Re: Re:Police were here this morning for attack to mom

[Guest guest]

Belita,

I know how you feel and it is very hard...

was your son father abusive toward you?

I hope you do not mind I ask you that question.

This is a fantastic support group and here you will find fantastic ideas to deal with several issues.

Do not lose hope, things get better.

( ) Re:Police were here this morning for attack to mom Thanks for your "support", but the co-parenting sessions were endedpermanently by me since they were a waste of my time/money and emotionallydraining; accomplishing nothing. The psychologist also withdrew fromobtaining the court order to co-parent since it was a hopeless situation.He would be forced to go, but the court order would not give him a betteremotional IQ which therapists have told me his is "zero". I will do the best I can to raise my son with the help of his entire mentalhealth team and learn to cope (Serenity Prayer works well in this situation)and accept the things I cannot change. Belita

[Guest guest]

Yes his father was getting abusive screaming at me and following me around but I divorced him before it got too bad...he's a raging alcoholic. saw and heard alot in his little years.

Marcia

Re: ( ) Re:Police were here this morning for attack to mom

Belita,

I know how you feel and it is very hard...

was your son father abusive toward you?

I hope you do not mind I ask you that question.

This is a fantastic support group and here you will find fantastic ideas to deal with several issues.

Do not lose hope, things get better.

( ) Re:Police were here this morning for attack to mom

Thanks for your "support", but the co-parenting sessions were ended

permanently by me since they were a waste of my time/money and emotionally

draining; accomplishing nothing. The psychologist also withdrew from

obtaining the court order to co-parent since it was a hopeless situation.

He would be forced to go, but the court order would not give him a better

emotional IQ which therapists have told me his is "zero".

I will do the best I can to raise my son with the help of his entire mental

health team and learn to cope (Serenity Prayer works well in this situation)

and accept the things I cannot change.

Belita

[Guest guest]

Belinda,My girl got diagnosed with PSTD because of the abuse she saw when we live with her father.Children never forget and you must be still suffering and having flash back.It has been almost six years since we left my girl father and she has not recuperated yet, I wonder if she will ever recuperate...Nightmares, problem sleeping, fears that somebody will hurt you or hurt her, fear of dying, mood disorders, violent behave, flash back...those problems comes and goes....good week and bad week...Usually after you leave the abusive partner the child take over and become the abuser or try to become the abuser.Have you talked to the counselor regarding the possibility of him suffering from PSTD? ( ) Re:Police were here this morning for attack to mom Thanks for your "support", but the co-parenting sessions were endedpermanently by me since they were a waste of my time/money and emotionallydraining; accomplishing nothing. The psychologist also withdrew fromobtaining the court order to co-parent since it was a hopeless situation.He would be forced to go, but the court order would not give him a betteremotional IQ which therapists have told me his is "zero". I will do the best I can to raise my son with the help of his entire mentalhealth team and learn to cope (Serenity Prayer works well in this situation)and accept the things I cannot change. Belita

[Guest guest]

No I havent but thats a good idea...he did see alot of yelling and screaming at me...I got out of the marriage just before he really started to become violent.

Re: ( ) Re:Police were here this morning for attack to mom

Belinda,

My girl got diagnosed with PSTD because of the abuse she saw when we live with her father.

Children never forget and you must be still suffering and having flash back.

It has been almost six years since we left my girl father and she has not recuperated yet, I wonder if she will ever recuperate...

Nightmares, problem sleeping, fears that somebody will hurt you or hurt her, fear of dying, mood disorders, violent behave, flash back...those problems comes and goes....good week and bad week...

Usually after you leave the abusive partner the child take over and become the abuser or try to become the abuser.

Have you talked to the counselor regarding the possibility of him suffering from PSTD?

( ) Re:Police were here this morning for attack to mom

Thanks for your "support", but the co-parenting sessions were ended

permanently by me since they were a waste of my time/money and emotionally

draining; accomplishing nothing. The psychologist also withdrew from

obtaining the court order to co-parent since it was a hopeless situation.

He would be forced to go, but the court order would not give him a better

emotional IQ which therapists have told me his is "zero".

I will do the best I can to raise my son with the help of his entire mental

health team and learn to cope (Serenity Prayer works well in this situation)

and accept the things I cannot change.

Belita

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[Guest guest]

Hi Belinda,Is you son yelling and screaming at you the same way that her father did? Does he talk and act sometimes as his were his father? Mental abusive is as bad as physical abuse.If you and him get counselor regarding his issue with time he will try to separate himself from the cycle.When my daugther yell at me and act as her father I remind her in a soft tone if she really wants to react like he did...It has been hard for me, but it gets better day by day. I have been taking her to therapist every week for four years. I asked her today if we can just see the therapist once a month and she told me she really needs therapy every week. If I were you I will try to get a man therapist for him, so he eventually can develop a trust on a man. It will be nice if you would have a man figure in your life that can respect, love you, treat you nice, and do nice things for both of you. ( ) Re:Police were here this morning for attack to mom Thanks for your "support", but the co-parenting sessions were endedpermanently by me since they were a waste of my time/money and emotionallydraining; accomplishing nothing. The psychologist also withdrew fromobtaining the court order to co-parent since it was a hopeless situation.He would be forced to go, but the court order would not give him a betteremotional IQ which therapists have told me his is "zero". I will do the best I can to raise my son with the help of his entire mentalhealth team and learn to cope (Serenity Prayer works well in this situation)and accept the things I cannot change. Belita ;