Guest guest Posted September 14, 2010 Report Share Posted September 14, 2010 Becci, Nice advice, I really appreciate your words and will remember them in the tough times, Cathleen From: Becci <bexandjimbo@...>" " < >Sent: Mon, September 13, 2010 11:59:46 PMSubject: ( ) Re:combativeness Hi Cat,I can really relate to your post, my son is 11 with ADHD and AS. Some days he just seems to be combative from the second he wakes up and stays that way until he goes to bed. Most of the time there is no obvious reason but other days it's because he's had a bad time at school and it's his way of getting out his frustration. I would have done the same as you and cancel the date. My son also blames me for anything that goes wrong, even when I had nothing to do with it and , although it's really hard, I just grin and bare it because I know he does it because he knows I love him unconditionally. I try to remember that his world is different to mine and he sees things differently. Just hang in ther until he calms down then give him loads of praise and re arrange the playdate.There seems to be a common thread with dads being in denial recently. Why do they find this so hard to accept???? It makes our job twice as hard!Hang in there folks, appreciate the good times and love them through the bad times...Becci xxSent from my iPod Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2010 Report Share Posted September 20, 2010 My son spends most weekends with his dad. His dad just spoils him so Im the bad guy all the time. I hate it! From: Cathleen Veloria <cathleen.veloria@...> Sent: Tue, September 14, 2010 9:50:04 AMSubject: Re: ( ) Re:combativeness Becci, Nice advice, I really appreciate your words and will remember them in the tough times, Cathleen From: Becci <bexandjimbo@...>" " < >Sent: Mon, September 13, 2010 11:59:46 PMSubject: ( ) Re:combativeness Hi Cat,I can really relate to your post, my son is 11 with ADHD and AS. Some days he just seems to be combative from the second he wakes up and stays that way until he goes to bed. Most of the time there is no obvious reason but other days it's because he's had a bad time at school and it's his way of getting out his frustration. I would have done the same as you and cancel the date. My son also blames me for anything that goes wrong, even when I had nothing to do with it and , although it's really hard, I just grin and bare it because I know he does it because he knows I love him unconditionally. I try to remember that his world is different to mine and he sees things differently. Just hang in ther until he calms down then give him loads of praise and re arrange the playdate.There seems to be a common thread with dads being in denial recently. Why do they find this so hard to accept???? It makes our job twice as hard!Hang in there folks, appreciate the good times and love them through the bad times...Becci xxSent from my iPod Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2010 Report Share Posted September 20, 2010 I would hate that too! It's easy to always say yes, but putting your foot down on tough issues is real parenting. I wish I could tell your husband that Asperger kids need a lot of structure and consistency. You are doing your part but he is not. Is there any way to get him to see that he's not doing your son any good by playing the nice guy? Cathleen From: <pussycat6969155@...> Sent: Mon, September 20, 2010 1:17:55 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Re:combativeness My son spends most weekends with his dad. His dad just spoils him so Im the bad guy all the time. I hate it! From: Cathleen Veloria <cathleen.veloria@...> Sent: Tue, September 14, 2010 9:50:04 AMSubject: Re: ( ) Re:combativeness Becci, Nice advice, I really appreciate your words and will remember them in the tough times, Cathleen From: Becci <bexandjimbo@...>" " < >Sent: Mon, September 13, 2010 11:59:46 PMSubject: ( ) Re:combativeness Hi Cat,I can really relate to your post, my son is 11 with ADHD and AS. Some days he just seems to be combative from the second he wakes up and stays that way until he goes to bed. Most of the time there is no obvious reason but other days it's because he's had a bad time at school and it's his way of getting out his frustration. I would have done the same as you and cancel the date. My son also blames me for anything that goes wrong, even when I had nothing to do with it and , although it's really hard, I just grin and bare it because I know he does it because he knows I love him unconditionally. I try to remember that his world is different to mine and he sees things differently. Just hang in ther until he calms down then give him loads of praise and re arrange the playdate.There seems to be a common thread with dads being in denial recently. Why do they find this so hard to accept???? It makes our job twice as hard!Hang in there folks, appreciate the good times and love them through the bad times...Becci xxSent from my iPod Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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