Re: My 10 year old son has Aspergers

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From: julie.froehlich@...Date: Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:26:12 +0000Subject: ( ) My 10 year old son has Aspergers

Greetins to all whom may read this-We recently found out that my son has Asperger's and are needing some help when it comes to parenting a child with Asperger's. We have taken some Love and Logic parenting classes which has helped some but still need some first hand advise from other parents of children who has Asperger's. Any insight or advise is greatly welcomed and appreciated.Thanks in advance for your time.

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A couple things work well for us...

1. Give the " 5 minute warning " before transitioning to another activity.

Telling our son to stop what he's doing and get in the car (for ex.) results in

a raging freak-out. But if we tell him that in 5 minutes he has to put down his

whatever and get in the car, magically, there is no problem.

2. Instead of yelling for his attention from another room (to which he usually

doesn't respond because he's wrapped up in what he's doing and tunes everything

else out), I find it's better to just walk up to him and gently tap him on the

shoulder to get his attention. Otherwise, I'm screaming at him for not

responding, and he had no idea I even wanted him for something!

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when it comes to parenting a child with Asperger's. We have taken some Love and

Logic parenting classes which has helped some but still need some first hand

advise from other parents of children who has Asperger's. Any insight or advise

is greatly welcomed and appreciated.

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That good advice, think our poor kids get shouted at a lot when they don't even know they are, or aren't supposed to be doing something!

I have got into the habit of making sure I have my sons attention before asking him anything, this can mean patiently saying his name quite a few times til he recognises that I am talking to him.

From: Laurel <laurel8690@...>Subject: Re: ( ) My 10 year old son has Aspergers Date: Wednesday, 10 March, 2010, 15:14

A couple things work well for us...1. Give the "5 minute warning" before transitioning to another activity. Telling our son to stop what he's doing and get in the car (for ex.) results in a raging freak-out. But if we tell him that in 5 minutes he has to put down his whatever and get in the car, magically, there is no problem.2. Instead of yelling for his attention from another room (to which he usually doesn't respond because he's wrapped up in what he's doing and tunes everything else out), I find it's better to just walk up to him and gently tap him on the shoulder to get his attention. Otherwise, I'm screaming at him for not responding, and he had no idea I even wanted him for something!>> > Hi . I am new here too, looking for the same things as you. We will learn together!> > > > > From: julie.froehlich@ ...> Date: Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:26:12 +0000> Subject: ( ) My 10 year old son has Aspergers> > > > > > Greetins to all whom may read this-> > We recently found out that my son has Asperger's and are needing some help when it comes to parenting a child with Asperger's. We have taken some Love and Logic parenting classes which has helped some but still need some first hand advise from other parents of children who has Asperger's. Any insight or advise is

greatly welcomed and appreciated.> > Thanks in advance for your time.> > > > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _> Hotmail: Powerful Free email with security by Microsoft.> http://clk.atdmt. com/GBL/go/ 201469230/ direct/01/>

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Funny thing about my son (and another reminder of how different our kids can be, sometimes...)

I used to give D a warning and he would still meltdown. I even started at 30 minutes, then 15, then 5, to give him extra warnings...still meltdown. I was trying to help him have time to process having to stop so it would lessen his anxiety but when he was 9 or 10, he told me when I give him a warning, he spends the rest of the time being worried about having to stop what he's doing and it makes it worse. So he asked me to not give him a warning anymore and I said "fine" and I didn't. We really didn't have problems with it anymore. Is that funny or what?

I totally agree w/ #2, although my son is 13 now and I can yell from another room and he normally listens. When he was younger, it was always better to walk up to him and physically tap him, rub his back, etc... so he would stop and focus on what I was saying.

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

From: Laurel <laurel8690@...> Sent: Wed, March 10, 2010 9:14:10 AMSubject: Re: ( ) My 10 year old son has Aspergers

A couple things work well for us...1. Give the "5 minute warning" before transitioning to another activity. Telling our son to stop what he's doing and get in the car (for ex.) results in a raging freak-out. But if we tell him that in 5 minutes he has to put down his whatever and get in the car, magically, there is no problem.2. Instead of yelling for his attention from another room (to which he usually doesn't respond because he's wrapped up in what he's doing and tunes everything else out), I find it's better to just walk up to him and gently tap him on the shoulder to get his attention. Otherwise, I'm screaming at him for not responding, and he had no idea I even wanted him for something!>>

> Hi . I am new here too, looking for the same things as you. We will learn together!> > > > > From: julie.froehlich@ ...> Date: Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:26:12 +0000> Subject: ( ) My 10 year old son has Aspergers> > > > > > Greetins to all whom may read this-> > We recently found out that my son has Asperger's and are needing some help when it comes to parenting a child with Asperger's. We have taken some Love and Logic parenting classes which has helped some but still need some first hand advise from other parents of children who has Asperger's. Any insight or advise is greatly welcomed and appreciated.> > Thanks in advance for your

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My daughter's thinking is so ridgid it can be called defiant. After

trying to find help locally in NJ, I contacted Yale University's

Parent Training and Child Conduct Clinic. They have one of the one and

only parent training programs that is extensive and provides

1:1 support to parents and works with the child's school. This

is done over the phone if you are not local.

I highly recommend the training. It is based in positive

behavior theory, shaping and reinforcing. They totally get

the child that is very hard to work with.

http://www.yale.edu/childconductclinic/

Pam

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> Greetins to all whom may read this-

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> We recently found out that my son has Asperger's and are needing some help

when it comes to parenting a child with Asperger's. We have taken some Love and

Logic parenting classes which has helped some but still need some first hand

advise from other parents of children who has Asperger's. Any insight or advise

is greatly welcomed and appreciated.

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> Thanks in advance for your time.

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Oh one more thing. I highly recommend working with a Yale therapist

and not just trying to read a parenting book. There are so many

slight things I did unknowingly to reinforce the wrong behaviors.

I would try to explain or be helpful as my daughter was melting down

not knowing I was reinforcing the negative.

Pam

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> Greetins to all whom may read this-

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> We recently found out that my son has Asperger's and are needing some help

when it comes to parenting a child with Asperger's. We have taken some Love and

Logic parenting classes which has helped some but still need some first hand

advise from other parents of children who has Asperger's. Any insight or advise

is greatly welcomed and appreciated.

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> Thanks in advance for your time.

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