Re: My son wandering around after school

[Guest guest]

My son is only 6, but other children the same age as him are out roaming the estate all day, before we knew we used to let him out with the other kids, it would always end up with him either being hurt or shouting because the older kids were winding him up.

So now he plays in the garden, I watch from the kitchen, or he goes to the kidzone at the gym which is also supervised.

I think he will be just like your son when he gets older, I to would be very worried about your son. The carer needs to be informed and pro active re your son. He needs some structured activities, he shouldn't be away for long periods of time, he is vunerable.

I'd get on top of this before anything does happen to your son, you are not crazy, follow your gut instinct.

Lor B

From: Sharron <sharron.crockett@...>Subject: ( ) My son wandering around after school Date: Thursday, 24 September, 2009, 9:20 AM

I am so worried about my son. He lives part time with a new carer that doesnt understand. This carer is letting my son go out for walks after school. Yes he is 16 but he is young for his age, doesnt understand social cues very well and has been a target for bullies and he is vunerable. I understand that you cant not let him out at all. But I do think he should have structured activities after school instead of being sent out the door. And a short walk is ok, but not going out for a long time without knowing where he is going.I am worried people may perceive me as being over anxious and crazy. Others dont understand.I would love to hear comments and get some feedback here, as I know I am not crazy.

[Guest guest]

I would trust your instincts. Yes, I would certainly ask for structured after-school activities. The "wandering" around is not a good idea---I agree with you.

From: Sharron <sharron.crockett@...>Subject: ( ) My son wandering around after school Date: Thursday, September 24, 2009, 4:20 AM

I am so worried about my son. He lives part time with a new carer that doesnt understand. This carer is letting my son go out for walks after school. Yes he is 16 but he is young for his age, doesnt understand social cues very well and has been a target for bullies and he is vunerable. I understand that you cant not let him out at all. But I do think he should have structured activities after school instead of being sent out the door. And a short walk is ok, but not going out for a long time without knowing where he is going.I am worried people may perceive me as being over anxious and crazy. Others dont understand.I would love to hear comments and get some feedback here, as I know I am not crazy.

[Guest guest]

Hi Sharron,

I can relate to your concern because those are the same concerns for me with my son.

if I were in your situation I would explain my concerns to the person in charge at the school and also explain my sons DX. I would also say this verbally and in writing about my concerns and add if my son still continues to wander around any where he pleases after school -unsupervised -while he's in your care.... who do I hold personally responsible for my son's safety if he were to get lost or worse.

While your son is living part time with the new carer - they have custody of him while he is there so they are fully responsible for his safety while he's in their care. If something were to happen to him - they are the ones with neglect.

Of course we don't want it to get to that point so prevention is best. this is why I would be so direct as to ask them whom do I hold responsible for my sons safety while in your care. by putting that in writing and asking for a response back in writing would have more of an impact and help them think better at making better choices when it comes to your son. (for his safety).

also keep in mind - putting this in writing also proves that you made them aware of your concerns with you son - because if something were to happen, they will quickly point their fingers at you and they will say, they didn't know. NOW they know...

hope this helps

From: Sharron <sharron.crockett@...> Sent: Thursday, September 24, 2009 4:20:51 AMSubject: ( ) My son wandering around after school

I am so worried about my son. He lives part time with a new carer that doesnt understand. This carer is letting my son go out for walks after school. Yes he is 16 but he is young for his age, doesnt understand social cues very well and has been a target for bullies and he is vunerable. I understand that you cant not let him out at all. But I do think he should have structured activities after school instead of being sent out the door. And a short walk is ok, but not going out for a long time without knowing where he is going.I am worried people may perceive me as being over anxious and crazy. Others dont understand.I would love to hear comments and get some feedback here, as I know I am not crazy.

[Guest guest]

Hi my friend,I have a 17yrs old son He had a very hard time with bullies,follow your gut feelings.ask for a much better landed out program.somtime our kids really dont' pick up on the social skills.and then they are targets.then if something happens guess who is the frist person theycall.my son just turned 17 in augof this year.no you are not crazy lol.you are a great mom.Angel Blessings Vanesa

From: Sharron <sharron.crockett@...>Subject: ( ) My son wandering around after school Date: Thursday, September 24, 2009, 4:20 AM

I am so worried about my son. He lives part time with a new carer that doesnt understand. This carer is letting my son go out for walks after school. Yes he is 16 but he is young for his age, doesnt understand social cues very well and has been a target for bullies and he is vunerable. I understand that you cant not let him out at all. But I do think he should have structured activities after school instead of being sent out the door. And a short walk is ok, but not going out for a long time without knowing where he is going.I am worried people may perceive me as being over anxious and crazy. Others dont understand.I would love to hear comments and get some feedback here, as I know I am not crazy.

[Guest guest]

I would worry, too. He needs something more structured where he is safe and has

a chance for positive interactions with people. My son was a target for bullies,

too. There is just so much that could happen to him if he is walking around on

his own. My son once had a tense run-in with a police officer who became

suspicious when my son wouldn't make eye contact and was mumbling his answers.

Thank goodness, I wasn't far away and was able to smooth things over. Scary to

think what could have happened if I wasn't there.