Re: Anyone else having fun with the transition back to school????

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omg its been so aweful darma drama and more drama he 14 you think it would get better it doesnt ready to call super nanny lol good luck mom what weel it will beFrom: matiesfamily <heidie_ward@...>Subject: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school???? Date: Wednesday, January 5, 2011, 1:52 AM

Of course, the "fun" in the above title is rather much sarcastic...I am feeling bruised and bloodied after tonight's issues. Meltdowns and general disregulation...nothing is right- not food, not leisure, nothing. I know that this is an Aspie brain processing the changes- 2 weeks off school, now she's back. When will I get it- not just intellectually, but experiencially. When will I expect this and love her through it, rather than ride the roller coaster of emotions. These are I guess mostly rhetorical questions. Just feeling a little emotionally fragile at the moment. Hopefully a good night's sleep will bring the perspective I need! Thanks for listening.

[Guest guest]

I feel you pain! Mine has has a rough 2 days, but I have just come to realize

that is how it is going to be when he goes back. They had a substitute teacher

yesterday on the 2nd day back, so you can imagine how yesterday went! I'm sure

I will hear from the teacher today, lol!! I have really started to lighten up

about the school issues this year and it is bringing me some much needed relief.

This years teacher has been difficult to deal with, but that has made it easier

for me to say, " he's your problem when he is at school " . Not saying that is the

right attitude, but it's helping me not stress out so much. He still has

consequences when behaviors are bad enough and I am still trying to work with

him on issues he has at school...I just laugh more about getting daily e-mails

from the teacher.....Hope things improve as the week goes on!!!

>

> Of course, the " fun " in the above title is rather much sarcastic...I am

feeling bruised and bloodied after tonight's issues. Meltdowns and general

disregulation...nothing is right- not food, not leisure, nothing. I know that

this is an Aspie brain processing the changes- 2 weeks off school, now she's

back. When will I get it- not just intellectually, but experiencially. When will

I expect this and love her through it, rather than ride the roller coaster of

emotions. These are I guess mostly rhetorical questions. Just feeling a little

emotionally fragile at the moment. Hopefully a good night's sleep will bring the

perspective I need! Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

Oh my word...I'm right there with you. I adore my son but I have got to get my emotions under control. Monday night we had a huge blowout that resulted in my screaming at him and then crying myself to sleep. Did it ever dawn on me that the transition was the problem? No. I swear when you live in it every day reality becomes so distorted. I'm working on leaving the room when he is just flat out mean to me. I get emotionally hooked and before I know it we're in a fight. That must be some sight to watch a 47 year old mother and a 6 year old son. Worse than that....he almost always wins!

[Guest guest]

I think we are all there.. Transitions are hard.. Hang in there! From: matiesfamily <heidie_ward@...> Sent: Tue, January 4, 2011 8:52:09 PMSubject: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

Of course, the "fun" in the above title is rather much sarcastic...I am feeling bruised and bloodied after tonight's issues. Meltdowns and general disregulation...nothing is right- not food, not leisure, nothing. I know that this is an Aspie brain processing the changes- 2 weeks off school, now she's back. When will I get it- not just intellectually, but experiencially. When will I expect this and love her through it, rather than ride the roller coaster of emotions. These are I guess mostly rhetorical questions. Just feeling a little emotionally fragile at the moment. Hopefully a good night's sleep will bring the perspective I need! Thanks for listening.

[Guest guest]

First day back was horrific. The worst was Dylan's anxiety level was through the roof. He kept telling me how nervous he was once we got there. Before however was a hugh tantrum. We're there with you.

From: matiesfamily <heidie_ward@...> Sent: Tue, January 4, 2011 5:52:09 PMSubject: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

Of course, the "fun" in the above title is rather much sarcastic...I am feeling bruised and bloodied after tonight's issues. Meltdowns and general disregulation...nothing is right- not food, not leisure, nothing. I know that this is an Aspie brain processing the changes- 2 weeks off school, now she's back. When will I get it- not just intellectually, but experiencially. When will I expect this and love her through it, rather than ride the roller coaster of emotions. These are I guess mostly rhetorical questions. Just feeling a little emotionally fragile at the moment. Hopefully a good night's sleep will bring the perspective I need! Thanks for listening.

[Guest guest]

The first day back and the day before the break are the worst. Any changes cause anxiety....I know...I work with kids and have a son with AS. So, just remember this and try to stay calm...if your child get anxious, has a tantrum, meltdown...etc. remember, this is due to changes in schedule...try to keep your child calm and relaxed. Sometimes ...they need time away from a situation...or a 10 minute break...

Hang in there.

jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: Cathleen Veloria <cathleen.veloria@...> Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 5:14:01 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

First day back was horrific. The worst was Dylan's anxiety level was through the roof. He kept telling me how nervous he was once we got there. Before however was a hugh tantrum. We're there with you.

From: matiesfamily <heidie_ward@...> Sent: Tue, January 4, 2011 5:52:09 PMSubject: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

Of course, the "fun" in the above title is rather much sarcastic...I am feeling bruised and bloodied after tonight's issues. Meltdowns and general disregulation...nothing is right- not food, not leisure, nothing. I know that this is an Aspie brain processing the changes- 2 weeks off school, now she's back. When will I get it- not just intellectually, but experiencially. When will I expect this and love her through it, rather than ride the roller coaster of emotions. These are I guess mostly rhetorical questions. Just feeling a little emotionally fragile at the moment. Hopefully a good night's sleep will bring the perspective I need! Thanks for listening.

[Guest guest]

I give my son neck and shoulder massages as much as I can when he's anxious before he goes to school. Of course, this is harder when we're in the car, but I'll have one hand rubbing his neck or squeezing his shoulders, to help him calm down. I also make sure he gets as much time with our puppy as possible as soon as he wakes up because it distracts him and seems to help him calm down.

He's worried about his math class right now and will say "I'm going to fail! I'm going to fail!" repeatedly, in short bursts. I've introduced cognitive restructuring techniques so I help him figure out a way to turn that negative thought around and replace it with something positive. So instead of telling himself he's going to fail, he'll say "I'll going to work hard and do the best that I can." Key is to get him to do this on his own when he's anxious and I'm not there. Have no idea if he does it or not, but it would help if he does.

From: Cathleen Veloria <cathleen.veloria@...> Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 4:14:01 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

First day back was horrific. The worst was Dylan's anxiety level was through the roof. He kept telling me how nervous he was once we got there. Before however was a hugh tantrum. We're there with you.

From: matiesfamily <heidie_ward@...> Sent: Tue, January 4, 2011 5:52:09 PMSubject: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

Of course, the "fun" in the above title is rather much sarcastic...I am feeling bruised and bloodied after tonight's issues. Meltdowns and general disregulation...nothing is right- not food, not leisure, nothing. I know that this is an Aspie brain processing the changes- 2 weeks off school, now she's back. When will I get it- not just intellectually, but experiencially. When will I expect this and love her through it, rather than ride the roller coaster of emotions. These are I guess mostly rhetorical questions. Just feeling a little emotionally fragile at the moment. Hopefully a good night's sleep will bring the perspective I need! Thanks for listening.

[Guest guest]

My husband flew to ca at 6am the 1st day back, we're having a *great*

time <sigh>

On 1/4/11, matiesfamily <heidie_ward@...> wrote:

> Of course, the " fun " in the above title is rather much sarcastic...I am

> feeling bruised and bloodied after tonight's issues. Meltdowns and general

> disregulation...nothing is right- not food, not leisure, nothing. I know

> that this is an Aspie brain processing the changes- 2 weeks off school, now

> she's back. When will I get it- not just intellectually, but experiencially.

> When will I expect this and love her through it, rather than ride the roller

> coaster of emotions. These are I guess mostly rhetorical questions. Just

> feeling a little emotionally fragile at the moment. Hopefully a good night's

> sleep will bring the perspective I need! Thanks for listening.

>

>

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-mommy to Emma, Becca, ,

, , and Leah

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Parents do not argue with children... That's is what our therapist said, and it really stuck and I live by it now. The Aspie will always win one way or the other... you must remain the adult and walk away. From: Weiss <cindyjonesweiss@...> Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 9:49:06 AMSubject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

Oh my word...I'm right there with you. I adore my son but I have got to get my emotions under control. Monday night we had a huge blowout that resulted in my screaming at him and then crying myself to sleep. Did it ever dawn on me that the transition was the problem? No. I swear when you live in it every day reality becomes so distorted. I'm working on leaving the room when he is just flat out mean to me. I get emotionally hooked and before I know it we're in a fight. That must be some sight to watch a 47 year old mother and a 6 year old son. Worse than that....he almost always wins!

[Guest guest]

My son is 15...he went and goes thru spells where he says he is sick and his stomach hurts...and I am sure it does. I told him we believe him. He has missed 10 days of school already. We took him to the doctor. But, nothing is wrong. I explained to my son that it is anxiety. Anxiety can really mess you up.

So I had a meeting with his teachers, the Asst. Principal, his case manager and my son. We discussed this. We explained that stress can upset your stomach. We then explained to him that he needs to eat in the morning and during the day. We then came up with a plan. He brings gingerale to school with him as well as saltines. I get him to eat 1/2 roll or bagel. He also is allowed to go to his safety zone (his reading teacher's room) any time of the day when he needs it.

Now I get him to school but quite often in the car just as we are pulling into school, he will say...Will I be okay, today? And, I reassure him that he will be. I tell him that we all get anxious...it isn't just him. And, I remind him that all his teachers like him a lot and that he can go to his safety zone any time he needs. And, that seems to help him...just knowing that everyone knows he is nervous and anxious...and that everyone cares and that he has a safe place to go...helps so much!

Jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: MacAllister <smacalli@...> Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 5:51:01 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

I give my son neck and shoulder massages as much as I can when he's anxious before he goes to school. Of course, this is harder when we're in the car, but I'll have one hand rubbing his neck or squeezing his shoulders, to help him calm down. I also make sure he gets as much time with our puppy as possible as soon as he wakes up because it distracts him and seems to help him calm down.

He's worried about his math class right now and will say "I'm going to fail! I'm going to fail!" repeatedly, in short bursts. I've introduced cognitive restructuring techniques so I help him figure out a way to turn that negative thought around and replace it with something positive. So instead of telling himself he's going to fail, he'll say "I'll going to work hard and do the best that I can." Key is to get him to do this on his own when he's anxious and I'm not there. Have no idea if he does it or not, but it would help if he does.

From: Cathleen Veloria <cathleen.veloria@...> Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 4:14:01 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

First day back was horrific. The worst was Dylan's anxiety level was through the roof. He kept telling me how nervous he was once we got there. Before however was a hugh tantrum. We're there with you.

From: matiesfamily <heidie_ward@...> Sent: Tue, January 4, 2011 5:52:09 PMSubject: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

Of course, the "fun" in the above title is rather much sarcastic...I am feeling bruised and bloodied after tonight's issues. Meltdowns and general disregulation...nothing is right- not food, not leisure, nothing. I know that this is an Aspie brain processing the changes- 2 weeks off school, now she's back. When will I get it- not just intellectually, but experiencially. When will I expect this and love her through it, rather than ride the roller coaster of emotions. These are I guess mostly rhetorical questions. Just feeling a little emotionally fragile at the moment. Hopefully a good night's sleep will bring the perspective I need! Thanks for listening.

[Guest guest]

The safety zone is a great idea. We have an IEP meeting coming up soon and I'll bring that to everyones attention. They only just found out exactly how much he is suffering from his anxiety.From: rushen janice <jrushen@...> Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 6:45:57 PMSubject: Re: ( )

Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

My son is 15...he went and goes thru spells where he says he is sick and his stomach hurts...and I am sure it does. I told him we believe him. He has missed 10 days of school already. We took him to the doctor. But, nothing is wrong. I explained to my son that it is anxiety. Anxiety can really mess you up.

So I had a meeting with his teachers, the Asst. Principal, his case manager and my son. We discussed this. We explained that stress can upset your stomach. We then explained to him that he needs to eat in the morning and during the day. We then came up with a plan. He brings gingerale to school with him as well as saltines. I get him to eat 1/2 roll or bagel. He also is allowed to go to his safety zone (his reading teacher's room) any time of the day when he needs it.

Now I get him to school but quite often in the car just as we are pulling into school, he will say...Will I be okay, today? And, I reassure him that he will be. I tell him that we all get anxious...it isn't just him. And, I remind him that all his teachers like him a lot and that he can go to his safety zone any time he needs. And, that seems to help him...just knowing that everyone knows he is nervous and anxious...and that everyone cares and that he has a safe place to go...helps so much!

Jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: MacAllister <smacalli@...> Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 5:51:01 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

I give my son neck and shoulder massages as much as I can when he's anxious before he goes to school. Of course, this is harder when we're in the car, but I'll have one hand rubbing his neck or squeezing his shoulders, to help him calm down. I also make sure he gets as much time with our puppy as possible as soon as he wakes up because it distracts him and seems to help him calm down.

He's worried about his math class right now and will say "I'm going to fail! I'm going to fail!" repeatedly, in short bursts. I've introduced cognitive restructuring techniques so I help him figure out a way to turn that negative thought around and replace it with something positive. So instead of telling himself he's going to fail, he'll say "I'll going to work hard and do the best that I can." Key is to get him to do this on his own when he's anxious and I'm not there. Have no idea if he does it or not, but it would help if he does.

From: Cathleen Veloria <cathleen.veloria@...> Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 4:14:01 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

First day back was horrific. The worst was Dylan's anxiety level was through the roof. He kept telling me how nervous he was once we got there. Before however was a hugh tantrum. We're there with you.

From: matiesfamily <heidie_ward@...> Sent: Tue, January 4, 2011 5:52:09 PMSubject: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

Of course, the "fun" in the above title is rather much sarcastic...I am feeling bruised and bloodied after tonight's issues. Meltdowns and general disregulation...nothing is right- not food, not leisure, nothing. I know that this is an Aspie brain processing the changes- 2 weeks off school, now she's back. When will I get it- not just intellectually, but experiencially. When will I expect this and love her through it, rather than ride the roller coaster of emotions. These are I guess mostly rhetorical questions. Just feeling a little emotionally fragile at the moment. Hopefully a good night's sleep will bring the perspective I need! Thanks for listening.

[Guest guest]

At our school ours is called the quiet room. My 4th grade DS has a card in his

desk that says he is going to take a break in the quiet room and it says he will

be back in 5 to 10 minutes. It was designed so he could hand it to a sub

teacher or put it on his desk so he doesn't have to ask a " stranger " to leave

for a break. The quiet room trips are written into his IEP. I found out this

is standard for our middle school so I brough the idea to elementary and they

were very receptive and implemented the card system immediately. It eliminates

the anxiety of having to ask to leave.

>

> The safety zone is a great idea. We have an IEP meeting coming up soon and

I'll

> bring that to everyones attention. They only just found out exactly how much

he

> is suffering from his anxiety.

>

>

>

> ________________________________

> From: rushen janice <jrushen@...>

>

> Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 6:45:57 PM

> Subject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having " fun " with the transition

> back to school????

>

>

> My son is 15...he went and goes thru spells where he says he is sick and his

> stomach hurts...and I am sure it does. I told him we believe him. He has

> missed 10 days of school already. We took him to the doctor. But, nothing

> is wrong. I explained to my son that it is anxiety. Anxiety can really mess

> you up.

>

>

> So I had a meeting with his teachers, the Asst. Principal, his case manager

and

> my son. We discussed this. We explained that stress can upset your stomach.

> We then explained to him that he needs to eat in the morning and during the

> day. We then came up with a plan. He brings gingerale to school with him as

> well as saltines. I get him to eat 1/2 roll or bagel. He also is allowed to

go

> to his safety zone (his reading teacher's room) any time of the day when he

> needs it.

>

>

> Now I get him to school but quite often in the car just as we are pulling into

> school, he will say...Will I be okay, today? And, I reassure him that he

will

> be. I tell him that we all get anxious...it isn't just him. And, I remind

him

> that all his teachers like him a lot and that he can go to his safety zone any

> time he needs. And, that seems to help him...just knowing that everyone knows

> he is nervous and anxious...and that everyone cares and that he has a safe

place

> to go...helps so much!

>

> Jan

>

> " In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity " Albert Einstein

>

> Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has

overcome

> to obtain that position

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

> From: MacAllister <smacalli@...>

>

> Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 5:51:01 PM

> Subject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having " fun " with the transition

> back to school????

>

>

> I give my son neck and shoulder massages as much as I can when he's anxious

> before he goes to school. Of course, this is harder when we're in the car,

but

> I'll have one hand rubbing his neck or squeezing his shoulders, to help him

calm

> down. I also make sure he gets as much time with our puppy as possible as soon

> as he wakes up because it distracts him and seems to help him calm down.

>

>

> He's worried about his math class right now and will say " I'm going to fail!

I'm

> going to fail! " repeatedly, in short bursts. I've introduced cognitive

> restructuring techniques so I help him figure out a way to turn that negative

> thought around and replace it with something positive. So instead of telling

> himself he's going to fail, he'll say " I'll going to work hard and do the best

> that I can. " Key is to get him to do this on his own when he's anxious and

I'm

> not there. Have no idea if he does it or not, but it would help if he does.

>

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

> From: Cathleen Veloria <cathleen.veloria@...>

>

> Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 4:14:01 PM

> Subject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having " fun " with the transition

> back to school????

>

>

> First day back was horrific. The worst was Dylan's anxiety level was through

the

> roof. He kept telling me how nervous he was once we got there. Before however

> was a hugh tantrum. We're there with you.

>

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

> From: matiesfamily <heidie_ward@...>

>

> Sent: Tue, January 4, 2011 5:52:09 PM

> Subject: ( ) Anyone else having " fun " with the transition back

to

> school????

>

>

> Of course, the " fun " in the above title is rather much sarcastic...I am

feeling

> bruised and bloodied after tonight's issues. Meltdowns and general

> disregulation...nothing is right- not food, not leisure, nothing. I know that

> this is an Aspie brain processing the changes- 2 weeks off school, now she's

> back. When will I get it- not just intellectually, but experiencially. When

will

> I expect this and love her through it, rather than ride the roller coaster of

> emotions. These are I guess mostly rhetorical questions. Just feeling a little

> emotionally fragile at the moment. Hopefully a good night's sleep will bring

the

> perspective I need! Thanks for listening.

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you, will definately have it put into the IEP.

Cathleen

From: carrie1mccarthy <carrie1mccarthy@...> Sent: Thu, January 6, 2011 7:17:14 AMSubject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to school????

At our school ours is called the quiet room. My 4th grade DS has a card in his desk that says he is going to take a break in the quiet room and it says he will be back in 5 to 10 minutes. It was designed so he could hand it to a sub teacher or put it on his desk so he doesn't have to ask a "stranger" to leave for a break. The quiet room trips are written into his IEP. I found out this is standard for our middle school so I brough the idea to elementary and they were very receptive and implemented the card system immediately. It eliminates the anxiety of having to ask to leave. >> The safety zone is a great idea. We have an IEP meeting coming up soon and I'll > bring that to everyones attention. They

only just found out exactly how much he > is suffering from his anxiety.> > > > ________________________________> From: rushen janice <jrushen@...>> > Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 6:45:57 PM> Subject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition > back to school????> > > My son is 15...he went and goes thru spells where he says he is sick and his > stomach hurts...and I am sure it does. I told him we believe him. He has > missed 10 days of school already. We took him to the doctor. But, nothing > is wrong. I explained to my son that it is anxiety. Anxiety can really mess > you up. > > > So I had a meeting with his

teachers, the Asst. Principal, his case manager and > my son. We discussed this. We explained that stress can upset your stomach. > We then explained to him that he needs to eat in the morning and during the > day. We then came up with a plan. He brings gingerale to school with him as > well as saltines. I get him to eat 1/2 roll or bagel. He also is allowed to go > to his safety zone (his reading teacher's room) any time of the day when he > needs it. > > > Now I get him to school but quite often in the car just as we are pulling into > school, he will say...Will I be okay, today? And, I reassure him that he will > be. I tell him that we all get anxious...it isn't just him. And, I remind him > that all his teachers like him a lot and that he can go to his safety zone any > time he needs. And, that seems to help him...just knowing that everyone knows > he

is nervous and anxious...and that everyone cares and that he has a safe place > to go...helps so much!> > Jan> > "In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein> > Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome > to obtain that position> > > > > ________________________________> From: MacAllister <smacalli@...>> > Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 5:51:01 PM> Subject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition > back to school????> > > I give my son neck and shoulder massages as much as I can when he's anxious > before he goes to school. Of course, this is

harder when we're in the car, but > I'll have one hand rubbing his neck or squeezing his shoulders, to help him calm > down. I also make sure he gets as much time with our puppy as possible as soon > as he wakes up because it distracts him and seems to help him calm down. > > > He's worried about his math class right now and will say "I'm going to fail! I'm > going to fail!" repeatedly, in short bursts. I've introduced cognitive > restructuring techniques so I help him figure out a way to turn that negative > thought around and replace it with something positive. So instead of telling > himself he's going to fail, he'll say "I'll going to work hard and do the best > that I can." Key is to get him to do this on his own when he's anxious and I'm > not there. Have no idea if he does it or not, but it would help if he does.> > > > >

> ________________________________> From: Cathleen Veloria <cathleen.veloria@...>> > Sent: Wed, January 5, 2011 4:14:01 PM> Subject: Re: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition > back to school????> > > First day back was horrific. The worst was Dylan's anxiety level was through the > roof. He kept telling me how nervous he was once we got there. Before however > was a hugh tantrum. We're there with you.> > > > > > ________________________________> From: matiesfamily <heidie_ward@...>> > Sent: Tue, January 4, 2011 5:52:09 PM> Subject: ( ) Anyone else having "fun" with the transition back to > school????> > > Of course, the "fun" in the above title is rather much sarcastic...I am feeling > bruised and bloodied after tonight's issues. Meltdowns and general > disregulation...nothing is right- not food, not leisure, nothing. I know that > this is an Aspie brain processing the changes- 2 weeks off school, now she's > back. When will I get it- not just intellectually, but experiencially. When will > I expect this and love her through it, rather than ride the roller coaster of > emotions. These are I guess mostly rhetorical questions. Just feeling a little > emotionally fragile at the moment. Hopefully a good night's sleep will bring the >

perspective I need! Thanks for listening.>

[Guest guest]

I can relate so well to this.  We have all gone through this for years; whenever school starts, or ends, every summer vacation, up to this present day. My son's spring semester starts next week.  He is so at a loss right now without his routine firmly in place, first from the semester break and now getting anxious about the start of new classes.

We had a 'discussion' over dinner as he felt irritated at the way I did something. (apparently, I can be quite irritating)  Then he felt bad and upset with himself for being irritated. (he analyzes everything, if you hadn't guessed)  The whole mindblindness aspect can really leave me feeling hurt or sad. Sometimes it is so hard to grasp that this child of yours cannot see that others around him have needs and problems.  And once in a while I would like to get a reassuring word, or a hug from him.  I told my DH, after he came home from work tonight, that I have to find a better way of living with this. The stress and worrying are taking a toll.

melaniOn Wed, Jan 5, 2011 at 8:49 AM, Weiss <cindyjonesweiss@...> wrote:

Oh my word...I'm right there with you.  I adore my son but I have got to get my emotions under control.  Monday night we had a huge blowout that resulted in my screaming at him and then crying myself to sleep.  Did it ever dawn on me that the transition was the problem?  No.  I swear when you live in it every day reality becomes so distorted.  I'm working on leaving the room when he is just flat out mean to me.  I get emotionally hooked and before I know it we're in a fight.  That must be some sight to watch a 47 year old mother and a 6 year old son.  Worse than that....he almost always wins!