How do you discipline someone when they don't give a hoot?

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Hi all,

For the most part, we can deal with behaviors, but today I've had it.

brought his clothes down to wash. I had stuff in the washer that I've thrown

there because I'm in the midst of potty-training Zac. I am assuming it is an OCD

thing, because he doesn't want other people's " stuff " touching his, but he took

everything out of the washer and placed on top of the dryer. There were some

clean clothes on the dryer, and he put all the peed-on stuff on top of them. So

he could do his laundry. I came out and saw what he'd done and I got mad at him.

But he doesn't care. He could care less what he did. He just gets mad at me

being mad at him. Anytime we " push " him to do something, he gets defiant. He's

17. He needs to be out looking for a job-not sitting at home. The more we push

him to do it, the more he digs his heels in. And gets mad at us for wanting him

to do work!!!!

I am so livid about the laundry. He takes the stuff in the dryer and just sets

it on the couch for anyone who comes along to care for it. He doesn't see the

need to do it. If we tell him (which we have over and over and over and

over-nicely I might add), he doesn't care that it's not done, and the next time

comes along and he'll leave it again. I can't imagine what his own place would

look like if he had one. He doesn't clean up after himself or anything!

I'm afraid he's going to end up being one of those people who have trash piled

all over their houses. (Clean House here we come!) I don't know how to get him

to do anything. And when we remind him of what he needs to do, he doesn't give a

flip. Just wants to do what he wants and that's it.

Help!!!!!

Melinda H