Re: I never thought i would hear myself say i give up ! - BUT.

[Guest guest]

Document the events as they occurred and then send a letter to the principal and school board asking them how they plan to help protect your daughter from this situation.  Have you read your school's bullying policy? Get a copy fast. You must clearly and without emotion document what has happened and the response your daughter has had to it and send a letter out asap to school officials. Make sure you ask that a copy be placed in her education file.

 

Wonder, if you can you get a restraining order on behalf of your daughter against this girl? Hope others have more input.

On Fri, May 28, 2010 at 4:40 PM, <video228@...> wrote:

 

this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news papers.but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter doesnt exist.the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse.

I am convinced that they should remove the term " to protect and serve " and change it " to cover my butt and not get sued " .heres the letter / e-mail:this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on wednesday.

we live in wallingford connecticut.a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property and started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and constantly in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left and right to my wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my autistic 8 year old daughter said " you better apologize " (its what she is taught to do if two people are argueing).

the high school student then got into my daughters face and screamed at her " you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then the girl proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete duress. (it is common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant say they dont know)

we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a report, but tried to chalk it up to " ongoing problems between our families " . even though the only ongoing problem is their daughter bullying my older daughter since 7th grade and now my younger 3rd grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds father left for me on " my work voice mail " , calling my wife cuss words and threatening to take my home from the (quote) " getto neighborhood i live in " , (which is all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of these people is that of the family.

But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to make sure my 8 year old aspie daughter is safe from this again by banning that girl from being there on the school grounds of a school she " doesnt even attend " . my daughters grammer school wont do anything until they get a police report. (which takes approx 2 weeks) even though they have a history of problems with this girl, and there and have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this further.

my daughter is under complete duress.you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas someone would have jumped all over this, rather than being so laxidasicle, like this special needs child doesnt count.

this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes afraid the big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat becuase she says she doesnt want to be called a " fat A " . and she wont stay and play on the playground after school anymore because the big girl might (and does purposely) come around.

this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her eyes when she looks at us and says " you cant protect me " brings tears to our eyes every time.because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it is easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.

the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told to stay off of the school property forever.but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if even do anything at all ?

this is only a very short abridged version of this story.we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses ?if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special needs students, they have all told us " wallingford is the worst " , or just roll their eyes.

please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the making because wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for this small child.

and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get these kids the protection they need, finally.I have yet to get one response.I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to march on my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be done.

but i can only dream.I am at witts end.attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the town hiding their negligence.any advice ?

[Guest guest]

School bullying policies probably can only legally encompass what happens amongst students.  You can't expel a kid who isn't a student.  And as a minor, the bully is probably " above the law " in some regards.

What outside agencies, other than the police, can intervene?The police might be able to do something against the father, but it won't be anything long-standing and will only increase his ire, making dealing with him and his family that bit harder.

Maybe, though, a specialist could do workshops with the kids about how to deal with bullies who are older than you?  Maybe it could be parent-driven if the school's not interested.  Create a parent-watch at school.  I mean, I can't imagine this teen has chosen to bully only one child and be sweet to all the rest.  Maybe allow this to transcend special ed and police and become a parents-protecting-all-children initiative?

Best wishes!Dena

[Guest guest]

I would just get a restraining order, simplest and quickest way to handle that

On Fri, May 28, 2010 at 4:40 PM, <video228@...> wrote:

 

this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news papers.but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter doesnt exist.the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse.

I am convinced that they should remove the term " to protect and serve " and change it " to cover my butt and not get sued " .heres the letter / e-mail:this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on wednesday.

we live in wallingford connecticut.a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property and started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and constantly in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left and right to my wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my autistic 8 year old daughter said " you better apologize " (its what she is taught to do if two people are argueing).

the high school student then got into my daughters face and screamed at her " you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then the girl proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete duress. (it is common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant say they dont know)

we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a report, but tried to chalk it up to " ongoing problems between our families " . even though the only ongoing problem is their daughter bullying my older daughter since 7th grade and now my younger 3rd grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds father left for me on " my work voice mail " , calling my wife cuss words and threatening to take my home from the (quote) " getto neighborhood i live in " , (which is all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of these people is that of the family.

But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to make sure my 8 year old aspie daughter is safe from this again by banning that girl from being there on the school grounds of a school she " doesnt even attend " . my daughters grammer school wont do anything until they get a police report. (which takes approx 2 weeks) even though they have a history of problems with this girl, and there and have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this further.

my daughter is under complete duress.you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas someone would have jumped all over this, rather than being so laxidasicle, like this special needs child doesnt count.

this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes afraid the big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat becuase she says she doesnt want to be called a " fat A " . and she wont stay and play on the playground after school anymore because the big girl might (and does purposely) come around.

this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her eyes when she looks at us and says " you cant protect me " brings tears to our eyes every time.because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it is easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.

the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told to stay off of the school property forever.but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if even do anything at all ?

this is only a very short abridged version of this story.we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses ?if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special needs students, they have all told us " wallingford is the worst " , or just roll their eyes.

please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the making because wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for this small child.

and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get these kids the protection they need, finally.I have yet to get one response.I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to march on my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be done.

but i can only dream.I am at witts end.attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the town hiding their negligence.any advice ?

-- -mommy to Emma, Becca, , , , and baby girl no name (yeah I know, nothing new, does ever pick a name in a timely manner?) July 2010

[Guest guest]

My son was beaten up on the bus about 3 weeks ago. I took photos of the red marks and took them to school the next morning. First, let me say I called the principle when I saw my son's back. The principle said he'd meet with Jakob in the morning to talk about what happened on the bus.. I had a feeling I needed to go with him and I am glad I did. The principle had forgotten all about it and was in a meeting. Well, not for long. I demanded that he come to the front office ASAP or the local law enforcement would be there and we would press charges. He came up, looked at the pictures and said, "wow, we've had issues on the bus from kids who are being kids before but nothing that left red marks like this", then he told my son that would watch the camera that was on the bus to see who it was and what happened and then talked to the child. {i'm sorry i totally lost it there for a moment seeing my baby get hurt by this

kid} Anyhow, the next day the boy apologized and my son said, "so lets start over and be friends". What an awesome kid to forgive like that. The day after a 5th grader decides to lean over the seat and punch my child in the arm. What for? We don't know. But this is his last year in public school. He will be homeschooled from now on! I can't wait until next Friday when school is finally over!!! I hope something is done soon! Blessings, TeamJakobSupport children with Aspergers,With your support their is no limit to Jakob's success!!

From: Durocher <funwith4@...> Sent: Sun, May 30, 2010 7:33:40 AMSubject: Re: ( ) I never thought i would hear myself say i give up ! - BUT.

I would just get a restraining order, simplest and quickest way to handle that

On Fri, May 28, 2010 at 4:40 PM, <video228 (DOT) com> wrote:

this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news papers.but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter doesnt exist.the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse. I am convinced that they should remove the term "to protect and serve" and change it "to cover my butt and not get sued".heres the letter / e-mail:this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on wednesday.we live in wallingford connecticut.a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property and started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and constantly in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left and right to my wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my autistic 8 year old daughter said "you better apologize"(its what she is taught to do if two people are argueing).the high school student then got

into my daughters face and screamed at her "you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then the girl proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete duress. (it is common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant say they dont know)we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a report, but tried to chalk it up to "ongoing problems between our families". even though the only ongoing problem is their daughter bullying my older daughter since 7th grade and now my younger 3rd grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds father left for me on "my work voice mail", calling my wife cuss words and threatening to take my home from the (quote) "getto neighborhood i live in", (which is all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of these people is that of the family.But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to make sure my 8 year old aspie

daughter is safe from this again by banning that girl from being there on the school grounds of a school she "doesnt even attend". my daughters grammer school wont do anything until they get a police report. (which takes approx 2 weeks) even though they have a history of problems with this girl, and there and have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this further.my daughter is under complete duress.you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas someone would have jumped all over this, rather than being so laxidasicle, like this special needs child doesnt count.this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes afraid the big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat becuase she says she doesnt want to be called a "fat A". and she wont stay and play on the playground after school anymore because the big

girl might (and does purposely) come around.this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her eyes when she looks at us and says "you cant protect me" brings tears to our eyes every time.because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it is easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told to stay off of the school property forever.but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if even do anything at all ?this is only a very short abridged version of this story.we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses ?if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special needs students, they have all told us "wallingford is the worst", or just roll their eyes.please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the making because

wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for this small child. and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get these kids the protection they need, finally.I have yet to get one response.I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to march on my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be done.but i can only dream.I am at witts end.attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the town hiding their negligence.any advice ?

-- -mommy to Emma, Becca, , , , and baby girl no name (yeah I know, nothing new, does ever pick a name in a timely manner?) July 2010

[Guest guest]

I agree with ,

I would start by getting the school bullying policy in writing. I

would also ask them what their policy is about kids being on school

property who do not belong there. The principal we had would have gone

out and told this kid to leave. They had policies posted that older

kids could not be there hanging around without an adult. And anyone

who was there had to sign in at the office and wear a name tag. So

find out what their policy is and use it to your advantage. It's odd

in this day and age not to have any policies on these things. So find

out if your school has them and what they say about it.

It's hard to believe that anyone would want a foul mouthed kid on

school property cussing at people. It's not surprising that she talked

that to your dd that way. But to your wife? That just shows you that

she was never taught to be respectful, is not afraid of authority and

the parents will not likely do anything about the situation.

One thing you can be comforted by (? maybe?) is that karma happens.

This kid will go on to break bigger and better laws, curse out the

wrong person at the wrong time and eventually get in serious trouble.

But I would definitely expect that my kids would be protected and safe

while on school property. I would push that concept before the people

of your community because then it will resonate with them too! Today

it's your family, tomorrow it may be their's. They might respond to

you then. And next time, have your wife keep her cell phone handy to

video tape the darling as she is making an ass of herself. I love

technology.

Roxanna

Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

Re: ( ) I never thought i would hear myself say

i give up ! - BUT.

Document the events as they occurred and then send a letter to the

principal and school board asking them how they plan to help protect

your daughter from this situation.  Have you read your school's

bullying policy? Get a copy fast. You must clearly and without emotion

document what has happened and the response your daughter has had to it

and send a letter out asap to school officials. Make sure you ask that

a copy be placed in her education file.

 

Wonder, if you can you get a restraining order on behalf of your

daughter against this girl? Hope others have more input.

On Fri, May 28, 2010 at 4:40 PM, <video228@...> wrote:

 

this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news

papers.

but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter

doesnt exist.

the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse.

I am convinced that they should remove the term " to protect and serve "

and change it " to cover my butt and not get sued " .

heres the letter / e-mail:

this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on

wednesday.

we live in wallingford connecticut.

a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property

and started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and

constantly in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left

and right to my wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my

autistic 8 year old daughter said " you better apologize " (its what she

is taught to do if two people are argueing).

the high school student then got into my daughters face and screamed at

her " you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then

the girl proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete

duress. (it is common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant

say they dont know)

we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a

report, but tried to chalk it up to " ongoing problems between our

families " . even though the only ongoing problem is their daughter

bullying my older daughter since 7th grade and now my younger 3rd

grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds father left for me

on " my work voice mail " , calling my wife cuss words and threatening to

take my home from the (quote) " getto neighborhood i live in " , (which is

all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of

these people is that of the family.

But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to

make sure my 8 year old aspie daughter is safe from this again by

banning that girl from being there on the school grounds of a school

she " doesnt even attend " . my daughters grammer school wont do anything

until they get a police report. (which takes approx 2 weeks) even

though they have a history of problems with this girl, and there and

have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this further.

my daughter is under complete duress.

you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas

someone would have jumped all over this, rather than being so

laxidasicle, like this special needs child doesnt count.

this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.

my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes

afraid the big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat

becuase she says she doesnt want to be called a " fat A " . and she wont

stay and play on the playground after school anymore because the big

girl might (and does purposely) come around.

this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her

eyes when she looks at us and says " you cant protect me " brings tears

to our eyes every time.

because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it

is easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.

the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told

to stay off of the school property forever.

but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if

even do anything at all ?

this is only a very short abridged version of this story.

we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses

?

if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special

needs students, they have all told us " wallingford is the worst " , or

just roll their eyes.

please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the

making because wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.

we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for

this small child.

and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get

these kids the protection they need, finally.

I have yet to get one response.

I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to

march on my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be

done.

but i can only dream.

I am at witts end.

attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the

town hiding their negligence.

any advice ?

[Guest guest]

Oh, how horrible and sad! I wish I could be your daughter's aide. Horrible.

Have you gone to the school board? I can't beleive that the principal allows this chld on your daughter's school ground??? Isn't her principal concerned about the other 8 year olds? Is there a PTO or PtA in the school...have you brought is up there to other parents?

Have you contacted the state department of education? And, lastly if no one wants to do anything, why not take an ad out in the local paper....let the public know. I can't believe this. No one wants to do anything!

What about telling the school you want your daughter to have a Para until this is resolved.

Just call and tell the world...post it everywhere...talk to you local state representatives.

And, lastly, tell the school you will SUE. OMG...that is one thing that don't want to deal with.

I will be praying for your daughter ....and your family.

Jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

From: <video228@...> Sent: Fri, May 28, 2010 4:40:06 PMSubject: ( ) I never thought i would hear myself say i give up ! - BUT.

this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news papers.but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter doesnt exist.the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse. I am convinced that they should remove the term "to protect and serve" and change it "to cover my butt and not get sued".heres the letter / e-mail:this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on wednesday.we live in wallingford connecticut.a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property and started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and constantly in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left and right to my wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my autistic 8 year old daughter said "you better apologize"(its what she is taught to do if two people are argueing).the high school student then got

into my daughters face and screamed at her "you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then the girl proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete duress. (it is common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant say they dont know)we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a report, but tried to chalk it up to "ongoing problems between our families". even though the only ongoing problem is their daughter bullying my older daughter since 7th grade and now my younger 3rd grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds father left for me on "my work voice mail", calling my wife cuss words and threatening to take my home from the (quote) "getto neighborhood i live in", (which is all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of these people is that of the family.But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to make sure my 8 year old aspie

daughter is safe from this again by banning that girl from being there on the school grounds of a school she "doesnt even attend". my daughters grammer school wont do anything until they get a police report. (which takes approx 2 weeks) even though they have a history of problems with this girl, and there and have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this further.my daughter is under complete duress.you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas someone would have jumped all over this, rather than being so laxidasicle, like this special needs child doesnt count.this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes afraid the big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat becuase she says she doesnt want to be called a "fat A". and she wont stay and play on the playground after school anymore because the big

girl might (and does purposely) come around.this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her eyes when she looks at us and says "you cant protect me" brings tears to our eyes every time.because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it is easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told to stay off of the school property forever.but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if even do anything at all ?this is only a very short abridged version of this story.we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses ?if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special needs students, they have all told us "wallingford is the worst", or just roll their eyes.please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the making because

wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for this small child. and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get these kids the protection they need, finally.I have yet to get one response.I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to march on my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be done.but i can only dream.I am at witts end.attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the town hiding their negligence.any advice ?

[Guest guest]

Wow, ,

I wish much better times for you and your son. You sound like we did right before we left his school for a virtual one.

Hugs to you both.

Attack and enjoy every minute of life.

Try everything.....protect everything.

Robin

this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news papers.but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter doesnt exist.the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse. I am convinced that they should remove the term "to protect and serve" and change it "to cover my butt and not get sued".heres the letter / e-mail:this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on wednesday.we live in wallingford connecticut.a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property and started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and constantly in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left and right to my wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my autistic 8 year old daughter said "you better apologize"(its what she is taught to do if two people are argueing).the high school student then got

into my daughters face and screamed at her "you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then the girl proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete duress. (it is common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant say they dont know)we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a report, but tried to chalk it up to "ongoing problems between our families". even though the only ongoing problem is their daughter bullying my older daughter since 7th grade and now my younger 3rd grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds father left for me on "my work voice mail", calling my wife cuss words and threatening to take my home from the (quote) "getto neighborhood i live in", (which is all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of these people is that of the family.But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to make sure my 8 year old aspie

daughter is safe from this again by banning that girl from being there on the school grounds of a school she "doesnt even attend". my daughters grammer school wont do anything until they get a police report. (which takes approx 2 weeks) even though they have a history of problems with this girl, and there and have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this further.my daughter is under complete duress.you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas someone would have jumped all over this, rather than being so laxidasicle, like this special needs child doesnt count.this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes afraid the big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat becuase she says she doesnt want to be called a "fat A". and she wont stay and play on the playground after school anymore because the big

girl might (and does purposely) come around.this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her eyes when she looks at us and says "you cant protect me" brings tears to our eyes every time.because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it is easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told to stay off of the school property forever.but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if even do anything at all ?this is only a very short abridged version of this story.we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses ?if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special needs students, they have all told us "wallingford is the worst", or just roll their eyes.please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the making because

wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for this small child. and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get these kids the protection they need, finally.I have yet to get one response.I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to march on my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be done.but i can only dream.I am at witts end.attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the town hiding their negligence.any advice ?

-- -mommy to Emma, Becca, , , , and baby girl no name (yeah I know, nothing new, does ever pick a name in a timely manner?) July 2010

[Guest guest]

thank you all, each and everyone. I knew if i wrote here there would be actual

empathy given because everyone here UNDERSTANDS.

the pricipal has chosen that she didnt need to do anything until she sees a

police report, which can take up to 2 weeks.

so until then (almost the end of school). she has done that purposely becuase

she has no guts ! (im not kidding, she really doesnt). every time something

happens on her school grounds that shouldnt, she skirts around anything she

should do.

and one of you is absolutely right. this bully " is above the law " . she has for

the last 3 years. she started bullying my oldest daughter 3 years ago, and when

she couldnt get the response she wanted there., she moved on to my baby.

this town certainly dors have written anti-bullying laws. but they never use

them. political correctness and the fear of being taken the court causes them to

look the other way a " always " make excuses as to why they dont do anything to

the bully.

they have used excuses like " no witnesses (which were produced, but then

discredited by the principal because she says " thats your daughters freind, so

they are biased " ) or " your family and that family have had past issues " (what

the heck does that have to do with now bullying an innocent kid ?).

I am just so frustrated.

after all the hype in the news about bullied kids killing themselves and having

breakdowns, and " lets not forget what happed at columnbine. "

you would think that they would jump all over this.

what is more sickening is, we called 4 local television stations and a newspaper

trying to get this story out. but trust me . the journalism days of journalists

like woodward and burnstein are over !!

no responses from any of them.

we even called the ADA (americans with dissabilities act) and they said they

dont do anything with situations like this. just another example of a government

agency that doesnt actually do what they are needed to do.

our last hope is, i e-mailed the " autism speaks " office in Connecticut.

hopefully they will call me back and guide me further.

I am so frustrated right now ! i just want someone punished and it to be very

public.

until everyone knows what happens to the bad people in this situation, it will

never stop, and actually keep getting worse.

its like a gang. if they get awy with the first crime it just keeps getting

worse and worse until there are bodies on the street.

then everyone says " why didnt anyone do anything ?! " right after they take their

heads out of the sand.

>

> Oh, how horrible and sad! I wish I could be your daughter's aide. Horrible. 

>

> Have you gone to the school board? I can't beleive that the principal allows

this chld on your daughter's school ground??? Isn't her principal concerned

about the other 8 year olds? Is there a PTO or PtA in the school...have you

brought is up there to other parents?

> Have you contacted the state department of education? And, lastly if no one

wants to do anything, why not take an ad out in the local paper....let the

public know. I can't believe this. No one wants to do anything!

>

> What about telling the school you want your daughter to have a Para until this

is resolved.

>

> Just call and tell the world...post it everywhere...talk to you local state

representatives.

> And, lastly, tell the school you will SUE. OMG...that is one thing that don't

want to deal with.

>

> I will be praying for your daughter ....and your family.

>

> Jan

>

>  

> " In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity "     Albert Einstein

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

> From: <video228@...>

>

> Sent: Fri, May 28, 2010 4:40:06 PM

> Subject: ( ) I never thought i would hear myself say i give up

! - BUT.

>

>  

> this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news papers.

> but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter doesnt

exist.

> the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse.

> I am convinced that they should remove the term " to protect and serve " and

change it " to cover my butt and not get sued " .

>

> heres the letter / e-mail:

>

> this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on wednesday.

>

> we live in wallingford connecticut.

> a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property and

started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and constantly

in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left and right to my

wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my autistic 8 year old daughter

said " you better apologize " (its what she is taught to do if two people are

argueing).

>

> the high school student then got into my daughters face and screamed at her

" you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then the girl

proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete duress. (it is

common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant say they dont know)

> we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a report,

but tried to chalk it up to " ongoing problems between our families " . even though

the only ongoing problem is their daughter bullying my older daughter since 7th

grade and now my younger 3rd grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds

father left for me on " my work voice mail " , calling my wife cuss words and

threatening to take my home from the (quote) " getto neighborhood i live in " ,

(which is all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of

these people is that of the family.

> But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to make

sure my 8 year old aspie daughter is safe from this again by banning that girl

from being there on the school grounds of a school she " doesnt even attend " . my

daughters grammer school wont do anything until they get a police report. (which

takes approx 2 weeks) even though they have a history of problems with this

girl, and there and have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this

further.

>

> my daughter is under complete duress.

>

> you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas someone

would have jumped all over this, rather than being so laxidasicle, like this

special needs child doesnt count.

>

> this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.

>

> my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes afraid the

big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat becuase she says

she doesnt want to be called a " fat A " . and she wont stay and play on the

playground after school anymore because the big girl might (and does purposely)

come around.

> this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her eyes

when she looks at us and says " you cant protect me " brings tears to our eyes

every time.

> because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it is

easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.

>

> the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told to stay

off of the school property forever.

> but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if even do

anything at all ?

>

> this is only a very short abridged version of this story.

> we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses ?

> if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special needs

students, they have all told us " wallingford is the worst " , or just roll their

eyes.

> please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the making

because wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.

>

> we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for this

small child.

> and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get these kids

the protection they need, finally.

>

> I have yet to get one response.

> I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to march on

my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be done.

>

> but i can only dream.

>

> I am at witts end.

> attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the town

hiding their negligence.

>

> any advice ?

>

[Guest guest]

Oh , how horrible. I don't know what to say except that I am so sorry your poor girl has to go through this. That teenager belongs in reform school

From: video228@...Date: Fri, 28 May 2010 20:40:06 +0000Subject: ( ) I never thought i would hear myself say i give up ! - BUT.

this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news papers.but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter doesnt exist.the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse. I am convinced that they should remove the term "to protect and serve" and change it "to cover my butt and not get sued".heres the letter / e-mail:this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on wednesday.we live in wallingford connecticut.a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property and started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and constantly in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left and right to my wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my autistic 8 year old daughter said "you better apologize"(its what she is taught to do if two people are argueing).the high school student then got into my daughters face and screamed at her "you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then the girl proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete duress. (it is common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant say they dont know)we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a report, but tried to chalk it up to "ongoing problems between our families". even though the only ongoing problem is their daughter bullying my older daughter since 7th grade and now my younger 3rd grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds father left for me on "my work voice mail", calling my wife cuss words and threatening to take my home from the (quote) "getto neighborhood i live in", (which is all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of these people is that of the family.But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to make sure my 8 year old aspie daughter is safe from this again by banning that girl from being there on the school grounds of a school she "doesnt even attend". my daughters grammer school wont do anything until they get a police report. (which takes approx 2 weeks) even though they have a history of problems with this girl, and there and have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this further.my daughter is under complete duress.you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas someone would have jumped all over this, rather than being so laxidasicle, like this special needs child doesnt count.this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes afraid the big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat becuase she says she doesnt want to be called a "fat A". and she wont stay and play on the playground after school anymore because the big girl might (and does purposely) come around.this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her eyes when she looks at us and says "you cant protect me" brings tears to our eyes every time.because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it is easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told to stay off of the school property forever.but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if even do anything at all ?this is only a very short abridged version of this story.we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses ?if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special needs students, they have all told us "wallingford is the worst", or just roll their eyes.please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the making because wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for this small child. and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get these kids the protection they need, finally.I have yet to get one response.I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to march on my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be done.but i can only dream.I am at witts end.attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the town hiding their negligence.any advice ?

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I am new to the group, and certainly don't want to step on any toes...

It is not okay that this young girl is being a bully. To your child with special needs, or to any child!

Having been a foster parent for years now, I have had the pleasure of being mom to many kids, with many behaviors.

Sometimes, the bullying comes from lack of self esteem, being bullied themselves, being lonely, having real jack**^s for parents....

You state that the parents have issues, too. Sounds like a very disfunctional family.

My hope is that you and your family are able to reach out to them. It may not be obvious what their "disability" or "challenges" are- but we all have them.

Perhaps until things are settled down, for your child's sake and your sanity, you pull your child from the public school setting and home educate her for now, until she has the chance to calm herself, understand that we cannot control the actions of others, but can take steps to protect ourselves.

A well drafted letter to the Principal of the school as well as the school board, with a copy to the local constable and to the local political representative would make everyone sit up and pay attention.

While the police and principal may think of this interaction as a "spitting contest", the school board and the local politicians who have the legal responsiblity to protect students and citizens, should sit up and take action.

Asking for a mediator to sit with your family and this poor girls family may be very successful. Perhaps working out the issues would be a very good lesson for everyone to learn! Conflict resolution is a vital skill in today's society. How awesome that this situation has presented itself to your family.

Please keep us posted as to your success in this regard!

Aspergers Treatment From: b-pinckney@...Date: Mon, 31 May 2010 16:31:44 -0400Subject: RE: ( ) I never thought i would hear myself say i give up ! - BUT.

Oh , how horrible. I don't know what to say except that I am so sorry your poor girl has to go through this. That teenager belongs in reform school

From: video228 Date: Fri, 28 May 2010 20:40:06 +0000Subject: ( ) I never thought i would hear myself say i give up ! - BUT.

this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news papers.but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter doesnt exist.the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse. I am convinced that they should remove the term "to protect and serve" and change it "to cover my butt and not get sued".heres the letter / e-mail:this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on wednesday.we live in wallingford connecticut.a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property and started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and constantly in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left and right to my wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my autistic 8 year old daughter said "you better apologize"(its what she is taught to do if two people are argueing).the high school student then got into my daughters face and screamed at her "you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then the girl proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete duress. (it is common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant say they dont know)we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a report, but tried to chalk it up to "ongoing problems between our families". even though the only ongoing problem is their daughter bullying my older daughter since 7th grade and now my younger 3rd grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds father left for me on "my work voice mail", calling my wife cuss words and threatening to take my home from the (quote) "getto neighborhood i live in", (which is all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of these people is that of the family.But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to make sure my 8 year old aspie daughter is safe from this again by banning that girl from being there on the school grounds of a school she "doesnt even attend". my daughters grammer school wont do anything until they get a police report. (which takes approx 2 weeks) even though they have a history of problems with this girl, and there and have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this further.my daughter is under complete duress.you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas someone would have jumped all over this, rather than being so laxidasicle, like this special needs child doesnt count.this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes afraid the big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat becuase she says she doesnt want to be called a "fat A". and she wont stay and play on the playground after school anymore because the big girl might (and does purposely) come around.this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her eyes when she looks at us and says "you cant protect me" brings tears to our eyes every time.because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it is easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told to stay off of the school property forever.but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if even do anything at all ?this is only a very short abridged version of this story.we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses ?if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special needs students, they have all told us "wallingford is the worst", or just roll their eyes.please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the making because wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for this small child. and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get these kids the protection they need, finally.I have yet to get one response.I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to march on my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be done.but i can only dream.I am at witts end.attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the town hiding their negligence.any advice ?

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,

Can you go to the courthouse and request a restraining order against her? I know where I am, you could. I would apply for that at the courthouse and keep it with me. Then as soon as she came within the recommended yardage, call the police. Keep calling. Remain calm, professional, but an advocate for your daughter that has Aspergers. She is smart, she is not mentally handicapped or violent.

I am praying for you and I really want to you to keep us updated. Because everything that comes on here, I think about and is important. I really pray for each request that comes thru.

Kristal

From: Barbara Pinckney <b-pinckney@...>Subject: RE: ( ) I never thought i would hear myself say i give up ! - BUT.Aspergers Treatment Date: Monday, May 31, 2010, 4:31 PM

Oh , how horrible. I don't know what to say except that I am so sorry your poor girl has to go through this. That teenager belongs in reform school

From: video228 (DOT) comDate: Fri, 28 May 2010 20:40:06 +0000Subject: ( ) I never thought i would hear myself say i give up ! - BUT.

this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news papers.but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter doesnt exist.the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse. I am convinced that they should remove the term "to protect and serve" and change it "to cover my butt and not get sued".heres the letter / e-mail:this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on wednesday.we live in wallingford connecticut.a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property and started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and constantly in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left and right to my wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my autistic 8 year old daughter said "you better apologize"(its what she is taught to do if two people are argueing).the high school

student then got into my daughters face and screamed at her "you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then the girl proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete duress. (it is common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant say they dont know)we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a report, but tried to chalk it up to "ongoing problems between our families". even though the only ongoing problem is their daughter bullying my older daughter since 7th grade and now my younger 3rd grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds father left for me on "my work voice mail", calling my wife cuss words and threatening to take my home from the (quote) "getto neighborhood i live in", (which is all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of these people is that of the family.But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to make sure my 8

year old aspie daughter is safe from this again by banning that girl from being there on the school grounds of a school she "doesnt even attend". my daughters grammer school wont do anything until they get a police report. (which takes approx 2 weeks) even though they have a history of problems with this girl, and there and have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this further.my daughter is under complete duress.you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas someone would have jumped all over this, rather than being so laxidasicle, like this special needs child doesnt count.this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes afraid the big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat becuase she says she doesnt want to be called a "fat A". and she wont stay and play on the playground after school anymore

because the big girl might (and does purposely) come around.this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her eyes when she looks at us and says "you cant protect me" brings tears to our eyes every time.because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it is easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told to stay off of the school property forever.but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if even do anything at all ?this is only a very short abridged version of this story.we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses ?if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special needs students, they have all told us "wallingford is the worst", or just roll their eyes.please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the

making because wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for this small child. and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get these kids the protection they need, finally.I have yet to get one response.I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to march on my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be done.but i can only dream.I am at witts end.attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the town hiding their negligence.any advice ?

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[Guest guest]

I would call one of the local news stations. Or even national news. This kind

of thing is a big deal on TV right now and the town will end up having to do

something about it. There was that situation in florida in which the teacher

encouraged the kids to say mean things to a special needs child. I believe the

teacher was eventually fired. It was all over the national news. I expect the

school and the town would be a lot more attentive if it was blasted in the

media.

Let me know how it goes.

Miriam

>

>

> Oh , how horrible. I don't know what to say except that I am so sorry

your poor girl has to go through this. That teenager belongs in reform school

>

>

>

>

> From: video228@...

> Date: Fri, 28 May 2010 20:40:06 +0000

> Subject: ( ) I never thought i would hear myself say i give up

! - BUT.

>

>

>

>

>

> this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news papers.

> but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter doesnt

exist.

> the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse.

> I am convinced that they should remove the term " to protect and serve " and

change it " to cover my butt and not get sued " .

>

> heres the letter / e-mail:

>

> this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on wednesday.

>

> we live in wallingford connecticut.

> a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property and

started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and constantly

in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left and right to my

wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my autistic 8 year old daughter

said " you better apologize " (its what she is taught to do if two people are

argueing).

>

> the high school student then got into my daughters face and screamed at her

" you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then the girl

proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete duress. (it is

common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant say they dont know)

> we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a report,

but tried to chalk it up to " ongoing problems between our families " . even though

the only ongoing problem is their daughter bullying my older daughter since 7th

grade and now my younger 3rd grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds

father left for me on " my work voice mail " , calling my wife cuss words and

threatening to take my home from the (quote) " getto neighborhood i live in " ,

(which is all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of

these people is that of the family.

> But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to make

sure my 8 year old aspie daughter is safe from this again by banning that girl

from being there on the school grounds of a school she " doesnt even attend " . my

daughters grammer school wont do anything until they get a police report. (which

takes approx 2 weeks) even though they have a history of problems with this

girl, and there and have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this

further.

>

> my daughter is under complete duress.

>

> you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas someone

would have jumped all over this, rather than being so laxidasicle, like this

special needs child doesnt count.

>

> this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.

>

> my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes afraid the

big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat becuase she says

she doesnt want to be called a " fat A " . and she wont stay and play on the

playground after school anymore because the big girl might (and does purposely)

come around.

> this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her eyes

when she looks at us and says " you cant protect me " brings tears to our eyes

every time.

> because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it is

easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.

>

> the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told to stay

off of the school property forever.

> but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if even do

anything at all ?

>

> this is only a very short abridged version of this story.

> we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses ?

> if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special needs

students, they have all told us " wallingford is the worst " , or just roll their

eyes.

> please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the making

because wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.

>

> we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for this

small child.

> and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get these kids

the protection they need, finally.

>

> I have yet to get one response.

> I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to march on

my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be done.

>

> but i can only dream.

>

> I am at witts end.

> attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the town

hiding their negligence.

>

> any advice ?

>

>

>

>

>

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Sorry, I didn't read all of this before responding. Definitely try some

national news stations or programs.

>

> this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news papers.

> but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter doesnt

exist.

> the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse.

> I am convinced that they should remove the term " to protect and serve " and

change it " to cover my butt and not get sued " .

>

> heres the letter / e-mail:

>

> this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on wednesday.

>

> we live in wallingford connecticut.

> a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property and

started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and constantly

in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left and right to my

wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my autistic 8 year old daughter

said " you better apologize " (its what she is taught to do if two people are

argueing).

>

> the high school student then got into my daughters face and screamed at her

" you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then the girl

proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete duress. (it is

common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant say they dont know)

> we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a report,

but tried to chalk it up to " ongoing problems between our families " . even though

the only ongoing problem is their daughter bullying my older daughter since 7th

grade and now my younger 3rd grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds

father left for me on " my work voice mail " , calling my wife cuss words and

threatening to take my home from the (quote) " getto neighborhood i live in " ,

(which is all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of

these people is that of the family.

> But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to make

sure my 8 year old aspie daughter is safe from this again by banning that girl

from being there on the school grounds of a school she " doesnt even attend " . my

daughters grammer school wont do anything until they get a police report. (which

takes approx 2 weeks) even though they have a history of problems with this

girl, and there and have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this

further.

>

> my daughter is under complete duress.

>

> you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas someone

would have jumped all over this, rather than being so laxidasicle, like this

special needs child doesnt count.

>

> this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.

>

> my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes afraid the

big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat becuase she says

she doesnt want to be called a " fat A " . and she wont stay and play on the

playground after school anymore because the big girl might (and does purposely)

come around.

> this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her eyes

when she looks at us and says " you cant protect me " brings tears to our eyes

every time.

> because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it is

easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.

>

> the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told to stay

off of the school property forever.

> but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if even do

anything at all ?

>

> this is only a very short abridged version of this story.

> we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses ?

> if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special needs

students, they have all told us " wallingford is the worst " , or just roll their

eyes.

> please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the making

because wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.

>

> we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for this

small child.

> and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get these kids

the protection they need, finally.

>

> I have yet to get one response.

> I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to march on

my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be done.

>

> but i can only dream.

>

> I am at witts end.

> attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the town

hiding their negligence.

>

> any advice ?

>

[Guest guest]

A little update. supposedly, the two principles (LHHS and s) got together

with the superintendant.

then the principle of stevens called me and said the two principles want to meet

with my wife and i tomorrow to see what we can do to prevent this from happening

for the school year.

if you read between the lines, that mean " were not going to do anything " btu we

are willing to talk about it, otherwise we would have just already taken action

without having to talk about it. but my wife and i are sticking to our guns.

we are going to tell them that " the only thing we are accepting is the girl

being banned from the school grounds, or we are going VERRRRRRYYYYYYYYY public

with this, as well as going to the state of Connecticut department of education

for special needs " . I do not think wallingford wants that type of publicity.

wish us luck. I will continue to speak out against any type of bullying and

intimidation to any child as long as i have breath in my body.

>

> this is a e-mail i sent to 3 television news stattion and 2 local news papers.

> but as of yet i havent recieved 1 response. just like my aspie daughter doesnt

exist.

> the schools wont protect her and the cops in my town are worse.

> I am convinced that they should remove the term " to protect and serve " and

change it " to cover my butt and not get sued " .

>

> heres the letter / e-mail:

>

> this is a story that happened to my autistic 8 year old daughter on wednesday.

>

> we live in wallingford connecticut.

> a 16 year old high school girl was on the local grammer school property and

started harrassing my wife (this girl is known as a local bully and constantly

in trouble). when the teenager started using the f word left and right to my

wife due to a saying my wife has on her van .my autistic 8 year old daughter

said " you better apologize " (its what she is taught to do if two people are

argueing).

>

> the high school student then got into my daughters face and screamed at her

" you better get the f-ck away from me, you little fat a** ! , then the girl

proceeded to scream it again. my daughter went into complete duress. (it is

common knowlege my daughter is autistic, so they cant say they dont know)

> we called the police. they didnt do anything until they can finish a report,

but tried to chalk it up to " ongoing problems between our families " . even though

the only ongoing problem is their daughter bullying my older daughter since 7th

grade and now my younger 3rd grader. but due to a phone message the 16 year olds

father left for me on " my work voice mail " , calling my wife cuss words and

threatening to take my home from the (quote) " getto neighborhood i live in " ,

(which is all recorded) the police finally believed us that the character of

these people is that of the family.

> But still to this moment, the town and or schools have done nothing to make

sure my 8 year old aspie daughter is safe from this again by banning that girl

from being there on the school grounds of a school she " doesnt even attend " . my

daughters grammer school wont do anything until they get a police report. (which

takes approx 2 weeks) even though they have a history of problems with this

girl, and there and have more than enough probable cause to proceed with this

further.

>

> my daughter is under complete duress.

>

> you would think with all the autism stories and the bullying dilemnas someone

would have jumped all over this, rather than being so laxidasicle, like this

special needs child doesnt count.

>

> this was clear cut bullying to a special needs child.

>

> my daughter now cries and doesnt want to go to school because shes afraid the

big girl is going to beat her up. and she doesnt want to eat becuase she says

she doesnt want to be called a " fat A " . and she wont stay and play on the

playground after school anymore because the big girl might (and does purposely)

come around.

> this is all from an 8 year old !! and the total look of sadness in her eyes

when she looks at us and says " you cant protect me " brings tears to our eyes

every time.

> because shes right !!!! we cant, and nobody else is willing to try. it is

easier to just keep ignoring our please and hope it goes away.

>

> the town is in complete negligence with this. the girl should be told to stay

off of the school property forever.

> but until we get a police report the school wont do anything ???, if even do

anything at all ?

>

> this is only a very short abridged version of this story.

> we want these kids protected, and the wallingford school system refuses ?

> if you question anyone that is a state licenced advocate for special needs

students, they have all told us " wallingford is the worst " , or just roll their

eyes.

> please call me and or my wife for the full story. this was years in the making

because wallingford didnt stop this bully when they had a chance.

>

> we honestly dont know what to do. the world has turned upside down for this

small child.

> and maybe a little bad press exposure on wallingfords part may get these kids

the protection they need, finally.

>

> I have yet to get one response.

> I wish there was a way to get every parent with an autistic child to march on

my town to call complete attention to what really needs to be done.

>

> but i can only dream.

>

> I am at witts end.

> attorney fees are out of the question, and i am at the mercy of the town

hiding their negligence.

>

> any advice ?

>