Re: problems with classmates

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I would go immediately to the principal and report the bullying.  Most schools, at least in my state, have zero tolerance for bullies!Lindsey sen

http://5kidswdisabilities.wordpress.comOn Fri, Jan 29, 2010 at 1:52 PM, henningjennifer@... <henningjennifer@...> wrote:

 

Hello. I am new to this forum and was wondering if anyone had some advice. My dd is 8 yrs old and in 2nd grade. She hasnt been officially diagnosed with Asperger's yet, we are still waiting for the testing from school. My dd recently has been having alot of problems with her classmates bullying her. It has went from telling her she's annoying, putting soap in her hair in the bathroom, to completely ostracizing her. She is crushed. Any good advice on how to handle the situation without losing my cool? She is such a loving girl. I dont want her spirit completely broken or left feeling she is unworthy somehow. We live in a small town so friends are very hard to come by. Also, is there anyone from Indiana? Just curious.....

Thanks

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Good luck to you on advocating for your child. I hope that you have success. My son was being bullied at the beginning of the year. I went to the teacher who told me that this treatment was, "the natural consequences of being new." We moved in August. When this treatment continued I documented dates and times and what I witnesses and I went to the teacher again who refused to listen. The boy in question is a model student in the classroom. I went to the principal and she said she would investigate the matter. (Translation - wait and see and ignore!) I followed up and she said she never noticed anything unusual. I again continue to document the problem and email the principal everytime there was a problem. She said that unless more parents complained nothing would be done and that I need to

coach my child on how to advocate for himself. Huh? He is a grade oner with a huge social commication delay.

So since I knew this was a kid who behaved very well in class I knew he would not want authority figure to know how he was treating my son. So I told the boy that he did not have to be friends with my child but that I was letting the teacher and the principal know everytime something happened and it was being recorded by email. The treatment ended and at first the boy ignored my son and now they can play together in a group. Not sure if this sort of thing would work with girls or with older students but it seems to have worked for our situation right now.

From: Lindsey sen <5kidswdisabilities@...> Sent: Fri, January 29, 2010 9:33:54 PMSubject: Re: ( ) problems with classmates

I would go immediately to the principal and report the bullying. Most schools, at least in my state, have zero tolerance for bullies!

Lindsey sen

http://5kidswdisabi lities.wordpress .com

On Fri, Jan 29, 2010 at 1:52 PM, henningjennifer@ att.net <henningjennifer@ att.net> wrote:

Hello. I am new to this forum and was wondering if anyone had some advice. My dd is 8 yrs old and in 2nd grade. She hasnt been officially diagnosed with Asperger's yet, we are still waiting for the testing from school. My dd recently has been having alot of problems with her classmates bullying her. It has went from telling her she's annoying, putting soap in her hair in the bathroom, to completely ostracizing her. She is crushed. Any good advice on how to handle the situation without losing my cool? She is such a loving girl. I dont want her spirit completely broken or left feeling she is unworthy somehow. We live in a small town so friends are very hard to come by. Also, is there anyone from Indiana? Just curious.....Thanks

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Does the teacher see this? First call the teacher and talk with her. See if you can meet with her and explain what is going on. If that doesn't work, then call the principal. Bullying is not allowed and is so harming to the child. I hate hearing stories like that.

jan

From: Lindsey sen <5kidswdisabilities@...> Sent: Fri, January 29, 2010 11:33:54 PMSubject: Re: ( ) problems with classmates

I would go immediately to the principal and report the bullying. Most schools, at least in my state, have zero tolerance for bullies!

Lindsey sen

http://5kidswdisabilities.wordpress.com

On Fri, Jan 29, 2010 at 1:52 PM, henningjennifer@ att.net <henningjennifer@ att.net> wrote:

Hello. I am new to this forum and was wondering if anyone had some advice. My dd is 8 yrs old and in 2nd grade. She hasnt been officially diagnosed with Asperger's yet, we are still waiting for the testing from school. My dd recently has been having alot of problems with her classmates bullying her. It has went from telling her she's annoying, putting soap in her hair in the bathroom, to completely ostracizing her. She is crushed. Any good advice on how to handle the situation without losing my cool? She is such a loving girl. I dont want her spirit completely broken or left feeling she is unworthy somehow. We live in a small town so friends are very hard to come by. Also, is there anyone from Indiana? Just curious.....Thanks

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TO THE LADY WHO SAID HER DD IS BEING BULLIED IN A SMALL TOWN SCHOOL IN INDIANA, I AM FROM INDIANA AND ALSO LIVED IN A SMALL TOWN. jUST CURIOUS AS TO WHAT TOWN YOU LIVE IN. WE HAVE SINCE RELOCATED TO A BIGGER TOWN AND MY SON WHO IS 4 AND ASPERGERS. A.D.H.D., AND O.D.D. LOVES IT WAY BETTER THAN THE SMALL TOWN SCENE. hERE THEY HAVE A LOT MORE RESOURCES AS WELL FOR MY SON WHO NEEDS ALL THE HELP HE CAN GET. ANYWAY, I WOULD LOVE TO CHAT WITH YOU SOMETIME, SO IF YOUR INTERESTED, GET BACK AT ME ANYTIME. THANKS!

JAIVENS MOM

From: Lindsey sen <5kidswdisabilities@...> Sent: Fri, January 29, 2010 11:33:54 PMSubject: Re: ( ) problems with classmates

I would go immediately to the principal and report the bullying. Most schools, at least in my state, have zero tolerance for bullies!

Lindsey sen

http://5kidswdisabilities.wordpress.com

On Fri, Jan 29, 2010 at 1:52 PM, henningjennifer@ att.net <henningjennifer@ att.net> wrote:

Hello. I am new to this forum and was wondering if anyone had some advice. My dd is 8 yrs old and in 2nd grade. She hasnt been officially diagnosed with Asperger's yet, we are still waiting for the testing from school. My dd recently has been having alot of problems with her classmates bullying her. It has went from telling her she's annoying, putting soap in her hair in the bathroom, to completely ostracizing her. She is crushed. Any good advice on how to handle the situation without losing my cool? She is such a loving girl. I dont want her spirit completely broken or left feeling she is unworthy somehow. We live in a small town so friends are very hard to come by. Also, is there anyone from Indiana? Just curious.....Thanks

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KY here

Also, is there anyone from Indiana? Just curious.....

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The definition of bullying here in NH is also very interesting. It states that

treating someone in a way that might cause the victim to behave in a way that

would get them in trouble is considered bullying. So if someone calls my son a

name and he gets upset and yells or uses bad words or hits someone then the name

caller is a bully. It can be more subtle than this, however, so the definition

is important. Some things, like hitting, name-calling and putting soap in

another person's hair are very clearly bullying but some things may not seem

clear without this definition.

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> >Hello. I am new to this forum and was wondering if anyone had some advice. My

dd is 8 yrs old and in 2nd grade. She hasnt been officially diagnosed with

Asperger's yet, we are still waiting for the testing from school. My dd recently

has been having alot of problems with her classmates bullying her. It has went

from telling her she's annoying, putting soap in her hair in the bathroom, to

completely ostracizing her. She is crushed. Any good advice on how to handle the

situation without losing my cool? She is such a loving girl. I dont want her

spirit completely broken or left feeling she is unworthy somehow. We live in a

small town so friends are very hard to come by. Also, is there anyone from

Indiana? Just curious.....

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> >Thanks

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I live in North East or North Central Indiana. I moved here a year ago and dont know what it is considered to be! I live in Logansport Indiana!

From: <gina9431@...>Aspergers Treatment Sent: Mon, February 1, 2010 11:22:48 AMSubject: Re: ( ) problems with classmates

I am from north east Indiana.On Sun Jan 31st, 2010 6:19 PM EST kricketsmommy@ aol.com wrote:> >KY here>>Also, is there anyone from Indiana? Just curious.....>>>>

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I'm from the Fort Wayne area.....about an hour/hour and a half northeast of

Logansport.

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Hopefully, the school will finish up the testing and you can meet to discuss her educational needs. If that is not happening fairly soon, I would ask for a meeting with the teacher, principal and school counselor to discuss the situation. Don't let it go on, I agree!! They should have ideas for teaching tolerance and might have some special talks with the class as a whole. Also, they could get some help by pairing her up with a peer during free times like recess and lunch. They could also provide social skills help for her. And definitely let them know she is being bullied and will need adult supervision at all times. Putting soap in her hair is getting physical, which would make me feel afraid for her safety.

Roxanna

"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." E. Burke

( ) problems with classmates

Hello. I am new to this forum and was wondering if anyone had some advice. My dd is 8 yrs old and in 2nd grade. She hasnt been officially diagnosed with Asperger's yet, we are still waiting for the testing from school. My dd recently has been having alot of problems with her classmates bullying her. It has went from telling her she's annoying, putting soap in her hair in the bathroom, to completely ostracizing her. She is crushed. Any good advice on how to handle the situation without losing my cool? She is such a loving girl. I dont want her spirit completely broken or left feeling she is unworthy somehow. We live in a small town so friends are very hard to come by. Also, is there anyone from Indiana? Just curious.....

Thanks

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Roxanna said it all...make sure the teachers, counselors and principals as well as school monitors (if there are any) are aware of the situation...it has to be stopped!!! It has gotten way out of hand...putting soap in her hair in the bathroom is way too cruel. As Roxanna said..maybe she could be paired with another student...if not ...then things must be changed. More monitoring of the situation needs to take place...and consequences for bullying must occur..these girls need to learn that they can not treat others like that!!! I HATE hearing stories like that...and if need be...you daughter needs a paraprofessional to be with her.

Jan

Bullying is NOT TO BE TOLERATED!!!!!!! And, make sure the school know this..that you will not put up with it!!!!

BE STRONG!

From: Roxanna <MadIdeas@...> Sent: Sun, February 28, 2010 9:36:44 AMSubject: Re: ( ) problems with classmates

Hopefully, the school will finish up the testing and you can meet to discuss her educational needs. If that is not happening fairly soon, I would ask for a meeting with the teacher, principal and school counselor to discuss the situation. Don't let it go on, I agree!! They should have ideas for teaching tolerance and might have some special talks with the class as a whole. Also, they could get some help by pairing her up with a peer during free times like recess and lunch. They could also provide social skills help for her. And definitely let them know she is being bullied and will need adult supervision at all times. Putting soap in her hair is getting physical, which would make me feel afraid for her safety.

Roxanna"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." E. Burke

( ) problems with classmates

Hello. I am new to this forum and was wondering if anyone had some advice. My dd is 8 yrs old and in 2nd grade. She hasnt been officially diagnosed with Asperger's yet, we are still waiting for the testing from school. My dd recently has been having alot of problems with her classmates bullying her. It has went from telling her she's annoying, putting soap in her hair in the bathroom, to completely ostracizing her. She is crushed. Any good advice on how to handle the situation without losing my cool? She is such a loving girl. I dont want her spirit completely broken or left feeling she is unworthy somehow. We live in a small town so friends are very hard to come by. Also, is there anyone from Indiana? Just curious.....Thanks

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I do not have a lot of advice on the bullying......unfortunately, I am having this issue with my 8 year old son. I have talked to the teacher, but most times she doesn't see it happening. She says she will not tolerate it and has talked to the whole class (she says it's happening with more than just him). They have a zero tolerance policy, but I really do not see what that does for him. Also, he tends to be an instigator (always being right, being bossy, etc.), so I've been working with him on how he deals with things. We've been reading social stories about bullying, so we will see what we can do with his attitude. If I could just get him to leave the kids alone in the first place!!!!

We do live in Indiana though, just outside of Fort Wayne..........

From: rushen janice <jrushen@...>Subject: Re: ( ) problems with classmates Date: Sunday, February 28, 2010, 10:29 AM

Roxanna said it all...make sure the teachers, counselors and principals as well as school monitors (if there are any) are aware of the situation... it has to be stopped!!! It has gotten way out of hand...putting soap in her hair in the bathroom is way too cruel. As Roxanna said..maybe she could be paired with another student...if not ...then things must be changed. More monitoring of the situation needs to take place...and consequences for bullying must occur..these girls need to learn that they can not treat others like that!!! I HATE hearing stories like that...and if need be...you daughter needs a paraprofessional to be with her.

Jan

Bullying is NOT TO BE TOLERATED!!! !!!! And, make sure the school know this..that you will not put up with it!!!!

BE STRONG!

From: Roxanna <MadIdeasaol (DOT) com> Sent: Sun, February 28, 2010 9:36:44 AMSubject: Re: ( ) problems with classmates

Hopefully, the school will finish up the testing and you can meet to discuss her educational needs. If that is not happening fairly soon, I would ask for a meeting with the teacher, principal and school counselor to discuss the situation. Don't let it go on, I agree!! They should have ideas for teaching tolerance and might have some special talks with the class as a whole. Also, they could get some help by pairing her up with a peer during free times like recess and lunch. They could also provide social skills help for her. And definitely let them know she is being bullied and will need adult supervision at all times. Putting soap in her hair is getting physical, which would make me feel afraid for her safety.

Roxanna"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." E. Burke

( ) problems with classmates

Hello. I am new to this forum and was wondering if anyone had some advice. My dd is 8 yrs old and in 2nd grade. She hasnt been officially diagnosed with Asperger's yet, we are still waiting for the testing from school. My dd recently has been having alot of problems with her classmates bullying her. It has went from telling her she's annoying, putting soap in her hair in the bathroom, to completely ostracizing her. She is crushed. Any good advice on how to handle the situation without losing my cool? She is such a loving girl. I dont want her spirit completely broken or left feeling she is unworthy somehow. We live in a small town so friends are very hard to come by. Also, is there anyone from Indiana? Just curious.....Thanks