Re: Re: feeling guilt/depressed

March 24, 2011

He he. It's funny....but not.

They aren't being melodramatic. They literally can't do it......due to, I don't know,,,,, disgust? I think Ian thinks too much about it, ya know?

No one wants to drop a load anywhere but your own home, but we just do it and try not to think about it.

From: cmt263 <gina9431@...>Subject: ( ) Re: feeling guilt/depressed Date: Wednesday, March 23, 2011, 9:18 PM

As much as it probably shouldn't be funny......I had to chuckle about your son worrying about the cows staring at him I could totally see my son doing that same thing!!!! Mine has a major fear of stuffed animal heads!!!!! My father has one in his garage and they have to drop him off outside before they get to the garage (my my babysits him). This is the only time he actually gets out of the car fast..........otherwise I could be in the house for 10 minutes before he finally strolls in!My Dad took him somewhere one time and didn't take the animal head thing seriously and pulled in to the garage........He was sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo upset and refuses to go anywhere with my Dad because of it (and this was a few years ago).We went to a restaurant one year for my birthday that had animal heads......worst birthday dinner ever! He wouldn't stop asking when we would leave and kept his hands cupped around his eyes the entire time. In

fact, last summer on vacation we could not go to a restaurant my boyfriend & his son wanted to go to because it had animal heads. I felt bad about it and I think they think he does it on purpose...........Oh, and a few years ago we went on vacation with my boyfriends family for the first time. Don't ya know......we get a cabin with a deer head in the living room!!!! Luckily my boyfriend and I had the basement to hang out in.....my son did everything there, including eating! Again, I didn't feel anyone understood and I felt pressured to make his accept the stupid deer head! Do other kids have these kind of fears? I wonder why something so silly bothers him so much! He also told me he doesn't like them staring at him......um hello, they are not really staring at you, lol!I find it so hard to get things like this, because they seem so silly to me. I try to understand they are not silly to him, which is very clear when you see just how

scared he gets! > >> > My son is 11yrs. old now...he has never had any "real friends"...just has one "friend" who is 3yrs younger, lives a few doors down our street. I have to monitor the play-dates very closely - I use walkey-talkies so that I know exactly what/where my son is/doing. Just last fall he had 2x decided to run home from this playmate, while calling me on his talkie, crying, yelling that he needed to kill himself and it was all his fault! He came home & had a full tantrum, destroyed the house, looking for something to hurt himself...he knew it was his own fault because during his playdate with the peer, things got out of control and

my son kicked his "friend" hard in the groin, prompting the friends mother to send my son home. I am still friends with the boy's mom, and through talking with her, I have managed to explain my son's emotional shortcomings (Asperger). > > My son still has his "friend". But I know he will not have more than this. He can only manage 1 at a time. My son was different all of his life. The school has never quite been able to get it. He was constantly suspended from Kindergarden! Went to shortened days, I meanwhile was trying to keep my career! What a nightmare. Childcare providers kept kicking him out! I finally was forced to quit my job....and anyway....after years of tests, various psyc "professionals" telling me to "learn how to be a better parent" I have decided that I must keep advocating for my son, no one else will. I have grieved, and I still cry & grieve that my son is different, now. But he is so very smart & talented (in math

& reading) he is at least 2yrs maybe 3yrs ahead of his class (currently 5th grade). He just cannot do things that are "liquid" like social/communication, and he is extremely awkward in sports.> >>

March 24, 2011

When my son was 5 and going to go into kindergarten...people would say what is he going to do???? I would reply...if my son can hold it 7 days...then I am sure he can hold it for 4 hours! LOL! Yes, we had a really hard time with him not wanting to go at all...we had to put mineral oil in his drinks...and don't ask me how he didn't know it was there but he didn't!

Of course, once we got him to go about every other day...he would not go any where but home. One time we were going to the movies...I had bought the tickets and we wondered around the mall...and just as we got to the movies...he had to go. He wanted to go home so badly. I finally talked him into using the bathroom in the movie theatre....he was probably 5 or 6. Well, he would not use the boys bathroom by himself...so I took him into the ladies room. He was in there forever. I was outside the door ...talking to him the whole time. Girls would look at me...and when he came out finally and was washing his hands ...women just look at me and I said...there is no way I am sending him into the men's room by himself and walked out with my head high!

And, now he is 15 and still only goes at home!

Jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: and/or Robin Lemke <jrisjs@...> Sent: Thu, March 24, 2011 8:28:16 AMSubject: Re: ( ) Re: feeling guilt/depressed