Re: Dealing with negativity / disaster thoughts?

[Guest guest]

That sounds like generalized anxiety. I would limit his

exposure to the news for awhile. From age 6 to about 11 I

did not have the news on while my daughter was home. Also

I asked the school to understate in her presence any

information on handwashing and germs.

Most kids don't see harm and think bad things can't happen to

them. People and kids with anxiety see it the other way.

I would focus him on the boy scout handbook. Here is why,

the boy scouts teach skills for all sorts of things.

I think with anxiety (my daughter is very anxious) you

want to teach him, your family knows the safe way to do things.

Let him practice with plastic knifes. And teach him we do things

safely so noone gets hurt. We know how to handle paper

to reduce cuts, if we get one we know first aide.

My daughter really loved first aide (in brownies in first and

second grade)I am confident this kind of an approach will really make a

difference.

If the anxiety gets worse in spite of this, many AS kids

need medication.

I had to gradually exposure my daughter to all sorts of things

rather than avoid them totally.

good luck,

Pam

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> For the last two months my 6 year old Aspie has been doing some serious

negative thinking. He sees a plane in the sky & insists it is going to crash.

We are stopped at a traffic light & he says, " is there an accident up there? " I

point out a Smart Car & he says, " that's really small. If you get into an

accident in it, you'll die. " Today I was watching the weather channel & he

seized upon the flood & tornado watch, certain that we were going to die today &

our house was going to be ruined. I'm reading a magazine & he volunteers, " you

know you can get papercuts on your hands? " I open our umbrella & he asks, " did

it break? " This seems to be getting more intense & is getting to a point where

I'm really not enjoying our time together. It is just too negative & really

brings me down. If I ask him questions like " why do you think the umbrella is

broken? " he responds with, " you know umbrellas break all the time. " I have no

idea where he is getting this from.

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> Anyway, anyone have thoughts as to what might be going on? Any thoughts on

what I can do to turn it around? In the past he has been a really happy (not

easy) kid. I love my time with him & am frustrated that it is changing.

>

> Thanks for any ideas & thanks for listening. Just venting helps.

>

> Happy holidays!

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[Guest guest]

Thanks for your insight, Pam! I'd been focusing on trying to explain to him

that negative things rarely happen. ---Not on how to take control by doing

things safely, or how to " fix " the negative if it does happen. I see how this

is a basic difference in philosphy & I see how it could be very beneficial for

him! Thanks again for your input & for helping our family.

Take care!

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> > For the last two months my 6 year old Aspie has been doing some serious

negative thinking. He sees a plane in the sky & insists it is going to crash.

We are stopped at a traffic light & he says, " is there an accident up there? " I

point out a Smart Car & he says, " that's really small. If you get into an

accident in it, you'll die. " Today I was watching the weather channel & he

seized upon the flood & tornado watch, certain that we were going to die today &

our house was going to be ruined. I'm reading a magazine & he volunteers, " you

know you can get papercuts on your hands? " I open our umbrella & he asks, " did

it break? " This seems to be getting more intense & is getting to a point where

I'm really not enjoying our time together. It is just too negative & really

brings me down. If I ask him questions like " why do you think the umbrella is

broken? " he responds with, " you know umbrellas break all the time. " I have no

idea where he is getting this from.

> >

> > Anyway, anyone have thoughts as to what might be going on? Any thoughts on

what I can do to turn it around? In the past he has been a really happy (not

easy) kid. I love my time with him & am frustrated that it is changing.

> >

> > Thanks for any ideas & thanks for listening. Just venting helps.

> >

> > Happy holidays!

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[Guest guest]

Ugh, I just wrote a reply and it disappeared. lol. I hate that!!!

I wanted to say that this behavior could be any number of issues. He could be dealing with depression, anxiety and/or obsessive thinking. These kids can have a lot of trouble understanding cause/effect and even solving problems. One time my ds was being tested for problem solving and he started crying. He really had no idea how to even think through the problem, let alone solve it.

So you may want to consult a professional to evaluate him and see what's going on so you know how to deal with it.

Roxanna

"I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) Dealing with negativity / disaster thoughts?

For the last two months my 6 year old Aspie has been doing some serious negative thinking. He sees a plane in the sky & insists it is going to crash. We are stopped at a traffic light & he says, "is there an accident up there?" I point out a Smart Car & he says, "that's really small. If you get into an accident in it, you'll die." Today I was watching the weather channel & he seized upon the flood & tornado watch, certain that we were going to die today & our house was going to be ruined. I'm reading a magazine & he volunteers, "you know you can get papercuts on your hands?" I open our umbrella & he asks, "did it break?" This seems to be getting more intense & is getting to a point where I'm really not enjoying our time together. It is just too negative & really brings me down. If I ask him questions like "why do you think the umbrella is broken?" he responds with, & qu ot;you know umbrellas break all the time." I have no idea where he is getting this from.

Anyway, anyone have thoughts as to what might be going on? Any thoughts on what I can do to turn it around? In the past he has been a really happy (not easy) kid. I love my time with him & am frustrated that it is changing.

Thanks for any ideas & thanks for listening. Just venting helps.

Happy holidays!

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