Need advise dealing with non ASPER siblings

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Looking for insight, thoughts, fresh perspective on how to deal with my older

son that doesn't have aspergers.

He feels that his brother " Gets away with everything " that we favor Aiden more

than him, etc.

I don't know how much of it is normal sibling rivalry and how much is due to the

differences in raising ASPER / non-aspies children.

We do make time for one on one with him. Often. But he has ADHD, and

sensitivity, and Aiden just drives him batty sometimes with his non-stop talking

and pestering.

As a reult, there is a lot of conflict in our house. The two boys either play

together very nicely, or else are at eachothers throats.

We have talked to him countless times about Aiden, his differences, etc, but

when he gets angry he is mean to Aiden. I've told him I won't tolerate teasing

in this house, so he ends up getting sent to his room (his ususal punishment).

Their ages are 10 & 11.

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Oh, I know where your coming from, 6yo dd with aspies, adhd, and 15yo ds with adhd. Ugh, they fight all the time. My son always thinks that I'm to easy on Jordan, which I'm not. I have to keep reminding him that she can't help it. All he does is yell at her. Well when one of there many fights break out, he will keep arguing with her. I'm like just drop it your not going to when with her. She believes what she believes. I'll try to explain things to her, but sometimes no talking to her will work. I tell him is the battle really worth it. He won't drop it either and then I end up yelling at him, I'll tell him that he's 15 and knows better. Sorry no advice, I just feel your pain. Ugh!-From: Bell <seekingmist@...>Subject: ( ) Need advise dealing with non ASPER siblings Date: Sunday, November 28, 2010, 10:56 PM

Looking for insight, thoughts, fresh perspective on how to deal with my older son that doesn't have aspergers.

He feels that his brother "Gets away with everything" that we favor Aiden more than him, etc.

I don't know how much of it is normal sibling rivalry and how much is due to the differences in raising ASPER / non-aspies children.

We do make time for one on one with him. Often. But he has ADHD, and sensitivity, and Aiden just drives him batty sometimes with his non-stop talking and pestering.

As a reult, there is a lot of conflict in our house. The two boys either play together very nicely, or else are at eachothers throats.

We have talked to him countless times about Aiden, his differences, etc, but when he gets angry he is mean to Aiden. I've told him I won't tolerate teasing in this house, so he ends up getting sent to his room (his ususal punishment).

Their ages are 10 & 11.