RE: Re: advocating the iep

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I can vouch that without help u are right it does get to be an issue as they get older and the work is a little harder. I am still waiting on an "official" diagnosis, although my pediatrician believes without a doubt that he had aspergers and so do I. My sons grades are good but now that he is in 6th grade and the work is more difficult he is more easily frustrated and agitated. Homework, well I dread it. By the time he gets home the effects of his patch are starting to wear off. You would think I am planning on tearing all his teeth out. There are tears, near panic attacks, then the its too hard story and will you just do it for me comments. He doesnt interact well with the teacher either. If I could go back to 2nd grade with him I would definitely insist on getting him help with social interactions and to learn method to ease his stress and appropriately deal with frustrations . I think you would be right to push for the help socially now then having it be a bigger problem later. Don't back down from it or it will be rough for him as he gets older. Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----From: " lks9999 " <lesliekossar@...>< >Subject: ( ) Re: advocating the iepDate: Sat, Mar 12, 2011 7:10 am

I am in the same situation, my son is in 2nd grade, does well in school and poses no behavioral problems in the classroom (other than calling out impulsively), most adults think he is adorable and interesting, and the kids? - he's had a rough time because he tells the boys that he likes the girls better - so they give him a hard time. He is diagnosed just recently with AS and ADHD - but the school says his social problems are not their concern since academically he is doing above average. I KNOW when he gets into the higher grades he will not be able to cope with the schedules and responsibilities that come with it. Handing in homework? I can totally imagine that he will not do that. He won't even bring the right books home, I am sure. My dev. pediatrician says I need to get an advocate and a lawyer because the mental health issues that will arise without social intervention (she wants me to get him an aide during lunch/recess)and executive functioning will be horrible. I am waiting for the formal reports and then I will begin the fight with the school. Ugh.

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I feel for you too. It is such a shame how many people there are with the same delima. i think I am going to have to request a review or analysis (the three year one), that I don't think they gave him. And to think they want to discharge him without doing so. If I wasn't doing my research, I wouldn't have even known about the manditory 3-year review. It is just amazing what is being done, and not for the benefit of our children. Thanks for your concern, and sharing of your own battles. I have found so much help through the , I am so happy I signed up last week. Ours battles are just beginning, we can be strong, and there is so much power when we all work together like this.

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From: lesliekossar@...Date: Sat, 12 Mar 2011 12:10:52 +0000Subject: ( ) Re: advocating the iep

I am in the same situation, my son is in 2nd grade, does well in school and poses no behavioral problems in the classroom (other than calling out impulsively), most adults think he is adorable and interesting, and the kids? - he's had a rough time because he tells the boys that he likes the girls better - so they give him a hard time. He is diagnosed just recently with AS and ADHD - but the school says his social problems are not their concern since academically he is doing above average. I KNOW when he gets into the higher grades he will not be able to cope with the schedules and responsibilities that come with it. Handing in homework? I can totally imagine that he will not do that. He won't even bring the right books home, I am sure. My dev. pediatrician says I need to get an advocate and a lawyer because the mental health issues that will arise without social intervention (she wants me to get him an aide during lunch/recess)and executive functioning will be horrible. I am waiting for the formal reports and then I will begin the fight with the school. Ugh.

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IEP are reviewed each year. It doesn't mean that they are going to end his accommodations or change it. Each year we meet and discuss my son's IEP...what is working, what needs to change. Also, my son is going into 10th grade...high school. I gave them my concerns and we all worked on revising it. Having an anual IEP meeting doesn't mean that it will end or that they will change it to a 504 program. Your child is growing, moving to a new grade and they will refine and fine tune his/her IEP.

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From: <b.degraff@...> Sent: Tue, March 15, 2011 4:04:58 PMSubject: ( ) Re: advocating the iep

What was the reason for getting the IEP in the first place? Have these issues disappeared? Can you go in saying they are still problems so the IEP must be continued?My son has no academic issues and is in the gifted programs. He has a diagnosis of AS, which on the IEP is listed as "autism". We still have an IEP (he is starting HS next fall) since he has many social issues, including melt downs in class and lack of anger control that is directed at himself. He has improved with all the work, but it is not going away, he still needs the assistance. I can't tell how old your son is, but middle school is a significant transition and will challenge even a gifted child when their social skills aren't strong. Can you push that the only reason issues haven't happened is because of the IEP, things were caught early and if the IEP goes away they will come back?Just some random thoughts. Good luck.Sandy>> My son is up for his iep. I am frantically researching how to keep him in services and not move over to the 504. He is above average academically. Now, how many parents of aspies have said that. I have from teachers, at the school, that due to his academic proficiency he does not need services. He holds it together like a rock star at school. Most days, when he gets home, he can't even due a one page homework hand-out. How can they say that doesn't affect his school-work. His games skill, at school, are right on. At home, there are many times, if I walk out of the room, he may jump over the play table and grab his sister's neck when not going his way. He goes for a week without handing in the homework in his backpack, due to the

commotion at the lockers when arriving at school. Any advice on how to keep him in the system (legally, and medically)? It is not like autism just goes away. Please help.>

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I agree, get social skills help and learning coping skills as early as possible. The older kids are the harder these things are for them. ne

From: tcavins@... <tcavins@...>Subject: Re: ( ) Re: advocating the iep Date: Saturday, March 12, 2011, 11:00 AM

I can vouch that without help u are right it does get to be an issue as they get older and the work is a little harder. I am still waiting on an "official" diagnosis, although my pediatrician believes without a doubt that he had aspergers and so do I. My sons grades are good but now that he is in 6th grade and the work is more difficult he is more easily frustrated and agitated. Homework, well I dread it. By the time he gets home the effects of his patch are starting to wear off. You would think I am planning on tearing all his teeth out. There are tears, near panic attacks, then the its too hard story and will you just do it for me comments. He doesnt interact well with the teacher either. If I could go back to 2nd grade with him I would definitely insist on getting him help with social interactions and to learn method to ease his stress and appropriately deal with frustrations . I think you would be right to push for the help socially now then

having it be a bigger problem later. Don't back down from it or it will be rough for him as he gets older. Sent from myTouch 4G

----- Reply message -----From: "lks9999" <lesliekossar@...>< >Subject: ( ) Re: advocating the iepDate: Sat, Mar 12, 2011 7:10 am

I am in the same situation, my son is in 2nd grade, does well in school and poses no behavioral problems in the classroom (other than calling out impulsively), most adults think he is adorable and interesting, and the kids? - he's had a rough time because he tells the boys that he likes the girls better - so they give him a hard time. He is diagnosed just recently with AS and ADHD - but the school says his social problems are not their concern since academically he is doing above average. I KNOW when he gets into the higher grades he will not be able to cope with the schedules and responsibilities that come with it. Handing in homework? I can totally imagine that he will not do that. He won't even bring the right books home, I am sure. My dev. pediatrician says I need to get an advocate and a lawyer because the mental health issues that will arise without social intervention (she wants me to get him an aide during lunch/recess)and executive

functioning will be horrible. I am waiting for the formal reports and then I will begin the fight with the school. Ugh.