Please do not take this wrong...

[Guest guest]

Hi, I am new to the group and have been observing and reading all the posts. I

have been distraught over the news of my 4 year old precious little girl has

Autism/Aspergers (they cant figure it out). The problem is...she is nothing

like the children in the posts that i read. She has occassional emotional

outbursts, tantrums, definitely some oppositional defiant stuff...but she is

seriously intelligent, emotionally capable and willing to have friends and

interpersonal relationships, just does not have good social skills for a four

year oled. They say she interacts on the level of a three year old and has

emotional instability with severe mood changes...She can be self destructive but

only when she is in a bought of being a spoiled brat. And she is...for years I

blamed myself because as a single parent, it was easier for me to just do things

for her rather than make her do it herself...

Now as I am about to be a single parent again, I am trying to find support on

dealing with her as she is a little much. She constantly talks and has what the

pros call reactive attachment and she is always, I mean always, around me doing

something to set me off and no matter what I try she always wins and I always

just give up (which the pros say is a bad thing, but it is so exhausting)...The

part about the parent not feeling attached is somewhat accurate, I love my

little girl very much but there are times when it is really hard to. She is

capable of expressing emotion and aknowledging her emotions and does this very

verbally but a lot of the times in the wrong situation, conflicting non verbal

languages, and out of context. I know that Aspergers falls under Pervasive

Development Disorder...and I can see her having that but are there different

levels of Aspergers just like there are different levels of Autism?