Re: Re: How to handle lying

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I am sorry but I am going to go on a little rant here because the content of your email bothers me to no end. It bothers me that people are so darn judgmental of diabetics and what they eat. I am an RN and have been so for the last 10 yrs and have had the opportunity to talk to more diabetics than most people will know in several lifetimes. Not only that but my husband is diabetic, and has been diabetic since he was 6. I have had first hand experience with diabetics every second of the last 10 yrs!! First of all, in a perfect world it would be nice if we could just give up certain foods and that would solve the diabetic issue, but it isn't that easy. Even if they do give up those foods, many diabetics still struggle with their sugars and other issues throughout

their life. But, think of it this way, us non-diabetics go through life being able to walk through the store and try the sample that is offered or eat a piece of candy that is sitting there in front of us. Diabetics either can't touch it cause they know their pills aren't going to cover that or have to pull their insulin/pump out of their pocket and take a little extra. They can't do anything food wise (and sometimes other things affect them as well like exercise, a hot day in the sun etc.....) without thinking about their blood sugar. Teenagers inherently eat junk and love to go out and do crazy things, think about if you had diabetes as a teenager?? No wonder they are so incredibly unhappy and angry about the diabetes. Most 20 yr olds and even some that are older and younger are very resentful of their diabetes and those that will judge and bother them for the things that they eat. Anymore the doctors for

those that are insulin dependent encourage them to stay away from those carby type things, but don't mind when a patient decides to cover themselves with a little extra insulin and have that piece of cake or whatever. I feel their pain, it bothers them when people come up to them when they are eating and say "aren't you diabetic, should you be eating that??". Let it be between them and their doctor. If their A1c is good, leave them alone. As far as the lying goes, it would bother me as well, but step back and think about it, maybe he is just trying to exercise some of his own control over this awful disease. Encourage him to make the right choices, but understand when he doesn't!!!Carolyn RN, BSNps... sorry about the rant, can you tell this is a little frustration of mine?????From: Pamela <susanonderko@...> Sent: Thu, December 30, 2010 7:38:43 PMSubject: ( ) Re: How to handle lying

I would have him talk to the school nurse about other healthy

food choices when he is hungry or ask the nurses at the

endocronologist's office to talk to him. He has to learn to

cope with diabetes. More than 1/2 of typical kids with diabetes

deny their condition and refuse to take meds. And these are typical

kids. I would ignore that he lied, you know and he knows what happened

it is just shaming him to do any more. I would go down the

path of helping him with food choices when he is hungry or wants

to snack. And praise all his healthy choices. Unfortunately

there are not too many food he can really munch on, too many

carbs. My husband is 50, diabetic and he sneaks cookies into his basement TV room and he does better after a talk from the doctor.

Pam

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> My boyfriend son 14 he has aspergers ocd, he also diabetic i had to to do errands was whole boxs cereal gone he measure his cereal he alowed 2 cups ok i see the empty box i asked what happened i asked if ate some later he says no he was only one in house he swears doesnt know what happened to rest i know it not a big deal i hate he lying to me i wasnt yelling i told i rather he be honest i guess he believes he didnt very fustrating how do i handle this

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I see your point Carolyn but I totally disagree with it. Kids have to learn to deal with having diabetes. Yes, it sucks. Yes, it's hard and not fair. But this is a serious medical condition. As kids, they have to learn and be taught by the adults in charge. It's our job as the adults to teach them the skills that they need to manage this disease. And because they have diabetes, they have to monitor what they are eating as part of managing the disease. Denial is great and works for some things - diabetes is not one of those things. Not managing it means death. Having said that, once they are adults, I wouldn't dream of lecturing an adult on what they are eating, diabetic or not and at that time, it does become something between an adult and their doctor. I guess I would talk about it if it were my own dh and he was not taking good care of himself. But I wouldn't do that to another adult. My mother had diabetes and died from it - as did her father, her sister and brother before her. My dh's uncle died an early death after years of ignoring that he had diabetes and not dealing with it. I had gestational diabetes with several of my pregnancies and had to learn how to eat, work with a nutritionists and cut out "good junk." lol. It is not simple at all! But necessary when you consider the consequences. It sucks to have diabetes. But that is life for some people.

Roxanna

"I

predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) Re: How to handle lying

I would have him talk to the school nurse about other healthy

food choices when he is hungry or ask the nurses at the

endocronologist's office to talk to him. He has to learn to

cope with diabetes. More than 1/2 of typical kids with diabetes

deny their condition and refuse to take meds. And these are typical

kids. I would ignore that he lied, you know and he knows what happened

it is just shaming him to do any more. I would go down the

path of helping him with food choices when he is hungry or wants

to snack. And praise all his healthy choices. Unfortunately

there are not too many food he can really munch on, too many

carbs. My husband is 50, diabetic and he sneaks cookies into his basement TV room and he does better after a talk from the doctor.

Pam

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> My boyfriend son 14 he has aspergers ocd, he also diabetic i had to to do errands was whole boxs cereal gone he measure his cereal he alowed 2 cups ok i see the empty box i asked what happened i asked if ate some later he says no he was only one in house he swears doesnt know what happened to rest i know it not a big deal i hate he lying to me i wasnt yelling i told i rather he be honest i guess he believes he didnt very fustrating how do i handle this

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