Asperger in a 3 years old boy

[Guest guest]

Hello folks,

Recently, my 3 years old boy has been diagnosed with asperger syndrome. It's a

hard thing to hear.

I really don't know about this " disease " but I heard as sooner we start the

treatments better are the results. Accordingly I would like to have some

orientations about what kind of activities/stimulation should I do to improve

his skills and for him to socialize with kids at the same age.

He's a very smart boy that knows everything about the animals of the ocean.

Sometimes he insists that he's inside the ocean with whales, sharks, walrus, and

others. He also doesn't look very well in the eyes of the people he doesn't like

or know.

Is there any kind soul who can help me with the first steps of the asperger

syndrome? I really appreciate.

I'm from Brazil

Thank you.

[Guest guest]

My opinion is that one thing that will help your son a lot is structure.

Routines. Schedules. Checklists.

My son was fairly recently diagnosed, so we're still struggling to set

up the structures to help our son. We have found that it isn't enough to

say " clean your room " . We need to tell him to pick up and put away all

books for 20 minutes. Set a timer. Put all clothing either away or in

the hamper for 20 mminutes. Set a timer. All papers. Set a timer.

We've been using a program/website called Remember The Milk

(www.rememberthemilk.com) which has an application Isaac can run on his

cell phone. Although his school doesn't allow use of cell phones during

school hours, we have received permission for him to use his in airplane

mode, as an electronic organizer. Paper organizers don't work for Isaac

(or me, but then I'm probably Aspie too), but he does really well with

anything computerized.

So my personal advice is first of all, DON'T PANIC! Your kid is the same

kid he was before diagnosis. I kinda look on it as being like diabetes.

It's a diagnosis you don't want to get, but it isn't the end of the

world, you just gotta learn to work with it. And it is totally NOT

incompatible with being successful in life! Asperger's is being studied

a lot right now, and some of those studies are taking place in Redmond,

Washington. That's the home of Microsoft, and a LOT of the programmmers

seem to have it. In general, aspies aren't quite so good at working with

people. But they frequently seem to gravitate toward logic oriented

careers, like programming and engineering.

One thing we did was call in a friend of my husband's. She is most

likely Aspie, although never officially diagnosed. Her niece, who has

been diagnosed, is almost exactly like she is. We invited her over for

dinner, and she was able to give Isaac some useful tips. One is that

although she is very uncomfortable looking people directly in the eye,

if she looks at their eyebrows they don't know the difference, but that

is much more tolerable for her.

Isaac used to have bad anger issues, losing control and coming

completely unglued at school. One thing we did was work with him on

dealing with the anger before he blew up. It took him a couple of

months, but basically we encouraged him to first of all be aware when he

was STARTING to get upset. At that point, he could use his coping

strategies. The first was to try to get away from the situation.

Fortunately his teacher was very understanding, and when he said he

needed to go sit in the library section of the classroom, or he needed

to go to the bathroom (put some cool water on his face), she had no

problem allowing that. He also learned the same kind of cleansing

breaths that get used for Lamaze. Three DEEP breaths, then count to ten.

He still uses that technique when he's upset.

For Isaac, the socialization issues have kinda taken care of themselves.

I do think that forcing him into social situations where he didn't feel

comfortable would have been counterproductive. He never has been, and

probably never WILL be a social butterfly, but that's ok. He's always

been pretty good at finding a few friends, who are frequently other " odd

ducks " or misfits, who aren't the popular kids.

Good luck! You are fortunate in having a diagnosis when your son is this

young! I understand wanting to find out everything you can, but in my

experience, that can become overwhelming! There are SO many books, SO

many websites, SO many articles, SO many support groups, etc., that it's

easy to feel overwhelmed. For me, it felt like trying to get a drink

from a firehose while keeping my clothes dry! And realize that YOUR son

might have some of the symptoms, but not all. It's easy to feel totally

depressed when you hear about all the possible symptoms, thinking that

YOUR son will have issues with spitting, or toileting, or insomnia, or

.... But maybe he won't. Just because some aspie kids have these issues

doesn't mean they ALL do. So relax, and take it one day at a time.

At least that's the approach that helps me!

Eleanor, San , CA

Aspie son Isaac, 10.5 years old

On 03/12/2011 16:48 , eduardomx@... wrote:

> Hello folks,

>

> Recently, my 3 years old boy has been diagnosed with asperger syndrome.

> It's a hard thing to hear.

>

> I really don't know about this " disease " but I heard as sooner we start

> the treatments better are the results. Accordingly I would like to have

> some orientations about what kind of activities/stimulation should I do

> to improve his skills and for him to socialize with kids at the same age.

>

> He's a very smart boy that knows everything about the animals of the

> ocean. Sometimes he insists that he's inside the ocean with whales,

> sharks, walrus, and others. He also doesn't look very well in the eyes

> of the people he doesn't like or know.

>

> Is there any kind soul who can help me with the first steps of the

> asperger syndrome? I really appreciate.

>

> I'm from Brazil

[Guest guest]

Welcome ,Ask if you have any questions, sometimes Asperger's children they have SPD sensory processing disorder, find out and you can start helping that way a good book is The out of sinc Child, and there are others that will help you, at this moment I am reading The Asperger's Anser book by , Ph. D. is very good and answers a lot of questions.Good luck and ask if you need any specific answer, I will be happy to help you from my experience, my son is 8,This group is very good filled with great people, From: "eduardomx@..." <eduardomx@...> Sent: Sat, March 12, 2011 7:48:30 PMSubject: ( ) Asperger in a 3 years old boy

Hello folks,

Recently, my 3 years old boy has been diagnosed with asperger syndrome. It's a hard thing to hear.

I really don't know about this "disease" but I heard as sooner we start the treatments better are the results. Accordingly I would like to have some orientations about what kind of activities/stimulation should I do to improve his skills and for him to socialize with kids at the same age.

He's a very smart boy that knows everything about the animals of the ocean. Sometimes he insists that he's inside the ocean with whales, sharks, walrus, and others. He also doesn't look very well in the eyes of the people he doesn't like or know.

Is there any kind soul who can help me with the first steps of the asperger syndrome? I really appreciate.

I'm from Brazil

Thank you.

[Guest guest]

My son was diagnosed at age 3. I think one of the most important things for

social skills was to make social situations fun, tolerable and manageable. I

would hang over him like crazy and not let any social situation just happen. If

I just let it happen, horrible things would happen. Hitting, kicking,

screaming. So whenever didn't understand someone I was right there

helping. Whenever someone else didn't understand I could translate. I

taught things to do to make social things easier and I taught other kids

that had great ideas but couldn't always express them in words. He'd get a

great idea and then grab stuff from people. I'd slow him down and talk to him

and ask him questions until I knew his idea and then tell the other kids. How I

ever managed to gain WEIGHT and become overweight during that time I have no

idea because I never stopped moving. Sometimes we'd still have a bad time. I

did what we called " cuddle time-outs " . I'd say, " You are having a hard time

following the rules. You seem upset. Let's go have a cuddle time out so we can

try to fix it. " came to trust my judgement in a big way. Now at age 14 he

sometimes will ask me about why something didn't go well. It's a lot of work

but is well worth it. is a kind-hearted young man with a lot of empathy.

He doesn't always know when empathy is needed but he's better at asking and he

is better at figuring it out. His teachers adore him, they love working with

him because even though he can still be quite difficult he is interesting and

funny and wonderful. You have gotten a fairly early diagnosis. That is GREAT.

There is so much you can do. Get him interested in interacting by showing

interest in what he loves. Find other kids with similar interests.

Keep us posted.

Miriam

>

> Hello folks,

>

> Recently, my 3 years old boy has been diagnosed with asperger syndrome. It's a

hard thing to hear.

>

> I really don't know about this " disease " but I heard as sooner we start the

treatments better are the results. Accordingly I would like to have some

orientations about what kind of activities/stimulation should I do to improve

his skills and for him to socialize with kids at the same age.

>

> He's a very smart boy that knows everything about the animals of the ocean.

Sometimes he insists that he's inside the ocean with whales, sharks, walrus, and

others. He also doesn't look very well in the eyes of the people he doesn't like

or know.

>

> Is there any kind soul who can help me with the first steps of the asperger

syndrome? I really appreciate.

>

> I'm from Brazil

>

> Thank you.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hello ,

Welcome to the group. Initially getting a diagnosis can be frightening but take it one day at a time. My recommendation to you is first find out if your son has any sensory issues if you haven't already. Then you can address those. Sensory issues and social issues will be his biggest challenges with this syndrome. But with the right therapies and with an early diagnosis like you are lucky to have he will be much better off.

There is A LOT of information out there on the internet, in books etc. You will want to gain as much knowledge as possible but be choosy about what you spend your time on. If you have any questions, this group is great in trying to get them answered.

Good luck and take care of yourself too. It is easy to get so wrapped up in our children we forget about ourselves. ne

From: eduardomx@... <eduardomx@...>Subject: ( ) Asperger in a 3 years old boy Date: Saturday, March 12, 2011, 7:48 PM

Hello folks,Recently, my 3 years old boy has been diagnosed with asperger syndrome. It's a hard thing to hear.I really don't know about this "disease" but I heard as sooner we start the treatments better are the results. Accordingly I would like to have some orientations about what kind of activities/stimulation should I do to improve his skills and for him to socialize with kids at the same age.He's a very smart boy that knows everything about the animals of the ocean. Sometimes he insists that he's inside the ocean with whales, sharks, walrus, and others. He also doesn't look very well in the eyes of the people he doesn't like or know.Is there any kind soul who can help me with the first steps of the asperger syndrome? I really appreciate. I'm from BrazilThank you.

[Guest guest]

Thank you . I appreciated your help. I will be in touch.

>

> Welcome ,

> Ask if you have any questions, sometimes Asperger's children they have SPD

> sensory processing disorder, find out and you can start helping that way a

good

> book is The out of sinc Child, and there are others that will help you, at

this

> moment I am reading The Asperger's Anser book by , Ph. D. is very

> good and answers a lot of questions.

>

> Good luck and ask if you need any specific answer, I will be happy to help you

> from my experience, my son is 8,

> This group is very good filled with great people,

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

> From: " eduardomx@... " <eduardomx@...>

>

> Sent: Sat, March 12, 2011 7:48:30 PM

> Subject: ( ) Asperger in a 3 years old boy

>

>

> Hello folks,

>

> Recently, my 3 years old boy has been diagnosed with asperger syndrome. It's a

> hard thing to hear.

>

> I really don't know about this " disease " but I heard as sooner we start the

> treatments better are the results. Accordingly I would like to have some

> orientations about what kind of activities/stimulation should I do to improve

> his skills and for him to socialize with kids at the same age.

>

> He's a very smart boy that knows everything about the animals of the ocean.

> Sometimes he insists that he's inside the ocean with whales, sharks, walrus,

and

> others. He also doesn't look very well in the eyes of the people he doesn't

like

> or know.

>

> Is there any kind soul who can help me with the first steps of the asperger

> syndrome? I really appreciate.

>

>

> I'm from Brazil

>

> Thank you.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you ne. I really appreciate your and other people help. I feel very

comfortable being part of this group: I don't feel alone anymore.

Thank you all.

>

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> From: eduardomx@... <eduardomx@...>

> Subject: ( ) Asperger in a 3 years old boy

>

> Date: Saturday, March 12, 2011, 7:48 PM

>

>

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>

>

>

> Hello folks,

>

> Recently, my 3 years old boy has been diagnosed with asperger syndrome. It's a

hard thing to hear.

>

> I really don't know about this " disease " but I heard as sooner we start the

treatments better are the results. Accordingly I would like to have some

orientations about what kind of activities/stimulation should I do to improve

his skills and for him to socialize with kids at the same age.

>

> He's a very smart boy that knows everything about the animals of the ocean.

Sometimes he insists that he's inside the ocean with whales, sharks, walrus, and

others. He also doesn't look very well in the eyes of the people he doesn't like

or know.

>

> Is there any kind soul who can help me with the first steps of the asperger

syndrome? I really appreciate.

>

> I'm from Brazil

>

> Thank you.

>

>

>