Re: Re: Video games and AS kids

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Personally I think that is a good idea. As I said, it can be VERY addicting for NT people.

On 7/6/10 7:34 PM, " sweetsoap " <apriljoleneclark@...> wrote:

My 9 year old has a Wii and is allowed to play 30 minutes each day. Only non-violent games, , Lego, etc... We have an egg timer he sets, and he stops playing when his time is up. If allowed, he would play the whole day. Are we being too strict?

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> > No, I don’t think at all that’s what you’ve got your kids doing. I’m sure

> > all of your are all good, well-intentioned parents. But once in a while I

> > hear about someone who was introduced to video games at, say, a year old. My

> > question is WHY someone would introduce kids to video games at that age. My

> >

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I can recommend a good non violent Wii Game! Animal Crossing Lets go to the City i play this all the time.From: sweetsoap <apriljoleneclark@...>Subject: ( ) Re: Video games and AS kids Date: Wednesday, 7 July, 2010, 0:34My 9 year old has a Wii and is allowed to play 30 minutes each day. Only non-violent games, , Lego, etc... We have an egg timer he sets, and he stops playing when his time is up. If allowed, he would play the whole day. Are we being too strict?> >> > No, I don¹t think at all that¹s what you¹ve got your kids doing. I¹m sure> > all of your are all good, well-intentioned parents. But once in a while I> > hear about someone who was introduced to video games at, say, a year old. My> > question is WHY someone would introduce kids to video games at

that age. My> >>------------------------------------

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We used to monitor the time Ian was playing "Big time". Then we realized that if some of the others could sit for 2 hours and watch a movie, why couldn't Ian play his stuff for 2 hours?

Or.......I could honesltly sit and read for 8 hours.......or, sadly, if the kids would allow it (ha ha) I'd watch tv a LOT.......why can't Ian?

So,,,we let up. Seems the minute we didnt' "control" it, he better regulated himself. Sure, there are days when he's on most of the day. But, there are days when he reads all day. Or goes to the pool.....or whatever.

Our only "thing" is that we ask that chores are done (they have a list for diff chores each day) and that they get outside and get some exercize. Ian, actually, loves to ride his bike to the store if I need bread or whatever.....and I give him an extra buck for a cone or slushy.

I also want to add that I think a lot of the time, the reason Ian (or maybe any kid) just sits on the computer/watches tv is that they need a nudge to do something. Most of the time, if I say to him, "Hey.....could you fill up the bird baths?", he;ll do it........

He just wouldnt think to do it otherwise, ya know? Kinda like my hubby. he he.

That's what we do, anyway.

Have a super day.

Attack and enjoy every minute of life.

Try everything.....protect everything.

Robin

From: sweetsoap <apriljoleneclark@...>Subject: ( ) Re: Video games and AS kids Date: Tuesday, July 6, 2010, 6:34 PM

My 9 year old has a Wii and is allowed to play 30 minutes each day. Only non-violent games, , Lego, etc... We have an egg timer he sets, and he stops playing when his time is up. If allowed, he would play the whole day. Are we being too strict?> >> > No, I don¹t think at all that¹s what you¹ve got your kids doing. I¹m

sure> > all of your are all good, well-intentioned parents. But once in a while I> > hear about someone who was introduced to video games at, say, a year old. My> > question is WHY someone would introduce kids to video games at that age. My> >>

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Totally agree with you!

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

From: jm.smoldt <jm.smoldt@...> Sent: Wed, July 7, 2010 10:08:10 AMSubject: ( ) Re: Video games and AS kids

I have to chime in on this one. My aspie son was 3 when he started playing "dogs" on my NintendoDS. He loved it and thus his love of video games was born. It just kinda happened but it was the best thing we could have found. It became a sort of coping mechanism when he was younger, and the only one we ever did find. He was very sensory sensitive and highly prone to meltdowns of course, and after we found the DS, we could actually go to family functions without him hurting other kids, or go out to eat without the whole restaurant staring at him. It was truly a Godsend. Sure he got a little obsessive over it for a while, and still does with his various game systems he has now, but only for a week or so after he got a new game. My kid has never been allowed to play video games for 10 hours a day and never will be. And I do think it can help with the friendship thing. It gives my kid a "normal" common ground topic to talk about with the other boys.

> >> > No, I don¹t think at all that¹s what you¹ve got your kids doing. I¹m sure> > all of your are all good, well-intentioned parents. But once in a while I> > hear about someone who was introduced to video games at, say, a year old. My> > question is WHY someone would introduce kids to video games at that age. My>

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Totally agree on it being the "common ground". Totally.

Attack and enjoy every minute of life.

Try everything.....protect everything.

Robin

From: jm.smoldt <jm.smoldt@...>Subject: ( ) Re: Video games and AS kids Date: Wednesday, July 7, 2010, 10:08 AM

I have to chime in on this one. My aspie son was 3 when he started playing "dogs" on my NintendoDS. He loved it and thus his love of video games was born. It just kinda happened but it was the best thing we could have found. It became a sort of coping mechanism when he was younger, and the only one we ever did find. He was very sensory sensitive and highly prone to meltdowns of course, and after we found the DS, we could actually go to family functions without him hurting other kids, or go out to eat without the whole restaurant staring at him. It was truly a Godsend. Sure he got a little obsessive over it for a while, and still does with his various game systems he has now, but only for a week or so after he got a new game. My kid has never been allowed to play video games for 10 hours a day and never will be. And I do think it can help with the friendship thing. It gives my kid a "normal" common ground topic to talk about with the other boys.

> >> > No, I don¹t think at all that¹s what you¹ve got your kids doing. I¹m sure> > all of your are all good, well-intentioned parents. But once in a while I> > hear about someone who was introduced to video games at, say, a year old. My> > question is WHY someone would introduce kids to video

games at that age. My> >>

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My takes his everywhere we go and it is the only way we can do anything with him. Waiting at a Dr.'s appointment will be horrible if he doesn't have a game. He is 12 and he doesn't have a "friend" yet, so that is his only friend. I do agree that playing 10 hours is not a good thing, but sometimes is all they have in a cruel world that doesn't accept/understand the "weird" kid on the block that cannot play sports or ride a bike. Don't be so hard on each other. We all have a personal battle that weights a ton on our shoulders.

Ide

From: sweetsoap <apriljoleneclark@...> Sent: Wed, July 7, 2010 11:17:44 AMSubject: ( ) Re: Video games and AS kids

I definitely agree that it gives him common ground to talk with his peers at school. Kids he would normally would have nothing in common with and probably never interact with. I never thought about that, but I'm glad it was brought to my attention. There is certainly a positive there. I think I will lighten up a little, for the summer at least and allow him to play 30 minutes, twice a day. I do have to be careful as he gets over stimulated and his behavior is affected. Everything in moderation. (I read for probably 5 hours yesterday and got nothing else done, so I need to take my own advice! haha) Thank you all for your input. > > >> > > No, I don¹t think at all that¹s what you¹ve got your kids doing. I¹m sure> > > all of your are all good, well-intentioned parents. But once in a while I> > > hear about someone who was introduced to video games at, say, a year old. My> > > question is WHY someone would introduce kids to video games at that age. My> > >> >>

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Okay, so you have given me another perspective. Perhaps you are right.

On 7/7/10 11:08 AM, " jm.smoldt " <jm.smoldt@...> wrote:

I have to chime in on this one. My aspie son was 3 when he started playing " dogs " on my NintendoDS. He loved it and thus his love of video games was born. It just kinda happened but it was the best thing we could have found. It became a sort of coping mechanism when he was younger, and the only one we ever did find. He was very sensory sensitive and highly prone to meltdowns of course, and after we found the DS, we could actually go to family functions without him hurting other kids, or go out to eat without the whole restaurant staring at him. It was truly a Godsend. Sure he got a little obsessive over it for a while, and still does with his various game systems he has now, but only for a week or so after he got a new game. My kid has never been allowed to play video games for 10 hours a day and never will be. And I do think it can help with the friendship thing. It gives my kid a " normal " common ground topic to talk about with the other boys.

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> > No, I don’t think at all that’s what you’ve got your kids doing. I’m sure

> > all of your are all good, well-intentioned parents. But once in a while I

> > hear about someone who was introduced to video games at, say, a year old. My

> > question is WHY someone would introduce kids to video games at that age. My

> >

>

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Does he ever read, draw, or do other solitary activities?

On 7/7/10 1:27 PM, " Idelice A. Haack " <haackia@...> wrote:

My takes his everywhere we go and it is the only way we can do anything with him. Waiting at a Dr.'s appointment will be horrible if he doesn't have a game. He is 12 and he doesn't have a " friend " yet, so that is his only friend. I do agree that playing 10 hours is not a good thing, but sometimes is all they have in a cruel world that doesn't accept/understand the " weird " kid on the block that cannot play sports or ride a bike. Don't be so hard on each other. We all have a personal battle that weights a ton on our shoulders.

Ide

From: sweetsoap <apriljoleneclark@...>

Sent: Wed, July 7, 2010 11:17:44 AM

Subject: ( ) Re: Video games and AS kids

I definitely agree that it gives him common ground to talk with his peers at school. Kids he would normally would have nothing in common with and probably never interact with. I never thought about that, but I'm glad it was brought to my attention. There is certainly a positive there. I think I will lighten up a little, for the summer at least and allow him to play 30 minutes, twice a day. I do have to be careful as he gets over stimulated and his behavior is affected. Everything in moderation. (I read for probably 5 hours yesterday and got nothing else done, so I need to take my own advice! haha) Thank you all for your input.

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> > > No, I don¹t think at all that¹s what you¹ve got your kids doing. I¹m sure

> > > all of your are all good, well-intentioned parents. But once in a while I

> > > hear about someone who was introduced to video games at, say, a year old. My

> > > question is WHY someone would introduce kids to video games at that age. My

> > >

> >

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No, just TV, video games or computer games. He is taking martial arts and is going "well".

Ide

From: julie1013 <julie1013@...> Sent: Wed, July 7, 2010 1:30:07 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Re: Video games and AS kids

Does he ever read, draw, or do other solitary activities?On 7/7/10 1:27 PM, "Idelice A. Haack" <haackia (DOT) com> wrote:

My takes his everywhere we go and it is the only way we can do anything with him. Waiting at a Dr.'s appointment will be horrible if he doesn't have a game. He is 12 and he doesn't have a "friend" yet, so that is his only friend. I do agree that playing 10 hours is not a good thing, but sometimes is all they have in a cruel world that doesn't accept/understand the "weird" kid on the block that cannot play sports or ride a bike. Don't be so hard on each other. We all have a personal battle that weights a ton on our shoulders.Ide

From: sweetsoap <apriljoleneclark@ gmail.com> Sent: Wed, July 7, 2010 11:17:44 AMSubject: ( ) Re: Video games and AS kids I definitely agree that it gives him common ground to talk with his peers at school. Kids he would normally would have nothing in common with and probably never interact with. I never thought about that, but I'm glad it was brought to my attention. There is certainly a positive there. I think I will lighten up a little, for the summer at least and allow him to play 30 minutes, twice a day. I do have to be careful as he gets over stimulated and his behavior is affected. Everything in moderation. (I read for probably 5 hours yesterday and got nothing else done, so I need

to take my own advice! haha) Thank you all for your input. > > >> > > No, I don¹t think at all that¹s what

you¹ve got your kids doing. I¹m sure> > > all of your are all good, well-intentioned parents. But once in a while I> > > hear about someone who was introduced to video games at, say, a year old. My> > > question is WHY someone would introduce kids to video games at that age. My> > >> >>

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Does your son like to listen to music...my son goes everywhere with his IPOD and phone.

I do agree...it sure does help while waiting at a Drs. My son has no patience at ALL!

Jan

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From: Idelice A. Haack <haackia@...> Sent: Wed, July 7, 2010 1:27:15 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Re: Video games and AS kids

My takes his everywhere we go and it is the only way we can do anything with him. Waiting at a Dr.'s appointment will be horrible if he doesn't have a game. He is 12 and he doesn't have a "friend" yet, so that is his only friend. I do agree that playing 10 hours is not a good thing, but sometimes is all they have in a cruel world that doesn't accept/understand the "weird" kid on the block that cannot play sports or ride a bike. Don't be so hard on each other. We all have a personal battle that weights a ton on our shoulders.

Ide

From: sweetsoap <apriljoleneclark@ gmail.com> Sent: Wed, July 7, 2010 11:17:44 AMSubject: ( ) Re: Video games and AS kids

I definitely agree that it gives him common ground to talk with his peers at school. Kids he would normally would have nothing in common with and probably never interact with. I never thought about that, but I'm glad it was brought to my attention. There is certainly a positive there. I think I will lighten up a little, for the summer at least and allow him to play 30 minutes, twice a day. I do have to be careful as he gets over stimulated and his behavior is affected. Everything in moderation. (I read for probably 5 hours yesterday and got nothing else done, so I need to take my own advice! haha) Thank you all for your input. > > >> > > No, I don¹t think at all that¹s what you¹ve got your kids doing. I¹m sure> > > all of your are all good, well-intentioned parents. But once in a while I> > > hear about someone who was introduced to video games at, say, a year old. My> > > question is WHY someone would introduce kids to video games at that age. My> > >> >>