Re: Watching a Movie with your Aspie

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Well, I'm not sure if this Aspergers as much as it's a kid thing to do! When I try to watch a show/movie with my kids (13-Aspergers, 8-NT) they are constantly making comments and asking me questions. I can't really say that one kid does it more than another. The best part is if my 8-yr-old asks a question that my 13-yr-old thinks is stupid, he'll gladly tell her "that's so stupid" and then it becomes a fight. I have to remind him she is 8 and asks questions that an 8-yr-old might ask but it seems like he is personally offended that she doesn't understand enough about what's going on. Sometimes, I do think it's related to having a rigid way of thinking that might be related to Aspergers (hard for him to set realistic expectations for what she should/shouldn't know at that age) but other times I think it's just sibling rivalry!

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

From: marcontheroad <marcontheroad@...> Sent: Tue, May 4, 2010 9:24:44 AMSubject: ( ) Watching a Movie with your Aspie

Is it just me or do any of you share my frustration of watching a movie with a 12 year old apsie child? He asks a ton of questions--about half of which he knows the answer. All I do is ask him the question again, and he answers it. The other half of the questions are related to plot; he is always trying to predict the plot. I try to tell him (over and over) that he needs to allow the movie to tell its story--that scenes are presented for one to keep in the back of ones mind. For example, when watching SeaBiscuit, he kept asking if this horse is Sea Biscuit. I would reply that we do not know as the movie has not given us a clue yet. But this happens over and over. Sometimes the most incredibly obvious stuff he still can ask a question. And of course the questions often intefere with the dialogue which makes it that much tougher for him to follow the movie. If we are talking, we are not listening and watching the movie. Which only is a catalyst for more

questions... ..Any suggestions? He gets A's and B's in school and that includes English and History!

[Guest guest]

If you find and answer, please share. You are describing my son to the "T", also 12. He drives me crazy and I hate to watch any program with him. He won't shut-up and I miss part of the movie just answering questions. That is why I wait until the movie comes out on DVD so I can stop the movie and answer questions.

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From: marcontheroad <marcontheroad@...> Sent: Tue, May 4, 2010 9:24:44 AMSubject: ( ) Watching a Movie with your Aspie

Is it just me or do any of you share my frustration of watching a movie with a 12 year old apsie child? He asks a ton of questions--about half of which he knows the answer. All I do is ask him the question again, and he answers it. The other half of the questions are related to plot; he is always trying to predict the plot. I try to tell him (over and over) that he needs to allow the movie to tell its story--that scenes are presented for one to keep in the back of ones mind. For example, when watching SeaBiscuit, he kept asking if this horse is Sea Biscuit. I would reply that we do not know as the movie has not given us a clue yet. But this happens over and over. Sometimes the most incredibly obvious stuff he still can ask a question. And of course the questions often intefere with the dialogue which makes it that much tougher for him to follow the movie. If we are talking, we are not listening and watching the movie. Which only is a catalyst for more

questions... ..Any suggestions? He gets A's and B's in school and that includes English and History!

[Guest guest]

This is exactly like my 5 year old. The only solution I've come up with to save

my sanity is to say, " you may watch that with Daddy later! " = ) I just cannot

take all of the questions. The same thing happens when reading him a story. I

just keep saying " I don't know. We have to keep reading to answer that

question. "

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> Is it just me or do any of you share my frustration of watching a movie with a

12 year old apsie child? He asks a ton of questions--about half of which he

knows the answer. All I do is ask him the question again, and he answers it.

The other half of the questions are related to plot; he is always trying to

predict the plot. I try to tell him (over and over) that he needs to allow the

movie to tell its story--that scenes are presented for one to keep in the back

of ones mind. For example, when watching SeaBiscuit, he kept asking if this

horse is Sea Biscuit. I would reply that we do not know as the movie has not

given us a clue yet. But this happens over and over. Sometimes the most

incredibly obvious stuff he still can ask a question. And of course the

questions often intefere with the dialogue which makes it that much tougher for

him to follow the movie. If we are talking, we are not listening and watching

the movie. Which only is a catalyst for more questions.....

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> Any suggestions? He gets A's and B's in school and that includes English and

History!

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