Re: What is up with the laziness?

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- Is he on any medications? I found that my son need meds right after school. I was amazed at what a difference it made in him getting to his work and staying with it for long periods of time vs the 5 min. he used to. So much less stressful. He also stayed after school with a teacher to work on homework. This reduced the stress level in the house tremendously and he felt more successful. Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerryFrom: "dweeny123@..." <dweeny123@...>Sender: Date: Thu, 16 Sep 2010 04:06:47 -0000< >Reply Subject: ( ) What is up with the "laziness"? Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small, private)and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do hishomework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that hecan get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of yellingon his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the product.His excusefor not doing it the first time was, " Mom, I'm just really lazy " !I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if this keepsup. ARGH!!How can I get our son to be less " lazy " ?Thanks

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well, one of the 'signs' of aspergers' is that they are often confused as being lazy... but your son (as for mine!) seems to be pushing the issue a bit!!!!!!! Mine is a total slob and it takes him 3 hours or more a night to do probably 30 minutes worth of homework. BaerPresidentThe Asperger Child Incwww.TheAspergerChild.org

From: "dweeny123@..." <dweeny123@...> Sent: Thu, September 16, 2010 12:06:47 AMSubject: ( ) What is up with the "laziness"?

Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small, private)and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do hishomework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that hecan get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of yellingon his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the product.His excusefor not doing it the first time was, "Mom, I'm just really lazy"!I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if this keepsup. ARGH!!How can I get our son to be less "lazy"?Thanks

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From: dweeny123@... <dweeny123@...>Subject: ( ) What is up with the "laziness"? Date: Wednesday, September 15, 2010, 9:06 PM

Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small, private)and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do hishomework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that hecan get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of yellingon his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the product.His excusefor not doing it the first time was, "Mom, I'm just really lazy"!I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if this keepsup. ARGH!!How can I get our son to be less "lazy"?Thanks

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Hello- You need to stop yelling at him and listen to him. Ask him how to solve

the problem. You need to work with him, not against him. He understands himself

very well. He also does not understand that his body fatigues more quickly than

his peers. A good solution is that the computer does not come on until 6 or 7 PM

AND when all homework is completed to standards. Another solution is to have a

pattern of x-number of minutes and then a break of x-number of minutes. Set a

timer and he will not argue with you. Ask him how many minutes should he work

and how many minutes of break does he want. Don't be afraid to push the off

button when he does not comply. It will be painful the first time, but be

consistent and you will both be happier for long-term outcomes. Best to both of

you.

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> Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small,

private)

> and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do his

> homework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that he

> can get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of yelling

> on his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the

product.

> His excusefor not doing it the first time was, " Mom, I'm just really lazy " !

> I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if

this keeps

> up. ARGH!!

> How can I get our son to be less " lazy " ?

> Thanks

>

>

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Kids like this need lots of structure and often a token economy.

I have found that many people find it too much work to set this

up and be consistent with it. However, this is an evidence

based practice for kids with executive function disorders

(organization, time management, motivation, impulse control etc).

You set up a schedule. He does his work then he earns assess

to the computer. I often have to shut down the internet in our

house so my daughter doesn't ignore me and she takes the

initiative to get started. Her computer time is limited to

30 minutes. Then she can earn more computer time if she

takes her shower by 8pm. Regardless the internet is going

down at 9pm. These are limits. It has taken me 1 year

of working with her on this to shape this behavior where

there is not a meltdown (my daughter is in 7th grade).

I can't say it will be easy. Don't yell or reprimand or

threaten but be prepared to shutdown the wi-fi or internet

in the house if ignores the schedule.

Pam

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> Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small,

private)

> and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do his

> homework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that he

> can get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of yelling

> on his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the

product.

> His excusefor not doing it the first time was, " Mom, I'm just really lazy " !

> I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if

this keeps

> up. ARGH!!

> How can I get our son to be less " lazy " ?

> Thanks

>

>

[Guest guest]

wow was that a big meltdown when you told him that

From: dweeny123@... <dweeny123@...>Subject: ( ) What is up with the "laziness"? Date: Wednesday, September 15, 2010, 9:06 PM

Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small, private)and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do hishomework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that hecan get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of yellingon his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the product.His excusefor not doing it the first time was, "Mom, I'm just really lazy"!I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if this keepsup. ARGH!!How can I get our son to be less "lazy"?Thanks

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Hi my name is denise i can relate to this is there room looks like a cyclone hit itFrom: Baer <amandabaer76@...>Subject: Re: ( ) What is up with the "laziness"? Date: Thursday, September 16, 2010, 3:22 PM

well, one of the 'signs' of aspergers' is that they are often confused as being lazy... but your son (as for mine!) seems to be pushing the issue a bit!!!!!!! Mine is a total slob and it takes him 3 hours or more a night to do probably 30 minutes worth of homework. BaerPresidentThe Asperger Child Incwww.TheAspergerChild.org

From: "dweeny123@..." <dweeny123@...> Sent: Thu, September 16, 2010 12:06:47 AMSubject: ( ) What is up with the "laziness"?

Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small, private)and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do hishomework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that hecan get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of yellingon his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the product.His excusefor not doing it the first time was, "Mom, I'm just really lazy"!I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if this keepsup. ARGH!!How can I get our son to be less "lazy"?Thanks

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i wish i knew the answer to that one my jason is 14 From: dweeny123@... <dweeny123@...>Subject: ( ) What is up with the "laziness"? Date: Thursday, September 16, 2010, 4:06 AM

Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small, private)

and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do his

homework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that he

can get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of yelling

on his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the product.

His excusefor not doing it the first time was, "Mom, I'm just really lazy"!

I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if this keeps

up. ARGH!!

How can I get our son to be less "lazy"?

Thanks

[Guest guest]

You should try to set up a positive behavior system - where you reward him for doing it right. When he doesn't, just have him redo it but without any rewards. You could also have him earn his facebook time. If he does his work right, he can immediately go play. If he doesn't, when you check it over, he has to sit and redo and that takes time off his facebook. If you make it a natural consequence and not a "You better do this or else..." thing, he will hopefully do it right the first time.

Really, rushing through to get to something we like to do better is not unusual. <g> Very human.

Roxanna

"I

predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) What is up with the "laziness"?

Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small, private)

and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do his

homework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that he

can get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of yelling

on his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the product.

His excusefor not doing it the first time was, "Mom, I'm just really lazy"!

I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if this keeps

up. ARGH!!

How can I get our son to be less "lazy"?

Thanks

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I'm reading a book right now called " That Crumpled Paper Was Due Last Week:

Helpling Disorganized and Distracted Boys Succeed in School and Life " by Ana

Homayoun. The writer coaches kids on topics like organization and study skills

so she's had real life experience. It's a new book and I found some great tips

that help kids like ours (there's even a section on it). Often kids higher on

the spectrum are bright enough to do the work but have poor exectutive

functioning skills which leads to avoiding home work (computer/video games,etc),

agonizing over it, or even losing the work (either before or after it's done).

I thought someone else might benefit from reading it considering the topic.

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> Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small,

private)

> and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do his

> homework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that he

> can get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of yelling

> on his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the

product.

> His excusefor not doing it the first time was, " Mom, I'm just really lazy " !

> I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if

this keeps

> up. ARGH!!

> How can I get our son to be less " lazy " ?

> Thanks

>

>

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I'm going to look for that book, sounds like something we could definitely use!Thanks,SuzanneSent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: "scrappyksr" <scrappyksr@...>Sender: Date: Wed, 13 Oct 2010 01:04:06 -0000< >Reply Subject: ( ) Re: What is up with the "laziness"? I'm reading a book right now called " That Crumpled Paper Was Due Last Week: Helpling Disorganized and Distracted Boys Succeed in School and Life " by Ana Homayoun. The writer coaches kids on topics like organization and study skills so she's had real life experience. It's a new book and I found some great tips that help kids like ours (there's even a section on it). Often kids higher on the spectrum are bright enough to do the work but have poor exectutive functioning skills which leads to avoiding home work (computer/video games,etc), agonizing over it, or even losing the work (either before or after it's done). I thought someone else might benefit from reading it considering the topic.>> Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small, private)> and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do his> homework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that he> can get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of yelling> on his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the product.> His excusefor not doing it the first time was, " Mom, I'm just really lazy " !> I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if this keeps> up. ARGH!!> How can I get our son to be less " lazy " ?> Thanks> >

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Wow! I am so glad to hear there are other people that deal with this. I just

joined the group and am really glad I did! My son will, literally, hide his

homework so he won't have to do it, but I follow up daily with the assignments

online. There are times he has had his homework done and just didn't turn it

in. He is in 7th grade, and school is a very stressful time for me, as much as

it is for him.

Also, regarding the messy room issue, I try to have him clean his room once a

week, and it may stay clean for about 15 minutes tops! I won't even go into the

organization thing, as I have tried continually.

I am taking all the advice in that everyone is putting up, keep it coming.

Connie

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> Subject: ( ) What is up with the " laziness " ?

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> Date: Wednesday, September 15, 2010, 9:06 PM

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> Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small,

private)

> and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do his

> homework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that he

> can get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of yelling

> on his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the

product.

> His excusefor not doing it the first time was, " Mom, I'm just really lazy " !

> I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if

this keeps

> up. ARGH!!

> How can I get our son to be less " lazy " ?

> Thanks

>

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Thanks for the information on the book, I checked Amazon right away to get it.

That is exactly what I need and there are more good reviews about it on Amazon

also.

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> > Our 9th grader AS, who is very bright just started high school (small,

private)

> > and I'm already exhausted from nagging him and basically bribing him to do

his

> > homework carefully and thoroughly. He pretty much rushes through it so that

he

> > can get on Facebook with friends! When I sit him down (after a lots of

yelling

> > on his part) he was very thoughtful in his work and felt good about the

product.

> > His excusefor not doing it the first time was, " Mom, I'm just really lazy " !

> > I'm not going to make it through this school year with my sanity intact if

this keeps

> > up. ARGH!!

> > How can I get our son to be less " lazy " ?

> > Thanks

> >

> >

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