Just help or any advice for morning transition~

November 4, 2010

Hello,

I have posted on here before and loved the help and support I have gotten,

and I watch the boards regularly I was in hopes someone else would maybe post

with the same issue~ My Aspie son Ashton is 7 and in 1st grade I cannot seem to

figure out his mornings they are sooooo tough and quite honestly exhaust me to

the maximum.

Most of the boys (my other 5) get up at 6:30 (bus comes at 7:30) Ashton I have

to literally wait until 7:10 or 7:15 as he HATES school and NEVER wants to go

(that is a whole nother post about the laziness of our school and the fight for

an IEP we are still battling)He will usually start with " I dont want to go to

school " and I tell him it is not a choice (last year he missed 43 days of school

because of fighting to go and also the school calling me to come get him (will

get to that later) Finally he gets up I can get him dressed and pep talk him

about what a great day he is going to have his mood lightens a bit. THEN after

he gets his shoes on and takes his pill (which can be a fight as well he will

run from me and hold his hands over his mouth) If he decides to eat he will eat

very very slow then as I am getting other kids ready to get out the door to the

bus....

He escapes on me and takes his shoes off and goes and hides Thus the battle

begins...I am rushed to get his shoes back on all while he is fighting me and

telling me he is not going to school. If I push him and get angry with him he

shuts down and gets very angry and mad and things escalate so I try to stay

calm...Get him out the door with his brothers and some days he runs off or hides

to miss the bus. I have often walked him to the bus however this creates

outbursts and crying and is even an uglier situation!

If he misses the bus and I take him he will not get out of the truck AUGH!!!!

We have tried sooo many things...ie..If you go to school you can have 10 minutes

on the computer etc...it works for a short time then he finally decides he knows

at one point he is not going to be good and is going to be bad so why bother

trying for it so when I tell him " if you go to school mom will make whatever you

would like for dinner tonight your choice " he will in return say " No I am not

going to be good " like he just gives up!!

My 5 year old is starting kindergarten and I am terrified that with my morning

routine and just all of the exhaustiion with ashton I wont be able to keep up!

PLEASE HELP!

Thank you so much!

(I will be posting a HUGE issue we are having with school and IEP as well as the

nonsense way they handle him at school as I have noticed alot of you with aspies

have trbl with school so it is not just me augh sooo frustrating though)

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