Re: I am new and am looking for ideas for my 15 year old son

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I would chcek out this site - http://www.yourlittleprofessor.com/schools_camps.html . They have many articles which might be of use including "I don't have Aspergers!" which is fairly common among our kids. 2nd there are some awesme books and videos that might be of use to him if you can get him to read or watch them - therin lies your problem I think.

I love this company for resources http://www.aapcpublishing.net/

love the book "a 5 is against the law"

last I would look at Asperger Youtube videos and documentaries- Teens are more into social media, so you may have to meet him on his turf

he might very well relate to wrongplanet.com more than what you have to say about it right now- it will take time for him to come to terms with it - if he is typical the more you push the more he will think you are wrong, so I would let it absorb slowly and let him know you are there if he has questions or wants to talk - i don't know you kid but that is probably what I woudl do if it were mine - mine found out around 4 1/2 andis now 8 1/2 years.

"There is actually a word for it. Anosognosia means denying that you have a medically diagnosed condition and not following doctors' orders. Children with Asperger Syndrome, diabetes, alcoholism and bi-polar disorder commonly react with anosognosia. Diabetic teens typically go through several hospitalizations and insulin crises before they accept the fact that they will have to spend the rest of their lives monitoring their blood sugars, injecting insulin and following a special diet. No one, especially teenagers, wants to accept the idea of a lifelong disorder that makes him or her different from peers. They often take three to five years to process a diagnosis such as diabetes or Asperger Syndrome.Anosognosia is an "aggressive" reaction to diagnosis, but children and teenagers can have other kinds of reactions classified as passive, negative, positive, internal, external or assertive. A passive reaction is "My doctors and

parents should take over my life because I have Asperger Syndrome."

From: Kendra <kyasger@...> Sent: Wed, March 30, 2011 10:10:58 AMSubject: ( ) I am new and am looking for ideas for my 15 year old son

My 15 year old son was recently diagnosed with Aspergers, which I believe we had a clue his whole life, I just took the initiative now to get him tested. High school was the key player in that. (he also has anxiety)So here are my problems that I am having: 1. He does not believe he has Aspergers.2. Somehow even with how negative and on sided he is he has been able to have friends and keep them all through school. But they are not really the FRIENDS you want him hanging out with.3. He got into a fight at the beginning of the year, has got caught smoking at school, and now he snuck some Vodka and snorted Adderall this past weekend and ended up in the hospital. I really do not believe he thinks he did anything wrong. Escpecailly with the Adderall because it is just a prescription, although he had to buy it from someone at school.4. He punches mirrors and walls down in his room and as even lit his carpet with a lighter and he says

it wont burn anyway so its ok.5. Life skill, he has none. When people say Hi to him he just grunts, or says do not talk to me. He is very rude!!! Even at church. He swears all the time and we ask and ask him to stop and he doesnt.6. We are Christian's but I cant put him in any youth groups because I am scared of what he will say and he is going through a very unchristian stage.What resources if any would you recommend to help me with any of these issues? I wanted to do like a JROTC program but there are not any in my area. I think that would be a undefensive way to teach him life skills. I just cant think of anything else.Thanks,Kendra

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<We are Christian's but I cant put him in any youth groups because I am scared of what he will say and he is going through a very unchristian stage.>>

I have had this problem. Our son 16 has problems at church with other youth his age. The best thing I did was to share Temple Grandin's new movie

with the youth pastor. He then had a young mens night where they had pop corn and movie night.

The other kids where able to see things in the movie like my son.

It has gotten better, even the older men in the church where able to understand things better and have been working with me on getting my

son more involved as well as helping have extra adults around when my son is involved.

Theresa StoopsCoordinator OfFlorida F.A.S.D. Interagency Action Group 850-408-3789 God Bless All Military Families We All Hope On Your Safe Return Home.

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my son was just baptized at age 8 so he can make his first communion and keeps telling me he does not believe in God because at his old school he would pray to God every day not to have a bad day and every day he had a bad day, so by his logic there is no God, and unfortunately he is irrefutable once he has made up his mind about something being a fact. We have tried to prove it the existence of God not depending on such things but he is adamant. He still goes to Sunday school, he says h hates it but once there he is smiling and laughing and he has learned a lot about the Catholic religion but it really braks my heart that he is so unable to have faith.

I really like that movie night idea about Temple Grandin movie. That is one of those things to store away for a future idea when my on gets older.

From: Theresa Stoops <houndlover2@...> Sent: Wed, March 30, 2011 7:23:00 PMSubject: Re: ( ) I am new and am looking for ideas for my 15 year old son

<We are Christian's but I cant put him in any youth groups because I am scared of what he will say and he is going through a very unchristian stage.>>

I have had this problem. Our son 16 has problems at church with other youth his age. The best thing I did was to share Temple Grandin's new movie

with the youth pastor. He then had a young mens night where they had pop corn and movie night.

The other kids where able to see things in the movie like my son.

It has gotten better, even the older men in the church where able to understand things better and have been working with me on getting my

son more involved as well as helping have extra adults around when my son is involved.

Theresa StoopsCoordinator OfFlorida F.A.S.D. Interagency Action Group 850-408-3789 God Bless All Military Families We All Hope On Your Safe Return Home.

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My son was awful at 15, but is really great at 19. At 15 he was cruel to his

little sister to the point where I worried about leaving them alone together in

the house for fear he might lose his temper and hurt her or maybe hurt himself.

He punched the walls and yelled. He grunted instead of talked. He refused to do

work in some of his classes and so was failing some classes. He refused to do

chores at home. He refused to get haircuts and wore his winter coat whenever he

left the house, even during the summer. He was physically attacked by another

student during a class at the beginning of the school year. Eventually he just

he refused to go to school anymore and barely left his room. I tried everything

I could think of to help.

Turns out that his anxiety levels were off the chart. He was being bullied at

school and was afraid for his life. He couldn't follow the social interactions

with his peers. He couldn't follow homework instructions if they weren't in

writing. He could not handle the noise and strong smells in the lunch room or

the school restrooms. We moved him to a new school with small classes where he

got the right services and got our funny, caring son back.

The first step for turning this around was getting an advocate to help us get an

IEP with the right services. She helped us get the school to do a more thorough

diagnosis. And she got the district to have him observed at school for a couple

of days. The report was a real eye opener for everyone. Our public school said

that they had no services for him. I found a Christian homeschooling group, but

they did not want to work with him. Then I found a private school that worked

with AS kids that said they would work with him. Then I got a lawyer to help

place him at the private school. We tried medication, but had to drop it after a

while. As soon as he was in a different school, the change in him was almost

immediate. He felt safe. He was calmer. He had real friends. He was smiling. By

his senior year he was a straight A student.

So my advice to you is to look for the things in his environment that are

triggering his negative behavior, especially at school.