job, so this would entail me being at work (7:30-4:30), little brother being

at school, and the 13 year old home by himself.

>

> He's trustworthy to stay by himself, but I know he'd just sleep or be on the

computer all day. There are no hs'ing families in our area with kids anywhere

near his age, so a co-op is out. Our area is also not conducive to a young teen

getting to activities by himself, so he'd be stuck in the house (or at least in

the neighborhood) until I got home to give him rides (I might be able to get

help from SAHM friends on this point).

>

> I worry he'd be lonely and isolated, and he's already shy and socially awkward

enough!

>

> Just to make matters worse, enrollment is next week! I need to figure this

out fast. I'd appreciate any wisdom you have! Thanks.

>