Re: Anybody else

September 18, 2003

I have been sent two of those notices. I am not a spammer. Not sure

why I am getting those. One said that it will take legal action

against me. I sent a nasty gram back to them but I don't really

believe anyone will read it.

February 7, 2011

Have you looked into residential treatment places? Do you have an IEP and Medicaid for him? IF yes, I would call his doctor or developmental center and ask? I'd call his therapy places also and ask what and where? I would call every lead and push that a child is being harmed your daughter...

In a message dated 2/7/2011 11:29:13 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, jenniferhermanski@... writes:

Have a child with AS and ODD? I really need some support right now. This child of mine is driving me crazy!Yesterday had a neighbor boy over because of the superbowl (he didn't actually WATCH the game, but he played his gameboy near the TV so it was LIKE he was watching)I think having so much stimulation overwhelmed him, but he was able to hold it together while his company was over. Then as soon as his buddy left my house got the "wild" look in his eye. He started ripping up one of his sisters books because he was bored. When asked to go calm down in his room he began purposely stomping on the floor (we have neighbors below us). Next thing I know he is throwing all of his toys out of his room and into my hallway. His sister who has quite a sassy mouth at times said something to him and he kicked her in the stomach. I don't know what to do when he gets like this anymore. Restraining him is out of the question because he is over five feet tall and 106 lbs. I am only five foot two. Calling the cops is out because they always roll their eyes at me and remind me that hes "Your child, your problem." There is no reasoning with him when hes like this. His eyes go completely blank and he is able to process NOTHING. Consequences don't work. Even taking away his one true love, video games, does not work.I am scared of him sometimes and I am especially afraid for my daughter. I am also worried he is going to get us kicked out of our apartment. We just moved here in November and the neighbors hate us. If I leave him home when I go grocery shopping he trashes the house and goes through my stuff. If I take him with me he yells at me the whole time about how he is too tired to walk that far (it's only two blocks)and then in the store itself he doesn't look where he is going and bumps into people and blocks aisles. I feel like my whole life is spinning out of control right now and I really just need a break but nobody except my drug addicted ex sister in law is willing to watch him. I hate to say it, but I can't wait for summer time. I am going to send him to as many sleep away summer camps as possible. I would send him to a boarding school or therapeutic group home but I have bad credit and low income. His biological father lives clear across the country and is having serious problems with his new marriage, and my husband is in prison for the next three years so I really am doing this all on my own. I contacted child protective services for help and they decided they do not know how to assist us. They said they can't do anything since no child is being abused. (they don't give a sh*t that my daughter gets hit by her brother) Mental Health has told me they have no advice for me since they are not equipped to deal with people on the autism spectrum, and the local Regional Center no longer has funding to help high functioning children. His therapist has been working with children for over 25 years and has never had such a hard time making a connection with a client. When she walks in the door for their weekly session he says "Oh God, it's my stupid counselor. I'm busy and you want to make me stop what I'm doing. I hate stupid freakin counseling. What a waste of my time"Now he MUST have some sort of a filter on his mouth, because at 12 years old I have still never heard him actually cuss, but other than that he just says whatever is on his mind. The other day my mother stopped by for a moment. My mother has early stage alzheimers and is bi polar. My son shouts "oh god its my psycho granny here to spew her nonsense". Ok like WHO SAYS STUFF LIKE THAT ABOUT AND IN FRONT OF GRANDMA??????It seems like both his ODD and his AS are getting more severe as he gets older. I immagine puberty isn't helping much.Anyways, sorry for this long long rant, but I am hoping to find just one person out there who can relate or who has some magic solution or valuable suggestions.

February 7, 2011

Oh ....

Hugs to you. I'm soo sorry. I don't have any advice other than to contact by email or phone, you state's Autism Society?

I know you'll get some good help from others here from the group, though.

Just wanted to let you know that you are cared about.

Robin

......A rich man is not one who has the most,

but who needs the least.....

From: <jenniferhermanski@...>Subject: ( ) Anybody else Date: Monday, February 7, 2011, 10:29 AM

Have a child with AS and ODD? I really need some support right now. This child of mine is driving me crazy!Yesterday had a neighbor boy over because of the superbowl (he didn't actually WATCH the game, but he played his gameboy near the TV so it was LIKE he was watching)I think having so much stimulation overwhelmed him, but he was able to hold it together while his company was over. Then as soon as his buddy left my house got the "wild" look in his eye. He started ripping up one of his sisters books because he was bored. When asked to go calm down in his room he began purposely stomping on the floor (we have neighbors below us). Next thing I know he is throwing all of his toys out of his room and into my hallway. His sister who has quite a sassy mouth at times said something to him and he kicked her in the stomach. I don't know what to do when he gets like this anymore. Restraining him is out of the question because he

is over five feet tall and 106 lbs. I am only five foot two. Calling the cops is out because they always roll their eyes at me and remind me that hes "Your child, your problem." There is no reasoning with him when hes like this. His eyes go completely blank and he is able to process NOTHING. Consequences don't work. Even taking away his one true love, video games, does not work.I am scared of him sometimes and I am especially afraid for my daughter. I am also worried he is going to get us kicked out of our apartment. We just moved here in November and the neighbors hate us. If I leave him home when I go grocery shopping he trashes the house and goes through my stuff. If I take him with me he yells at me the whole time about how he is too tired to walk that far (it's only two blocks)and then in the store itself he doesn't look where he is going and bumps into people and blocks aisles. I feel like my whole life is spinning out of control right now

and I really just need a break but nobody except my drug addicted ex sister in law is willing to watch him. I hate to say it, but I can't wait for summer time. I am going to send him to as many sleep away summer camps as possible. I would send him to a boarding school or therapeutic group home but I have bad credit and low income. His biological father lives clear across the country and is having serious problems with his new marriage, and my husband is in prison for the next three years so I really am doing this all on my own. I contacted child protective services for help and they decided they do not know how to assist us. They said they can't do anything since no child is being abused. (they don't give a sh*t that my daughter gets hit by her brother) Mental Health has told me they have no advice for me since they are not equipped to deal with people on the autism spectrum, and the local Regional Center no longer has funding to help high

functioning children. His therapist has been working with children for over 25 years and has never had such a hard time making a connection with a client. When she walks in the door for their weekly session he says "Oh God, it's my stupid counselor. I'm busy and you want to make me stop what I'm doing. I hate stupid freakin counseling. What a waste of my time"Now he MUST have some sort of a filter on his mouth, because at 12 years old I have still never heard him actually cuss, but other than that he just says whatever is on his mind. The other day my mother stopped by for a moment. My mother has early stage alzheimers and is bi polar. My son shouts "oh god its my psycho granny here to spew her nonsense". Ok like WHO SAYS STUFF LIKE THAT ABOUT AND IN FRONT OF GRANDMA??????It seems like both his ODD and his AS are getting more severe as he gets older. I immagine puberty isn't helping much.Anyways, sorry for this long long rant, but I am

hoping to find just one person out there who can relate or who has some magic solution or valuable suggestions.

February 7, 2011

I can only imagine how tough that is. I took my hfa to the grocery

store last week b/c dh was out of town and I spent the next week

waiting for child services to show up at my door for something the

video surveillance caught or something yes I had my hand on her neck

but I wasn't grabbing or holding her, it just seems that if I set it

there and she feels me there she SOMETIMES feels that I'm in control

and it calms her. However the 2nd time I had to do this she yanked

away and I did try to grab her b/c I thought she was trying to get

away to hit her sister (who she previously was hitting reapetedly).

She yanked to quick though so I ended up with a hand full of her hair.

So I had to resort to taking her by the arm instead but when I do

that she bites me so I learned in the past to do it like you see on

cops, with her hand behind her back she can't yank you up and bite you

but she fights to get away from that. Imagine this scene, I'm sure it

looks like child abuse.

But after that I had the advantage of deciding I won't take her to the

store again. My husband will be home, my parents will watch her, etc.

I can't imagine not having anyone to help.

Will he even be able to go to camp and stay? I know my niece has

issues too and my sister got called to come get her 2 days into camp

last year. I am the last person to push meds as I hate my dd taking

them but have you tried mood stabilizers. We resorted to it when I

felt her siblings were in danger and it helps. I also 2nd calling the

autism society. I know ours does parents night out (free) and they

have information on respite care. Also your state disabilities and

special needs board may be able to get you some information. Have you

applied for medacaid/disability? If your income is low he may qualify

for disability and you can get him medacaid then if he doesn't

already, he may also qualify for a stipend. We didn't qualify for

disability b/c of our income but my daughter did qualify as disabled

so were able to get medacaid through the katie beckett waiver.

On 2/7/11, <jenniferhermanski@...> wrote:

> Have a child with AS and ODD?

> I really need some support right now. This child of mine is driving me

> crazy!

> Yesterday had a neighbor boy over because of the superbowl (he

> didn't actually WATCH the game, but he played his gameboy near the TV so it

> was LIKE he was watching)

> I think having so much stimulation overwhelmed him, but he was able to

> hold it together while his company was over. Then as soon as his buddy left

> my house got the " wild " look in his eye. He started ripping up one of

> his sisters books because he was bored. When asked to go calm down in his

> room he began purposely stomping on the floor (we have neighbors below us).

> Next thing I know he is throwing all of his toys out of his room and into my

> hallway. His sister who has quite a sassy mouth at times said something to

> him and he kicked her in the stomach.

> I don't know what to do when he gets like this anymore. Restraining him

> is out of the question because he is over five feet tall and 106 lbs. I am

> only five foot two. Calling the cops is out because they always roll their

> eyes at me and remind me that hes " Your child, your problem. " There is no

> reasoning with him when hes like this. His eyes go completely blank and he

> is able to process NOTHING. Consequences don't work. Even taking away his

> one true love, video games, does not work.

> I am scared of him sometimes and I am especially afraid for my daughter.

> I am also worried he is going to get us kicked out of our apartment. We just

> moved here in November and the neighbors hate us. If I leave him home when

> I go grocery shopping he trashes the house and goes through my stuff. If I

> take him with me he yells at me the whole time about how he is too tired to

> walk that far (it's only two blocks)and then in the store itself he doesn't

> look where he is going and bumps into people and blocks aisles.

> I feel like my whole life is spinning out of control right now and I

> really just need a break but nobody except my drug addicted ex sister in law

> is willing to watch him. I hate to say it, but I can't wait for summer time.

> I am going to send him to as many sleep away summer camps as possible. I

> would send him to a boarding school or therapeutic group home but I have bad

> credit and low income. His biological father lives clear across the country

> and is having serious problems with his new marriage, and my husband is in

> prison for the next three years so I really am doing this all on my own.

> I contacted child protective services for help and they decided they do

> not know how to assist us. They said they can't do anything since no child

> is being abused. (they don't give a sh*t that my daughter gets hit by her

> brother) Mental Health has told me they have no advice for me since they are

> not equipped to deal with people on the autism spectrum, and the local

> Regional Center no longer has funding to help high functioning children.

> His therapist has been working with children for over 25 years and has

> never had such a hard time making a connection with a client. When she walks

> in the door for their weekly session he says " Oh God, it's my stupid

> counselor. I'm busy and you want to make me stop what I'm doing. I hate

> stupid freakin counseling. What a waste of my time "

> Now he MUST have some sort of a filter on his mouth, because at 12 years

> old I have still never heard him actually cuss, but other than that he just

> says whatever is on his mind. The other day my mother stopped by for a

> moment. My mother has early stage alzheimers and is bi polar. My son

> shouts " oh god its my psycho granny here to spew her nonsense " . Ok like

> WHO SAYS STUFF LIKE THAT ABOUT AND IN FRONT OF GRANDMA??????

> It seems like both his ODD and his AS are getting more severe as he gets

> older. I immagine puberty isn't helping much.

> Anyways, sorry for this long long rant, but I am hoping to find just one

> person out there who can relate or who has some magic solution or valuable

> suggestions.

>

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, , and Leah

February 7, 2011

we had the exact same problem 6 months ago. after several trips to docs and stuff, we finally found an expert in aspergers and he put my son on risperidone and it has changed our life. It is not normal by any means, but so much better and i can actually leave the kids in a room together without supervision again. my kids are 10 and 12. get help asap, when aspies reach puberty, they turn into Tasmanian devils! Sycamore Art StudiosSycamore Art SchoolDeborah GustlinGraphic & Web DesignArt classes for K-12www.sycamoreartstudios.comwww.sycamoreartschool.comHome: 408-710-0892 Business: 408-710-6070From:

<jenniferhermanski@...> Sent: Mon, February 7, 2011 8:29:07 AMSubject: ( ) Anybody else

Have a child with AS and ODD?

I really need some support right now. This child of mine is driving me crazy!

Yesterday had a neighbor boy over because of the superbowl (he didn't actually WATCH the game, but he played his gameboy near the TV so it was LIKE he was watching)

I think having so much stimulation overwhelmed him, but he was able to hold it together while his company was over. Then as soon as his buddy left my house got the "wild" look in his eye. He started ripping up one of his sisters books because he was bored. When asked to go calm down in his room he began purposely stomping on the floor (we have neighbors below us). Next thing I know he is throwing all of his toys out of his room and into my hallway. His sister who has quite a sassy mouth at times said something to him and he kicked her in the stomach.

I don't know what to do when he gets like this anymore. Restraining him is out of the question because he is over five feet tall and 106 lbs. I am only five foot two. Calling the cops is out because they always roll their eyes at me and remind me that hes "Your child, your problem." There is no reasoning with him when hes like this. His eyes go completely blank and he is able to process NOTHING. Consequences don't work. Even taking away his one true love, video games, does not work.

I am scared of him sometimes and I am especially afraid for my daughter. I am also worried he is going to get us kicked out of our apartment. We just moved here in November and the neighbors hate us. If I leave him home when I go grocery shopping he trashes the house and goes through my stuff. If I take him with me he yells at me the whole time about how he is too tired to walk that far (it's only two blocks)and then in the store itself he doesn't look where he is going and bumps into people and blocks aisles.

I feel like my whole life is spinning out of control right now and I really just need a break but nobody except my drug addicted ex sister in law is willing to watch him. I hate to say it, but I can't wait for summer time. I am going to send him to as many sleep away summer camps as possible. I would send him to a boarding school or therapeutic group home but I have bad credit and low income. His biological father lives clear across the country and is having serious problems with his new marriage, and my husband is in prison for the next three years so I really am doing this all on my own.

I contacted child protective services for help and they decided they do not know how to assist us. They said they can't do anything since no child is being abused. (they don't give a sh*t that my daughter gets hit by her brother) Mental Health has told me they have no advice for me since they are not equipped to deal with people on the autism spectrum, and the local Regional Center no longer has funding to help high functioning children.

His therapist has been working with children for over 25 years and has never had such a hard time making a connection with a client. When she walks in the door for their weekly session he says "Oh God, it's my stupid counselor. I'm busy and you want to make me stop what I'm doing. I hate stupid freakin counseling. What a waste of my time"

Now he MUST have some sort of a filter on his mouth, because at 12 years old I have still never heard him actually cuss, but other than that he just says whatever is on his mind. The other day my mother stopped by for a moment. My mother has early stage alzheimers and is bi polar. My son shouts "oh god its my psycho granny here to spew her nonsense". Ok like WHO SAYS STUFF LIKE THAT ABOUT AND IN FRONT OF GRANDMA??????

It seems like both his ODD and his AS are getting more severe as he gets older. I immagine puberty isn't helping much.

Anyways, sorry for this long long rant, but I am hoping to find just one person out there who can relate or who has some magic solution or valuable suggestions.

February 7, 2011

Has he been tested for bipolar? From: <jenniferhermanski@...>Subject: ( ) Anybody else Date: Monday, February 7, 2011, 10:29 AM