Guest guest Posted June 14, 2009 Report Share Posted June 14, 2009 did not get a diagnosis until he was 3.5. We really didn't get it until he was 3 that there was a need for a diagnosis, but I really did start working on social skills whenhe was teeny. I didn't know he was different I just knew he was a toddler butwhenever he would struggle with sharing or had to deal with other kids I justcoached him and repeated the same things over and over again. Eventually, I didsee some progress. is 12 years old now and yesterdat I had the pleasure of watching navigatesome social situations that I wasn't sure he could. It was such abeautiful thing. Today was the last day of baseball. did very well andreally enjoyed it. He plays in a little league challenger league. There isanother boy on the team who is younger than but has similar issues. Hehasn't developed the same skills has yet. The first day he came to play hesaid something disrespectful to the coach, "Oh look, here's Stupid!" orsomething like that. didn't like that and was quite vocal about it. I wasafraid he was going to hit someone but he never did anything physical. He justsaid, "You don't talk to people that way." With an angry voice. I thought itwas pretty appropriate. calmed down and by the next week he seemed to haveforgotten the encounter or was willing to let it go and try again. He didn'tinteract with the boy a whole lot though they were near each other quite often. There didn't seem to be anything negative happening. Then one week the boy brought these toys,"Bakugan" to the game. was interested. One of them was shaped like acylinder. told the boy, "That is a cylinder bakugan." The boy was HIGHLYINSULTED. didn't get upset or get in a conflict. He did come and talk tome. He said, "That kid went ballistic when I said he had a cylinder bakugan." I told him maybe he thought you were trying to say something mean. toldme, "I was just pointing out the obvious." and I told him I thought the boydidn't understand what he meant when he said it was a cylinder. Every weekhe would talk to the boy and was able to engage him in conversation aboutbakugan. So they are quite friendly and have had no more conflicts. This week was being very protective of him. The boy was playing some sort of bakugangame and was pretending his baseball trophy was a device to give the bakugantoys special powers so they always defeated everyone else's bakugan. It wascute. This new kid said, "Hey dude, that's not fair." continued doingthat for a little bit but I directed him on to something else because I didn'twant this other kid to get really upset. said, "I was just giving him someextra powers." A little later 's bakugan friend was walking on top of a log. The boy waswalking one way and another boy was walking toward him on the log. Then alittle girl from the team sat on the log between the two but they were kind ofin the middle of experimenting with trying to pass each other walking on thelog. climbed up to walk on the log too and the bakugan friend said,"Can you get her to move?" climbed down and got closer to the littlegirl's level and said something like, "You need to move so they can finish whatthey're doing." I can't remember exactly what words he used but it was in agentle and friendly voice and the girl moved and everything went very smoothly. I was just so proud and so delighted to see this. was able to help someoneelse with a social situation. So very cool. I think we're going to be okay. really is a soft-hearted boy who wants tohelp people and wants to have friends. He still gets in conflicts and getsconfused, but he really does want to do the right things and is more and moreable to do that all the time. used to be afraid of babies and toddlers andnow he really likes them. He also loves animals. All dogs must be petted. Atone point in the game today there was a kid running around outside the fieldwith a turtle he'd found in the creek. was supposed to be heading to firstbase to play while the other team was at bat. He wanted to see the turtle. Iknew there was no way he'd play if he didn't get to see the turtle first. Itwas just a thing I didn't think we could avoid. So I sent him with his buddy torun after the kid to see the turtle. They saw the turtle and came right back. Just in time for the inning to start. LOL. We had a good day! Miriam mimbanash@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2009 Report Share Posted June 15, 2009 That's wonderful so glad to hear good stories like this we usually have such horror stories that it is nice to hear the victories everyone! My son would have been the same way about the turtle, in fact at school every morning no matter if he is going to be late or not he seeks out the assistant principal he has to see him, he said to me i think he needs to know i am here and i am ok. ( my son recently started having seizures and the first documented seizure was there and this principal found him and helped him) The principal knows that josh has to see him before he goes to class so it is ok. I explained that i think it is security for my son he knows this man cares because he help him in what was probably one of the scarest things to happen to my son and this guy rescued him so to speak so he kind of leans on him for security at school. Hope this guy never gets sick or misses school for any reason i can see my son standing in the hallway screaming no i cant go to class i havent gotten to say good morning to Mr.----- yet. he gets something in his mind and for that time it is stuck there almost like an obession but these obssession change all the time and go from can we go to the park, to wanting only to play with little army men, or cars, or things like that. when he gets his mind on something its hard for him to switch. SherryFrom: Miriam Banash <callis4773@...>Asperger < >Sent: Sunday, June 14, 2009 5:17:50 PMSubject: ( ) persistence pays off did not get a diagnosis until he was 3.5. We really didn't get it until he was 3 that there was a need for a diagnosis, but I really did start working on social skills whenhe was teeny. I didn't know he was different I just knew he was a toddler butwhenever he would struggle with sharing or had to deal with other kids I justcoached him and repeated the same things over and over again. Eventually, I didsee some progress. is 12 years old now and yesterdat I had the pleasure of watching navigatesome social situations that I wasn't sure he could. It was such abeautiful thing. Today was the last day of baseball. did very well andreally enjoyed it. He plays in a little league challenger league. There isanother boy on the team who is younger than but has similar issues. Hehasn't developed the same skills has yet. The first day he came to play hesaid something disrespectful to the coach, "Oh look, here's Stupid!" orsomething like that. didn't like that and was quite vocal about it. I wasafraid he was going to hit someone but he never did anything physical. He justsaid, "You don't talk to people that way." With an angry voice. I thought itwas pretty appropriate. calmed down and by the next week he seemed to haveforgotten the encounter or was willing to let it go and try again. He didn'tinteract with the boy a whole lot though they were near each other quite often. There didn't seem to be anything negative happening. Then one week the boy brought these toys,"Bakugan" to the game. was interested. One of them was shaped like acylinder. told the boy, "That is a cylinder bakugan." The boy was HIGHLYINSULTED. didn't get upset or get in a conflict. He did come and talk tome. He said, "That kid went ballistic when I said he had a cylinder bakugan." I told him maybe he thought you were trying to say something mean. toldme, "I was just pointing out the obvious." and I told him I thought the boydidn't understand what he meant when he said it was a cylinder. Every weekhe would talk to the boy and was able to engage him in conversation aboutbakugan. So they are quite friendly and have had no more conflicts. This week was being very protective of him. The boy was playing some sort of bakugangame and was pretending his baseball trophy was a device to give the bakugantoys special powers so they always defeated everyone else's bakugan. It wascute. This new kid said, "Hey dude, that's not fair." continued doingthat for a little bit but I directed him on to something else because I didn'twant this other kid to get really upset. said, "I was just giving him someextra powers." A little later 's bakugan friend was walking on top of a log. The boy waswalking one way and another boy was walking toward him on the log. Then alittle girl from the team sat on the log between the two but they were kind ofin the middle of experimenting with trying to pass each other walking on thelog. climbed up to walk on the log too and the bakugan friend said,"Can you get her to move?" climbed down and got closer to the littlegirl's level and said something like, "You need to move so they can finish whatthey're doing." I can't remember exactly what words he used but it was in agentle and friendly voice and the girl moved and everything went very smoothly. I was just so proud and so delighted to see this. was able to help someoneelse with a social situation. So very cool. I think we're going to be okay. really is a soft-hearted boy who wants tohelp people and wants to have friends. He still gets in conflicts and getsconfused, but he really does want to do the right things and is more and moreable to do that all the time. used to be afraid of babies and toddlers andnow he really likes them. He also loves animals. All dogs must be petted. Atone point in the game today there was a kid running around outside the fieldwith a turtle he'd found in the creek. was supposed to be heading to firstbase to play while the other team was at bat. He wanted to see the turtle. Iknew there was no way he'd play if he didn't get to see the turtle first. Itwas just a thing I didn't think we could avoid. So I sent him with his buddy torun after the kid to see the turtle. They saw the turtle and came right back. Just in time for the inning to start. LOL. We had a good day! Miriam mimbanash (DOT) com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2009 Report Share Posted June 15, 2009 's biggest obsession is the computer but animals are another one. We went on a field trip to the beach with his 6th grade class. There is a park with tide pools and there are all sorts of little creatures in there. thought every creature we found was cute. The turtleshell limpet was cute. The seagull was cute. The crab was cute. Walking on the seaweed covered rocks was challenging. kept hanging on to me and I'm NOT the most steady person around even on flat ground. So it took us longer and we both had the patience to deal with each other being slow. I was a chaperone but there were only 3 kids in the group and 's para went with the other kids who weren't as slow on the rocks. It was fun. The best thing, I carpooled with the principal of the middle school and his wife and another neighbor for this field trip. is going to middle school next year. He's in intermediate school (5-6) and the middle school principal's daughter are in the same class this year. The other neighbor has a daughter in 's class this year too. We all live on the same street so when the teachers said parents needed to carpool I jumped in and asked if I could ride with these folks. They said " sure " so that's what we did. I like Mr. Joyce. I think his name is Ed. Anyway, he is involved in the school's special olympics team and he knows about asperger syndrome. He hired the special ed teacher who works with this year. He asked how I liked her and I gushed profusely because she really is just the best! I love her to bits. The district expert on asperger syndrome is at the middle school so we talked about her a bit. I've already spoken to her once and she is fabulous. She just GETS it, ya know? I like to share the happy stories as much as the sad. I need to be able to tell the happy things because the more I talk of them the more I think of the positive and can let go of the negative. I don't know about your child, but mine responds extremely well to positive things. Miriam > > That's wonderful so glad to hear good stories like this we usually have such horror stories that it is nice to hear the victories everyone! My son would have been the same way about the turtle, in fact at school every morning no matter if he is going to be late or not he seeks out the assistant principal he has to see him, he said to me i think he needs to know i am here and i am ok. ( my son recently started having seizures and the first documented seizure was there and this principal found him and helped him) The principal knows that josh has to see him before he goes to class so it is ok. I explained that i think it is security for my son he knows this man cares because he help him in what was probably one of the scarest things to happen to my son and this guy rescued him so to speak so he kind of leans on him for security at school. Hope this guy never gets sick or misses school for any reason i can see my son standing in the hallway screaming no i > cant go to class i havent gotten to say good morning to Mr.----- yet. he gets something in his mind and for that time it is stuck there almost like an obession but these obssession change all the time and go from can we go to the park, to wanting only to play with little army men, or cars, or things like that. when he gets his mind on something its hard for him to switch. Sherry > > > > > ________________________________ > From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@...> > Asperger < > > Sent: Sunday, June 14, 2009 5:17:50 PM > Subject: ( ) persistence pays off > > > > > > did not get a diagnosis until he was 3.5. We really didn't get it until he was 3 that there was a need for a diagnosis, but I really did start working on social skills when > he was teeny. I didn't know he was different I just knew he was a toddler but > whenever he would struggle with sharing or had to deal with other kids I just > coached him and repeated the same things over and over again. Eventually, I did > see some progress. > > is 12 years old now and yesterdat I had the pleasure of watching navigate > some social situations that I wasn't sure he could. It was such a > beautiful thing. Today was the last day of baseball. did very well and > really enjoyed it. He plays in a little league challenger league. There is > another boy on the team who is younger than but has similar issues. He > hasn't developed the same skills has yet. The first day he came to play he > said something disrespectful to the coach, " Oh look, here's Stupid! " or > something like that. didn't like that and was quite vocal about it. I was > afraid he was going to hit someone but he never did anything physical. He just > said, " You don't talk to people that way. " With an angry voice. I thought it > was pretty appropriate. calmed down and by the next week he seemed to have > forgotten the encounter or was willing to let it go and try again. He didn't > interact with the boy a whole lot though they were near each other quite often. There didn't seem to be anything negative happening. Then one week the boy brought these toys, > " Bakugan " to the game. was interested. One of them was shaped like a > cylinder. told the boy, " That is a cylinder bakugan. " The boy was HIGHLY > INSULTED. didn't get upset or get in a conflict. He did come and talk to > me. He said, " That kid went ballistic when I said he had a cylinder bakugan. " > I told him maybe he thought you were trying to say something mean. told > me, " I was just pointing out the obvious. " and I told him I thought the boy > didn't understand what he meant when he said it was a cylinder. Every week > he would talk to the boy and was able to engage him in conversation about > bakugan. So they are quite friendly and have had no more conflicts. This week > was being very protective of him. The boy was playing some sort of bakugan > game and was pretending his baseball trophy was a device to give the bakugan > toys special powers so they always defeated everyone else's bakugan. It was > cute. This new kid said, " Hey dude, that's not fair. " continued doing > that for a little bit but I directed him on to something else because I didn't > want this other kid to get really upset. said, " I was just giving him some > extra powers. " > > A little later 's bakugan friend was walking on top of a log. The boy was > walking one way and another boy was walking toward him on the log. Then a > little girl from the team sat on the log between the two but they were kind of > in the middle of experimenting with trying to pass each other walking on the > log. climbed up to walk on the log too and the bakugan friend said, > " Can you get her to move? " climbed down and got closer to the little > girl's level and said something like, " You need to move so they can finish what > they're doing. " I can't remember exactly what words he used but it was in a > gentle and friendly voice and the girl moved and everything went very smoothly. > I was just so proud and so delighted to see this. was able to help someone > else with a social situation. So very cool. > > I think we're going to be okay. really is a soft-hearted boy who wants to > help people and wants to have friends. He still gets in conflicts and gets > confused, but he really does want to do the right things and is more and more > able to do that all the time. used to be afraid of babies and toddlers and > now he really likes them. He also loves animals. All dogs must be petted. At > one point in the game today there was a kid running around outside the field > with a turtle he'd found in the creek. was supposed to be heading to first > base to play while the other team was at bat. He wanted to see the turtle. I > knew there was no way he'd play if he didn't get to see the turtle first. It > was just a thing I didn't think we could avoid. So I sent him with his buddy to > run after the kid to see the turtle. They saw the turtle and came right back. > Just in time for the inning to start. LOL. > > We had a good day! > > Miriam > > > > > mimbanash (DOT) com > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2009 Report Share Posted June 15, 2009 that's great my sons assistant principal is really nice that way too, and i am certain he knows about aspergers as well, he offered to do what our school is calling lunch bunch it is sort of social skills group thing they meet during lunchtime but i think it is only a few times a week, but felt good principal willing to take time for my son. sherryFrom: Miriam <callis4773@...>To: Sent: Monday, June 15, 2009 4:00:08 PMSubject: Re: ( ) persistence pays off 's biggest obsession is the computer but animals are another one. We went on a field trip to the beach with his 6th grade class. There is a park with tide pools and there are all sorts of little creatures in there. thought every creature we found was cute. The turtleshell limpet was cute. The seagull was cute. The crab was cute. Walking on the seaweed covered rocks was challenging. kept hanging on to me and I'm NOT the most steady person around even on flat ground. So it took us longer and we both had the patience to deal with each other being slow. I was a chaperone but there were only 3 kids in the group and 's para went with the other kids who weren't as slow on the rocks. It was fun. The best thing, I carpooled with the principal of the middle school and his wife and another neighbor for this field trip. is going to middle school next year. He's in intermediate school (5-6) and the middle school principal's daughter are in the same class this year. The other neighbor has a daughter in 's class this year too. We all live on the same street so when the teachers said parents needed to carpool I jumped in and asked if I could ride with these folks. They said "sure" so that's what we did. I like Mr. Joyce. I think his name is Ed. Anyway, he is involved in the school's special olympics team and he knows about asperger syndrome. He hired the special ed teacher who works with this year. He asked how I liked her and I gushed profusely because she really is just the best! I love her to bits. The district expert on asperger syndrome is at the middle school so we talked about her a bit. I've already spoken to her once and she is fabulous. She just GETS it, ya know? I like to share the happy stories as much as the sad. I need to be able to tell the happy things because the more I talk of them the more I think of the positive and can let go of the negative. I don't know about your child, but mine responds extremely well to positive things. Miriam > > That's wonderful so glad to hear good stories like this we usually have such horror stories that it is nice to hear the victories everyone! My son would have been the same way about the turtle, in fact at school every morning no matter if he is going to be late or not he seeks out the assistant principal he has to see him, he said to me i think he needs to know i am here and i am ok. ( my son recently started having seizures and the first documented seizure was there and this principal found him and helped him) The principal knows that josh has to see him before he goes to class so it is ok. I explained that i think it is security for my son he knows this man cares because he help him in what was probably one of the scarest things to happen to my son and this guy rescued him so to speak so he kind of leans on him for security at school. Hope this guy never gets sick or misses school for any reason i can see my son standing in the hallway screaming no i > cant go to class i havent gotten to say good morning to Mr.----- yet. he gets something in his mind and for that time it is stuck there almost like an obession but these obssession change all the time and go from can we go to the park, to wanting only to play with little army men, or cars, or things like that. when he gets his mind on something its hard for him to switch. Sherry > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ __ > From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@ ...> > Asperger < > > Sent: Sunday, June 14, 2009 5:17:50 PM > Subject: ( ) persistence pays off > > > > > > did not get a diagnosis until he was 3.5. We really didn't get it until he was 3 that there was a need for a diagnosis, but I really did start working on social skills when > he was teeny. I didn't know he was different I just knew he was a toddler but > whenever he would struggle with sharing or had to deal with other kids I just > coached him and repeated the same things over and over again. Eventually, I did > see some progress. > > is 12 years old now and yesterdat I had the pleasure of watching navigate > some social situations that I wasn't sure he could. It was such a > beautiful thing. Today was the last day of baseball. did very well and > really enjoyed it. He plays in a little league challenger league. There is > another boy on the team who is younger than but has similar issues. He > hasn't developed the same skills has yet. The first day he came to play he > said something disrespectful to the coach, "Oh look, here's Stupid!" or > something like that. didn't like that and was quite vocal about it. I was > afraid he was going to hit someone but he never did anything physical. He just > said, "You don't talk to people that way." With an angry voice. I thought it > was pretty appropriate. calmed down and by the next week he seemed to have > forgotten the encounter or was willing to let it go and try again. He didn't > interact with the boy a whole lot though they were near each other quite often. There didn't seem to be anything negative happening. Then one week the boy brought these toys, > "Bakugan" to the game. was interested. One of them was shaped like a > cylinder. told the boy, "That is a cylinder bakugan." The boy was HIGHLY > INSULTED. didn't get upset or get in a conflict. He did come and talk to > me. He said, "That kid went ballistic when I said he had a cylinder bakugan." > I told him maybe he thought you were trying to say something mean. told > me, "I was just pointing out the obvious." and I told him I thought the boy > didn't understand what he meant when he said it was a cylinder. Every week > he would talk to the boy and was able to engage him in conversation about > bakugan. So they are quite friendly and have had no more conflicts. This week > was being very protective of him. The boy was playing some sort of bakugan > game and was pretending his baseball trophy was a device to give the bakugan > toys special powers so they always defeated everyone else's bakugan. It was > cute. This new kid said, "Hey dude, that's not fair." continued doing > that for a little bit but I directed him on to something else because I didn't > want this other kid to get really upset. said, "I was just giving him some > extra powers." > > A little later 's bakugan friend was walking on top of a log. The boy was > walking one way and another boy was walking toward him on the log. Then a > little girl from the team sat on the log between the two but they were kind of > in the middle of experimenting with trying to pass each other walking on the > log. climbed up to walk on the log too and the bakugan friend said, > "Can you get her to move?" climbed down and got closer to the little > girl's level and said something like, "You need to move so they can finish what > they're doing." I can't remember exactly what words he used but it was in a > gentle and friendly voice and the girl moved and everything went very smoothly. > I was just so proud and so delighted to see this. was able to help someone > else with a social situation. So very cool. > > I think we're going to be okay. really is a soft-hearted boy who wants to > help people and wants to have friends. He still gets in conflicts and gets > confused, but he really does want to do the right things and is more and more > able to do that all the time. used to be afraid of babies and toddlers and > now he really likes them. He also loves animals. All dogs must be petted. At > one point in the game today there was a kid running around outside the field > with a turtle he'd found in the creek. was supposed to be heading to first > base to play while the other team was at bat. He wanted to see the turtle. I > knew there was no way he'd play if he didn't get to see the turtle first. It > was just a thing I didn't think we could avoid. So I sent him with his buddy to > run after the kid to see the turtle. They saw the turtle and came right back. > Just in time for the inning to start. LOL. > > We had a good day! > > Miriam > > > > > mimbanash (DOT) com > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2009 Report Share Posted June 15, 2009 what a beautiful story Miriam. Gives good hope to us with littles still. =)ConnieFrom: Miriam Banash <callis4773@...>Subject: ( ) persistence pays off"Asperger" < >Date: Sunday, June 14, 2009, 5:17 PM did not get a diagnosis until he was 3.5. We really didn't get it until he was 3 that there was a need for a diagnosis, but I really did start working on social skills whenhe was teeny. I didn't know he was different I just knew he was a toddler butwhenever he would struggle with sharing or had to deal with other kids I justcoached him and repeated the same things over and over again. Eventually, I didsee some progress. is 12 years old now and yesterdat I had the pleasure of watching navigatesome social situations that I wasn't sure he could. It was such abeautiful thing. Today was the last day of baseball. did very well andreally enjoyed it. He plays in a little league challenger league. There isanother boy on the team who is younger than but has similar issues. Hehasn't developed the same skills has yet. The first day he came to play hesaid something disrespectful to the coach, "Oh look, here's Stupid!" orsomething like that. didn't like that and was quite vocal about it. I wasafraid he was going to hit someone but he never did anything physical. He justsaid, "You don't talk to people that way." With an angry voice. I thought itwas pretty appropriate. calmed down and by the next week he seemed to haveforgotten the encounter or was willing to let it go and try again. He didn'tinteract with the boy a whole lot though they were near each other quite often. There didn't seem to be anything negative happening. Then one week the boy brought these toys,"Bakugan" to the game. was interested. One of them was shaped like acylinder. told the boy, "That is a cylinder bakugan." The boy was HIGHLYINSULTED. didn't get upset or get in a conflict. He did come and talk tome. He said, "That kid went ballistic when I said he had a cylinder bakugan." I told him maybe he thought you were trying to say something mean. toldme, "I was just pointing out the obvious." and I told him I thought the boydidn't understand what he meant when he said it was a cylinder. Every weekhe would talk to the boy and was able to engage him in conversation aboutbakugan. So they are quite friendly and have had no more conflicts. This week was being very protective of him. The boy was playing some sort of bakugangame and was pretending his baseball trophy was a device to give the bakugantoys special powers so they always defeated everyone else's bakugan. It wascute. This new kid said, "Hey dude, that's not fair." continued doingthat for a little bit but I directed him on to something else because I didn'twant this other kid to get really upset. said, "I was just giving him someextra powers." A little later 's bakugan friend was walking on top of a log. The boy waswalking one way and another boy was walking toward him on the log. Then alittle girl from the team sat on the log between the two but they were kind ofin the middle of experimenting with trying to pass each other walking on thelog. climbed up to walk on the log too and the bakugan friend said,"Can you get her to move?" climbed down and got closer to the littlegirl's level and said something like, "You need to move so they can finish whatthey're doing." I can't remember exactly what words he used but it was in agentle and friendly voice and the girl moved and everything went very smoothly. I was just so proud and so delighted to see this. was able to help someoneelse with a social situation. So very cool. I think we're going to be okay. really is a soft-hearted boy who wants tohelp people and wants to have friends. He still gets in conflicts and getsconfused, but he really does want to do the right things and is more and moreable to do that all the time. used to be afraid of babies and toddlers andnow he really likes them. He also loves animals. All dogs must be petted. Atone point in the game today there was a kid running around outside the fieldwith a turtle he'd found in the creek. was supposed to be heading to firstbase to play while the other team was at bat. He wanted to see the turtle. Iknew there was no way he'd play if he didn't get to see the turtle first. Itwas just a thing I didn't think we could avoid. So I sent him with his buddy torun after the kid to see the turtle. They saw the turtle and came right back. Just in time for the inning to start. LOL. We had a good day! Miriam mimbanash (DOT) com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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