Re: Where is the middle ground?

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Fawn,

I'm so sorry all this is hitting you at once right now. Does your son have a good relationship with his dad?

Not sure if you already mentioned this but is your son on any medications? If so, what are they. Could he need an adjustment?

Maybe you should check into getting an ABA therapist that is board certified. They can come into your home and help determine the functions of his behavior and develop a plan to deal with it. All behavior is a form of communication. They can help teach your son to communicate in more appropriate ways.

I don't know that I helped much. Sometimes just knowing you're not alone helps. <<hugs>>

ne

From: Fawn Kazmierczak <lostfranklingirl@...>Subject: ( ) Where is the middle ground? Date: Tuesday, March 8, 2011, 5:04 PM

It just keeps getting worse. Adam is upset and frustrated almost all the time now. Today, if his nose hasn't been stuck in a book, he's lashing out at me or his brother. And it started the minute he got up this morning.School is getting worse again. He can't remember homework, planner, projects, anything. He wants to use his 504 for everything, even for the times he forgets. He doesn't feel safe, and I feel completely powerless to help him. I have to supervise his every move right now - but I have more things that I have to do too. He has a brother that is getting so left out. Spring break is coming, and he's all stressed because he has to go to his father's house. Court for that isn't until after. I wanted to wait until after Benchmark for doing another IEP meeting, but I just can't. I have to get all my ducks in a row for that, too.And to top it all off, I'm

sick. It's nothing serious, just whatever virus is going around right now. It's still knocking me down at the wrong time, though.Fawn

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Oh Fawn,

I feel for ya.........there must be something in the air. My son is forgetting things here, too. Tensions are high in our house....ugh. Maybe it's that winter has been good this year.......and we need to be able to open the windows......he he.

Don't know where you are, but we've had nothing but coughs all winter. Bad ones. Bronchitis and pneumonia is going around. I cough so damned hard that my gut hurts and I am wearing big ole pads and STILL pee myself......so classy.

Stay strong and hugs.

Robin

From: Fawn Kazmierczak <lostfranklingirl@...>Subject: ( ) Where is the middle ground? Date: Tuesday, March 8, 2011, 4:04 PM

It just keeps getting worse. Adam is upset and frustrated almost all the time now. Today, if his nose hasn't been stuck in a book, he's lashing out at me or his brother. And it started the minute he got up this morning.School is getting worse again. He can't remember homework, planner, projects, anything. He wants to use his 504 for everything, even for the times he forgets. He doesn't feel safe, and I feel completely powerless to help him. I have to supervise his every move right now - but I have more things that I have to do too. He has a brother that is getting so left out. Spring break is coming, and he's all stressed because he has to go to his father's house. Court for that isn't until after. I wanted to wait until after Benchmark for doing another IEP meeting, but I just can't. I have to get all my ducks in a row for that, too.And to top it all off, I'm

sick. It's nothing serious, just whatever virus is going around right now. It's still knocking me down at the wrong time, though.Fawn

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I went to a local support meeting last night that really helped - just by reminding me that I'm not alone. I also got a lot of great information that I'm going to look up and research today since it's my day off. It will be really easy to get him on an IEP using the recommendations I got.Adam doesn't have a good relationship with his father at all. That's why we're going to court. Adam doesn't want to go back to his father's house, ever. I doubt we'll get that far, but a huge reduction would be very helpful.ABA is something that is seriously lacking here in Arkansas. Apparently there aren't enough people that are certified to do it. I'm going to start looking at the general principal of it, and see if I can try it alone at home.No

meds, just melatonin to help him sleep. His therapist thinks it's just situational depression. It just mostly stems from his father.From: susanne hansen <s_hansen34@...> Sent: Tue, March 8, 2011 8:22:53 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Where is the middle ground?

Fawn,

I'm so sorry all this is hitting you at once right now. Does your son have a good relationship with his dad?

Not sure if you already mentioned this but is your son on any medications? If so, what are they. Could he need an adjustment?

Maybe you should check into getting an ABA therapist that is board certified. They can come into your home and help determine the functions of his behavior and develop a plan to deal with it. All behavior is a form of communication. They can help teach your son to communicate in more appropriate ways.

I don't know that I helped much. Sometimes just knowing you're not alone helps. <<hugs>>

ne

From: Fawn Kazmierczak <lostfranklingirl@...>Subject: ( ) Where is the middle ground? Date: Tuesday, March 8, 2011, 5:04 PM

It just keeps getting worse. Adam is upset and frustrated almost all the time now. Today, if his nose hasn't been stuck in a book, he's lashing out at me or his brother. And it started the minute he got up this morning.School is getting worse again. He can't remember homework, planner, projects, anything. He wants to use his 504 for everything, even for the times he forgets. He doesn't feel safe, and I feel completely powerless to help him. I have to supervise his every move right now - but I have more things that I have to do too. He has a brother that is getting so left out. Spring break is coming, and he's all stressed because he has to go to his father's house. Court for that isn't until after. I wanted to wait until after Benchmark for doing another IEP meeting, but I just can't. I have to get all my ducks in a row for that, too.And to top it all off, I'm

sick. It's nothing serious, just whatever virus is going around right now. It's still knocking me down at the wrong time, though.Fawn

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Thanks for the funny visual Robin!I'm off today, except for a therapy appointment for Adam. I'm going to do some research and concentrate on healing.From: and/or Robin Lemke <jrisjs@...> Sent: Tue, March 8, 2011 8:46:14 PMSubject:

Re: ( ) Where is the middle ground?

Oh Fawn,

I feel for ya.........there must be something in the air. My son is forgetting things here, too. Tensions are high in our house....ugh. Maybe it's that winter has been good this year.......and we need to be able to open the windows......he he.

Don't know where you are, but we've had nothing but coughs all winter. Bad ones. Bronchitis and pneumonia is going around. I cough so damned hard that my gut hurts and I am wearing big ole pads and STILL pee myself......so classy.

Stay strong and hugs.

Robin

From: Fawn Kazmierczak <lostfranklingirl@...>Subject: ( ) Where is the middle ground? Date: Tuesday, March 8, 2011, 4:04 PM

It just keeps getting worse. Adam is upset and frustrated almost all the time now. Today, if his nose hasn't been stuck in a book, he's lashing out at me or his brother. And it started the minute he got up this morning.School is getting worse again. He can't remember homework, planner, projects, anything. He wants to use his 504 for everything, even for the times he forgets. He doesn't feel safe, and I feel completely powerless to help him. I have to supervise his every move right now - but I have more things that I have to do too. He has a brother that is getting so left out. Spring break is coming, and he's all stressed because he has to go to his father's house. Court for that isn't until after. I wanted to wait until after Benchmark for doing another IEP meeting, but I just can't. I have to get all my ducks in a row for that, too.And to top it all off, I'm

sick. It's nothing serious, just whatever virus is going around right now. It's still knocking me down at the wrong time, though.Fawn

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Something MUST be in the air. Madeline is normally pretty good...I don't know if I have just gotten used to it or what...but she's forgetting things and getting frustrated easily. She and her sisters are going to visit my mother for a week while we take a hard earned cruise. I am beyond nervous, but know my mom is going to be good for her. Yesterday her spec ed teacher emailed me to let me know Madeline got mad that she couldn't find an assignment so they asked her to redo it, while looking for that assignment they found a note saying that she "fing hated" the teacher and wanted to kill her...I was put in panic mode since this was MONDAY they found the note (the para and vp) and I didn't learn about it until yesterday. Thank the Lord the vp "took into account her disability" and didn't take any action other than just speaking to her about it. Two weeks ago I had strep and nobody else in the house got it...which was great...EXCEPT I had strep and nothing else got done, my dh got short with the kids which meant it lead to more meltdowns. I was so excited when I got that shot...I was feeling better by that afternoon after a long weekend of feeling horrible. ((((((Fawn)))) I hope you get a break SOON!!!

Mom to my 4 girls

Madeline, Cayla, Arabella, & Vincenza

"You are the TRIP I did not take

You are the PEARLS I cannot buy

You are the blue Italian LAKE

YOU are my piece of foreign SKY"

---Anne ----

( ) Where is the middle ground?

Date: Tuesday, March 8, 2011, 4:04 PM

It just keeps getting worse. Adam is upset and frustrated almost all the time now. Today, if his nose hasn't been stuck in a book, he's lashing out at me or his brother. And it started the minute he got up this morning.

School is getting worse again. He can't remember homework, planner, projects, anything. He wants to use his 504 for everything, even for the times he forgets. He doesn't feel safe, and I feel completely powerless to help him. I have to supervise his every move right now - but I have more things that I have to do too. He has a brother that is getting so left out. Spring break is coming, and he's all stressed because he has to go to his father's house. Court for that isn't until after. I wanted to wait until after Benchmark for doing another IEP meeting, but I just can't. I have to get all my ducks in a row for that, too.

And to top it all off, I'm

sick. It's nothing serious, just whatever virus is going around right now. It's still knocking me down at the wrong time, though.

Fawn

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[Guest guest]

Hi Fawn,

Hope you enjoyed your day off and are feeling better. How did your research go? How is Adam doing now? Hope things have settled down a bit. ne

From: Fawn Kazmierczak <lostfranklingirl@...>Subject: ( ) Where is the middle ground? Date: Tuesday, March 8, 2011, 5:04 PM

It just keeps getting worse. Adam is upset and frustrated almost all the time now. Today, if his nose hasn't been stuck in a book, he's lashing out at me or his brother. And it started the minute he got up this morning.School is getting worse again. He can't remember homework, planner, projects, anything. He wants to use his 504 for everything, even for the times he forgets. He doesn't feel safe, and I feel completely powerless to help him. I have to supervise his every move right now - but I have more things that I have to do too. He has a brother that is getting so left out. Spring break is coming, and he's all stressed because he has to go to his father's house. Court for that isn't until after. I wanted to wait until after Benchmark for doing another IEP meeting, but I just can't. I have to get all my ducks in a row for that, too.And to top it all off, I'm

sick. It's nothing serious, just whatever virus is going around right now. It's still knocking me down at the wrong time, though.Fawn

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I'm still researching. I spent some extra time with my boyfriend this week and that helped some too. Research is ongoing - that stuff will never end, I think.Adam seems to be doing much better since we went to the support meeting. Maybe it was that I hadn't seen some of the things he does as autistic. I'm not sure, but I've eased up on his behavior somewhat. He's much calmer now. He knows I'm doing everything I can for him even if I get mad sometimes.We're going to have some fun this weekend. Our area finally has a sensory friendly theater and is showing their first movie tomorrow. I'm not sure who will end up liking it more. My little one (9) doesn't like going to movies too much because it gets a bit too dark and loud for

him. Then I get to work on bikes.... ICK! Oh well, it makes the boys happy and leaves my house quiet. FawnFrom: susanne hansen <s_hansen34@...> Sent: Fri, March 11, 2011 9:17:11 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Where is the middle ground?

Hi Fawn,

Hope you enjoyed your day off and are feeling better. How did your research go? How is Adam doing now? Hope things have settled down a bit. ne

From: Fawn Kazmierczak <lostfranklingirl@...>Subject: ( ) Where is the middle ground? Date: Tuesday, March 8, 2011, 5:04 PM

It just keeps getting worse. Adam is upset and frustrated almost all the time now. Today, if his nose hasn't been stuck in a book, he's lashing out at me or his brother. And it started the minute he got up this morning.School is getting worse again. He can't remember homework, planner, projects, anything. He wants to use his 504 for everything, even for the times he forgets. He doesn't feel safe, and I feel completely powerless to help him. I have to supervise his every move right now - but I have more things that I have to do too. He has a brother that is getting so left out. Spring break is coming, and he's all stressed because he has to go to his father's house. Court for that isn't until after. I wanted to wait until after Benchmark for doing another IEP meeting, but I just can't. I have to get all my ducks in a row for that, too.And to top it all off, I'm

sick. It's nothing serious, just whatever virus is going around right now. It's still knocking me down at the wrong time, though.Fawn

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Fawn,

I'm glad to hear Adam is doing better and that you got some time to yourself (with your boyfirend) It always helps to know that you are not alone in your world of Aspergers. We all have those days or sometimes weeks that it all seems to be caving in on us. But I'm glad to have found this group, I wish I had found it a long time ago. Take care and I wish you all the best. :)ne

From: Fawn Kazmierczak <lostfranklingirl@...>Subject: ( ) Where is the middle ground? Date: Tuesday, March 8, 2011, 5:04 PM

It just keeps getting worse. Adam is upset and frustrated almost all the time now. Today, if his nose hasn't been stuck in a book, he's lashing out at me or his brother. And it started the minute he got up this morning.School is getting worse again. He can't remember homework, planner, projects, anything. He wants to use his 504 for everything, even for the times he forgets. He doesn't feel safe, and I feel completely powerless to help him. I have to supervise his every move right now - but I have more things that I have to do too. He has a brother that is getting so left out. Spring break is coming, and he's all stressed because he has to go to his father's house. Court for that isn't until after. I wanted to wait until after Benchmark for doing another IEP meeting, but I just can't. I have to get all my ducks in a row for that, too.And to top it all off, I'm

sick. It's nothing serious, just whatever virus is going around right now. It's still knocking me down at the wrong time, though.Fawn

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this is a book that an adult with aspergers has written maybe it will help? it's

free to download. It has everything from general information to why the

meltdowns or bad behavior occure, how to avoid them and how to manage them when

it happens im not finished reading it yet but is really quite good.

http://www.asdstuff.com/grats.html

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> >>Date: Tuesday, March 8, 2011, 5:04 PM

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> >>It just keeps getting worse. Adam is upset and frustrated almost all the

time

> >>now. Today, if his nose hasn't been stuck in a book, he's lashing out at me

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> >>School is getting worse again. He can't remember homework, planner,

projects,

> >>anything. He wants to use his 504 for everything, even for the times he

> >>forgets. He doesn't feel safe, and I feel completely powerless to help him.

I

> >>have to supervise his every move right now - but I have more things that I

have

> >>to do too. He has a brother that is getting so left out. Spring break is

> >>coming, and he's all stressed because he has to go to his father's house.

Court

> >>for that isn't until after. I wanted to wait until after Benchmark for

doing

> >>another IEP meeting, but I just can't. I have to get all my ducks in a row

for

> >>that, too.

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> >>And to top it all off, I'm sick. It's nothing serious, just whatever virus

is

> >>going around right now. It's still knocking me down at the wrong time,

though.

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